No I think we all deserve support. I'm pregnant with number 6 and my husband has his own company (5 yrs now) Sounds great right, nope limited time off because if he doesn't work we don't have jobs for his crews. And then it effects everyone. I've only had him around with our first when he was in school, 16 yrs ago. It's hard but I learned to ask for help at night as soon as he got home and on weekends. Yes we would both be extremely tired and drained. But we got through it. I get really jealous of friends who's husbands are able to take any time off after a baby. I wish you the best in a week and you'll be able to do this hard task. Now would be a good time if you any family or close friends that are able to help, ask them. This is where it takes a village to raise a family.
When someone owns his own company, he cannot predict when the work is going to come in, and especially, he has to take the work when it comes, if he wants future work to continue to come in. You probably sound to him like you think the work will always come rolling in without a lot of effort on his part and he can just step aside for a while, and he probably feels you don't understand that the business could come crashing down entirely if he is not amenable to his customers. You really didn't have a right to make him promise to be there for two weeks when the baby came (and I assume you knew in your heart that he really couldn't be sure of making such a promise), and he was stupid to make such a promise. He should have just told you "I will if I can, but I can't predict the work flow." I'll bet that he didn't because he was indulging in wishful thinking that he could make it happen.
Call your mom, call your sister, call your aunt. Get the help, don't push your husband to be your one and only support. He is already probably feeling pulled in a million directions by his work demands and the cost of feeding four kids and putting them through college.
I just wanted to say that you gave great answers AnnieBrooke. You always do.
My husband started his own business when our one and only was around 2 years old. His other job before this offered over time and my husband always took it because we were very young parents with a baby to take care of. My daughter and I missed him but I never tried to make him feel bad for wanting to take care of us. The hours became much longer when he started his own business. My daughter and I took what we could get as far as time with him.
I know I'm talking about one child and not three to six. I can't imagine how hard that would be. But, all of us make the decision to have our children. If it's hard with two you have to know it's going to be even harder with three.
Do lean on family and friends to help out. If someone can just come over for an hour so you can get in a shower it really helps.
Be happy and proud that your husband works so hard to take care of his family. It's a bummer that he can't take 2 fulls weeks off but that's not uncommon when you have your own business.
Blessings to you and your new little one.