What to do...

[Alicia1979]

I'm 35, my ex and I were together for 3 years,  living together for a year.  He is eight years younger than me and has a great career and a good provider,  but has alot of emotional issues. As well as control issues. We split ways in October when he told me to leave,  wanted a sports car instead of a child. Then we reconciled in December when he was down to see family,  but fight was on new years and I told him off- badly. When we reconciled he admitted his mistakes... That he wanted a family and that he didn't want the car. So I think I've got a bladder infection,  so I go to the doctor yesterday... And I got a bfp. I'm just so in shock and emotional. I'm sure that this child would be loved,  and am still not sure if I would want the relationship back.  I have alot of family support,  I just feel very Alone as I have not told family yet I'm just really thinking abortion isn't the answer regardless of the circumstances,  maybe he will grow up and get some mental help and we could raise this child together.

[jeffreyswife]

Hey girl. Only you know the correct answer. Don't let outside influences affect your decision. Having fights and relationship problems daily are so hard to deal with. Just remember that you will be stuck with this man for the rest of your life having a child with him. That said, marriage is sacred and forever and god never make mistakes and gives you something that isn't planned for you. Whatever you decide you will be fine. Good luck!

[AnnieBrooke]

You could tell it to him like that, that if he wants to be a good dad he needs to deal with his emotional issues, or you aren't going to be the world's friendliest mama.