His last name or mine?

[missjune36]

I'm 5 mths pregnant and the father has been missing since I was 4 weeks pregnant! Prior to him leaving we had THE BEST friendship! I've seen him in passing but he has yet to speak to me. We did not have a issue prior to him not speaking to me for the last 4 months so my question is should I give this child his last name or not I feel that I should it's only right when it comes to the baby. some of my family members believe that I shouldn't because they feel that he hasn't been around and others feel if he comes around than I should consider it.... I need advice what do you think?

[shenialvrtt9]

Hellllll no girl ,use ya own,show his *** u dnt need his butt to be there and that u can make decisions yaself as a mother....trust me i kno wat u goin through...went through dat wit my duaghters father and dat ***** still aint *** back .....so i say starting filing for ya own child ,since he starting to act like a nutt,....now its about ya child its not even about hym,u gotta do wat u feel is right,....look at it like ya name is just as much as precious to hym then his own name.....lol just being honest

[showty]

Give the child your last name if you're not together. I have 2 girls with the same man. One had his last name, the other mine. Long story short, we got divorced then had baby #2.
You mentioned he's affiliated with the military? Go to your nearest military installation n talk with legal or a jag officer. They will be able to help you with getting child support. If you have questions regarding military, you may send me a message.

[AnnieBrooke]

I am seeing this in a school where I volunteer.  A kid is named the last name of a man that by now has been out of his life for a long time.  The woman does not have the money to file for a legal name change.  Yet she is the sole parent.  She is frustrated that the school won't just call the kid by her last name at roll call, and in his records, but they can't, because his legal name is his (deadbeat) dad's.  I feel for the mother, she has done all the work all these years, and has to deal with people thinking he is not her child.

[chloegc1023]

Coming from someone who's been in ur position, do NOT give ur baby which U will more than likely get full credit of raising and teaching baby everything he/she knows the father who has been MIAs last name.  I made that mistake and I wholeheartedly REGRET it!!  Sure I can change my son's last name, but it's costs $$$ just to file a petition for it which right now I can't afford.  I've already discussed changing my son's last name and he is well aware that one day he will no longer carry his biological fathers last name and he's okay with that. It's best to give UR baby UR name!!!  TRUST me!!!  You won't regret it cuz u'll always be there for ur kid, not like the deadbeat sperm donor who wants nothing to do with baby..  

[Sass508]

I absolutely think you should give the baby your last name. You will always be in your child's life, and for the father.. who knows.

If you have regrets about your choice, it's difficult, confusing to the kid, and expensive to change it.

If the child has the last name of someone who is absent, they may feel funny about it. Who knows but I vote for your last name. Best of luck

[ButterflyKisses23]

It is not a man's right to have their children named after him. Making a baby takes two. It should be equal. If he doesn't take part in the pregnancy, then I would give the baby your name. If he comes around and pays child support, then maybe think about it then. But, it seems as though you will be the sole caretaker for your baby for at least the beginning.