Jealous/angry about everyone drinking & smoking =/

[maryahmedina]

Anyone else feel frustrated staying sober for so long?! I'm 34 weeks and everyone around me drinks and smokes weed (which is legal here in CO) I'm just feeling so angry that the fathers always get to do what they want, but the mothers have be responsible...if they're a good mom anyway. 9 months wouldn't be so bad, but I plan on breast feeding so I probably won't have any fun for a long time ); does anyone else feel this way, or am I just a bad person?

[loveYou4Ever11]

I feel you! Lol im not much of a drinker but i love me some marijuana. I quit once i found out i was pregnant. 33Weeks clean and acouple more weeks to go;)

[AnnieBrooke]

I didn't miss the things I gave up, with the exception of Dr. Pepper.  lol

[tink0428]

Lol your not a bad person i can't wait to smoke again but unfortunately motherhood is full of unfair things but it's all so worth it i also plan on breastfeeding but after a month I think I might have my fun one night then pump and dump until my milk is clean again

[ml_marlo3]

I get you and I'm
I'm in the same boat is as mothers to b got to do the right thing n not drink and smoke when the dame dads get to it ***** but we're doing it for the well being of our bby, n I hope after the whole breastfeeding time we will enjoy our self again. Trust me I'm super stressed out n sad n need to smoke my slf!

[llodibingrl]

You're not a bad person. Im right there with ya!

[organicmama]

Its kind of crappy that your husband would continue doing those things after you two became pregnant. My husband and I both drank before we got pregnant, but when I stopped, he stopped too. Both to be supportive and also because well, its no fun to drink when the people around you aren't drinking too. Try taking up other hobbies and finding friends who don't drink or smoke, maybe that will help some?  There are a zillion other things to do! Good luck! Kicking habits is tough.

[danahenley]

Lol yes I cannot wait to go out and have some drinks especially because I was pregnant on my 21st

[Tavi12]

I don't miss it I didn't smoke but I drank occasionally I even gave up all caffeine drinks my hubby gave up drinking for my pregnancy he felt if I couldn't he wouldn't and he said if I ever needed anything he always wanted to make sure he was sober

[bentsmommy14]

I'm totally with you!! Tomorrow we are having out annual friendsgiving all of our friends will be smoking and drinking and I will be lame:(

[JamieNVance]

Ugh yes my hubby still smokes regularly and it *****. I miss smoking but like you I plan to breast feed so I could have another 6 months after baby being super sober. Blah. I dont drink but I used marijuanna for my IBS and anxiety. Thankfully being pregnant has blocked out my mental issues some how. Just stay strong mama!

[springblessings2014]

This is the last thing you got worried about it  .  Respect your body and your baby on the way  ! If you really care .. be the typeof woman who actually is getting prepared to have a child  with pride joy and honor  .take care of your baby and ignore  negative  addiction that can easily affect your life in the future! ! . Happy thanksgiving.  God bless you be good and be grateful

[ulriika]

I actually dont miss drinking at all. I used to drink occasionally but now just thr thought of alcohol seems disgusting to me. After the baby is born the only thing i will drink once in a while is a glass of wine. I was also a party smoker (tobacco) but dont miss that at all to be honest. Im planning on keeping up my healthy lifestyle after the baby is born, i want him or her to be able to live in a safe environment.

[specialmom]

Ya know, I had a buzz one time after I had my first son and realized that I was responsible for another life.  He depended on me.  I haven't been buzzed again and it's been years.  I don't miss it because my joy or 'buzz' is my kiddos.  They need me to be present and completely 'there' so having a buzz seems not in the best interest of motherhood.


So, motherhood may change you.  then you'll start to look at your boyfriend who's smoking and drinking and be like 'what the heck dude". good luck

[number3andme]

I feel ya don't miss drinking but my sister lives with me and still smokes she is in an other room with the door shut but I still smell it it's hard but I just have to deal I'm going through a custody battle with my ex so don't know when I will be able to smoke again I'm going to try to get a medical marijuana card tho because I have bpd and bi polar and was on 6 different med that didn't help as much as weed but I don't want my kids to see me smoke so I want thc pills or edibles

[tat87]

Special mom, that's why we wait until they go to sleep to party :) first thing I'm doing is drinking a whiskey sour. Pump and dump. Lol.

[peaches0329]

Smh..........

[ericatoday]

My bf doesn't drink or smoke while I was pregnant and not while I breastfeed out of respect for me. I'm not a smoker or really a drinker we only drink maybe 4 times a year but he still asks when he wants to and he doesn't care if I say no. But I don't think its a bigdeal. I don't even feel like it anymore I'm 2 months pp and its the last thing on my mind.

[jadeb89]

I would kill for a bong :-p and a wine specially ATM its Soooo hot in Australia lol wine would go down amazing I smoked everyday a lil 2 much before I found out I was pregnant then quit cold turkey its killing me hahaha :-( I get pisst off at my partner for smoking lol

[NCazier]

I thought I'd miss partying a lot more than I do. I'd like to be able to have a beer every now and then, but I just think back on the hangovers and how nice it is now to wake up without feeling like death. Even when my boyfriend has a couple beers after work I don't get jealous anymore. I did the first few months though

[Bundle_number_2]

I definitely understand how you feel. I hate that i cant smoke my blunts anymore lol but once i found out i was pregnant i stopped cold turkey. Even cigarettes that ive been smoking since 13. Its hard but our fun will come again lol.

[AprilBabe26]

I'm so glad to see other girls going through this! Just talking about marijuana while pregnant is practically taboo & I hate it! Pot has been my crutch & helped me soooo much with my anxiety & depression, I'm thankful for having it while I did & definitely miss it now! To the nay-sayers:keep your opinions to yourself there are so many benefits & its absolutely ridiculous it was ever deemed illegal. It grows from the ground like a beautiful flower people! We all want whats best for our little blessings & await the day we can smoke again! :-) Thanks for the post & reassuring comments ladies, glad to see I'm not alone!

[Jenn28815]

I used to drink every night up until I found out I was pregnant. Now that I'm into my 3rd trimester I might have about 6oz of a beer once in a blue moon when im really craving it. I had a small glass of wine with dinner a couple nights ago. My fiance drinks daily still. There's days I wish I still could, but have to think about my little one, so I dont. Ive had about 2-3 servings of beer and the 1 glass of wine since I found out I was pregnant.

[Mommabanielle]

I never drank much, and I quit smoking when trying to get pregnant, but I crave a nice toke every night. Especially because I feel so sore carrying twins. I just want to be able to relax and get better sleep. Oh well, 18 weeks to go...and I'll bet I don't care to smoke once my babies are born.

[maryahmedina]

Thank you all for posting on here! I'm feeling so overwhelmed and angry at my boyfriend, but I agree with what most of you said and I know it's for my baby and no one else! I'll be strong for my baby boy, even if his daddy isn't. My baby needs me, and all I need is for him to be born healthy!  I guess I can wait until after breastfeeding to do what I want for my son to have a lifetime of health =) I'm so glad I'm not alone! Thank you everyone!