Mother inlaw...

[B1128]

Ruined my SURPRISE baby shower. My boyfriends stepdad came down for a week with his boss, for hunting. They staid here, and mainly used our house for sleeping, eating breakfast and to shower, every day. Hunted at a persons house we introduced him to last year for hunting, and we are no longer friends with this person because my boyfriend was working with him and he screwed us repeatedly and so we just have nothing to do with the guy. So they spent all their time over there and didn't spend time with my boyfriend at all as well as left our landlord on edge because he didn't know wtf or why they hadn't spoke to him at all when they were supposed to be hunting over here.

Well, we were talking to his mom and complaining, and so was she. My boyfriend mentioned that if he comes next year he can stay at the other guys because we just can't afford to house someone, and it was a total disappointment. Well, I opened my mouth about something we BOTH felt. -our electric bill being high because they left lights on constantly when they left, as well as came and left because they never staid other then to sleep. And she got all pissed at us and so my boyfriend said he was getting off the phone. This was Monday.

I have been mentioning we should call her and talk to her and so I did today. And she answers the phone being bitchy once she realizes it was us. I asked her how she was and rudely she says "fine!" And my boyfriend was trying to just talk to her, so I come out with "I am sorry we p!ssed you off the other day, we weren't trying too." And she's all "well I don't know what to say because I am still mad at you B! And I just can't believe you opened your mouth with some sh!t like that" and I said "me?! Why me? It is something we BOTH felt." And she says "you were the one talking sh!t" I said "oh. Okay!" And then she says "don't know if you talked with R, but she has testing Wednesday night and we won't be coming to your baby shower!" And I said "well seeing as how it was a surprise, I didn't know when it was but that is fine!"

THANK GOD SHE WONT FKN BE THERE! She's such a childish b!tch! Telling me I need to think about the sh!t that comes out of my mouth before I say anything and how I am disrespectful. Fkn excuse me?! Your son said everything else and I said something about our bill. God for bid.

[B1128]

My boyfriend said it is normal for her to act that way an to over react which she owe reacts often. I don't know how to handle a woman like her. My mother is the extreme opposite quiet and calm. She is able to talk about things and not lose her head, and his mother isn't calm by any means. Even when things are calm around her, she is not.

I love both her and his stepdad and up until this stupid situation we have always gotten along, neither of us meant any disrespect. How she took it was wrong, and she jumped all over my hide for it as if I was really really just b!tching about it or something. It was mentioned, that's all. It wasn't a big huge thing until she made it into a big huge massive blown out issue.

[B1128]

Our landlord is very peticuler on who hunts on his property. And he met my boyfriends stepdad last year when we mentioned to the other guy that his stepdad would bring him fish from Florida to hunt an for his stay. So this year we are on our landlords property and he is allowing my boyfriend to hunt And my boyfriend mentioned his stepdad, they all worked out that he could hunt here in return for fish and yadda yadda.

But instead of hunting and hanging out with us and our landlord he went and hung out with the other guy and went hunting over there.

Yes, that is basically how it was brought up. Just worded differently because my boyfriend was complaining to his mom and she didn't hear him so I repeated it. And I should of just kept my mouth shut.

[B1128]

I suppose you are right. But it would not of been an issue if his stepdad had spent time with him like it was intended but he didn't and he staid at someone else's house when my boyfriend invited him to go hunting with him and not someone else. We didn't invite him just to stay with us, we offered to give them a place to stay so that he could see his stepdad and go hunting with him on our property. Because they don't live where we do. But that didn't happen. Instead they used our house and we saw nothing in return for it, didn't even see or spend time with him which is what he had hoped for by inviting him to come hunt here with him.

Usually you see something in return when your home is opened up to someone and a stranger, especially when they know things aren't going so easily for you as it is for them. But if I'm the one in the wrong then so be it, but for her to freak out on me the way she did was uncalled for. All we wanted to do was talk about it, atleast that was my intention and she started yelling at me. Besides, my boyfriend is the one who said it and she didn't hear him so I repeated it. What should of happened is I should of let him say it, because then I wouldn't of been the one getting jumped all over. Things are different when your child says it then when his girlfriend does. I meant no disrespect, but there was nothing that came out of it for us besides the high electric bill we will be getting and having to pay for.

[RockRose]

I'm trying to picture how this would go so badly,  and what the deal is with your landlord.  Does your landlord not allow family overnight visitors?

So they left,  your BF called his mom and said yes they were here for the week and we're kind of disappointed because we thought we'd get to spend more time together.  Yes,  they did sleep here and we saw them at breakfast but really hoped for more time together.  Then you get on and say oh yes they were here and wow who knew the electric bill would go up so much from just two extra showers a day and a couple house guests.  

Was it different than that?  Just trying to picture it.

[AnnieBrooke]

Don't have anyone stay with you if later you intend to complain about the electric bill, that will solve the problem.  Don't complain, suck it up and handle things graciously, that is what grownups do.  Don't pass this behavior on to the next generation, two generations of childishness and bitchiness and complaining is enough.