Low sex-drive during pregnancy

[Jenny77]

I've been reading a lot of pregnancy books and it seems that most women have heightened sexual experiences and higher sex-drive while pregnant.  I am 19 weeks now and I still feel like I rarely want to have sex (just not in the mood). Before I was pregnant I felt like I had a good sex drive, I thought the low drive was just due to the morning sickness I had during my first trimester, but I'm no longer sick but still just don't have that urge like I used to. Has anyone else felt like this while pregnant or am I the only one? Any advice?

[Simmom2001]

I am 22 weeks and I have no desire to have sex. I am tired. I work full time nights as a nurse, we have two kids already 12 and 13, and then there is this house to take care of, top that off with being big as a house pregnant and who could blame me. I do realize my husband has needs and we have discussed my lack of interest which has nothing to do with him. So we have compromised--he still gets something 2 to 3 days a week but if I am sleeping he leaves me alone. I keep reading about thie "heightened sex drive in pregnancy" but it seems to have skipped over me.

[sillyyy]

I have read a lot about sex drive and pregnancy and I agree with you it does seem normal to loose your sex drive. The only advice I van really give cuz I wish I knew more myself but is to explain to ur husband it's just ur hormones n many ppl feel same way such as myself good luck n I'm sure itll be normal after baby.:) good luck again.

[sillyyy]

I am 8 weeks 2 days pregnant. I feel like I have lost my Sex drive completely. Idk what to do to get it back . Im not turned on ever and always sick to my stomach and miserable :( :( I feel bad for bf I know its not his fault . I just feel so bad ideas anyone ?

[mamabear7210]

this is my second pregnancy and i have completly lost my drive as well. Very different from my first pregnancy where i enjoyed sex alot! its been so bad this time around that its not just my husband suffering but i cant even get myself off! i let him do his thing about once every 3-5 wks but i feel bad that i cant get into it. it seems that this is all pretty normal but idk about the whole all by myself thing, maybe thats just me... any suggestions?

[TDKeller]

Im having all of the very same problems as most everyone here!!! This is our second child and EVERYTHING has been completely different from the first one!! I dont understand how my interest in sex can just vanish?? I have been getting very frusterated with myself because i feel like its my fault! I know its not but its still hard. Luckily my husband is an extremely understanding person and he would wait the rest of this pregnancy( Im 19 weeks) and longer if i really didnt want to. Right now I just let him do "his thing" i guess because i do feel bad that nothing he does entices me anymore, I just feel so horrible because he cant "turn me on" or evoke any sort of physical response from me!!  Im starting to question if its me or with the way Im feeling is this lack of sex drive making me lose my feelings for my husband???!!! Help!!

[sansann]

I'm about 16 weeks pregnant, and my sex drive is ZERO. I even dread being touched or kissed by my husband. I dread going to bed and waking up in the middle of the night by him trying to get some. I can't remember the lasat time I had an orgasm. And when I let him try, I'm so dry down there, even when he touches it or tries everything; right now, I feel like I could spend the rest of my life with no sex, and that will not bother me at all, but my poor husband is suffering. He told me he could not live without sex. Last night he tried and I kept pushing him away, he took it personnally, and got so mad this morning. I can see the lack of sex cannot help him focus. He let the faucet on in the bathroom and when I pointed it out to him, he didn't even care turning it off!!
I feel so bad for him. But at the same time, I would feel violated if I let him do his thing.
Cannot wait to have the baby so everything can be back to normal.