Sister in Law trying to get pregnant.

[shaelouisebubba1]

Hi, my fiances sister is only 15. I'm due in 50 days and she's been caught up in "baby fever" she's always wanting to come shopping with me and wants to do everything for baby once he's here.
Recently she's gotten a new boyfriend, he seems nice. Last night at dinner she revealed that she's not taking her birth control and she wants a baby of her own. She won't listen to her mum and she just calls me a hypocrite if I say anything. I'm 18 though. And engaged. I didn't even have sex for the first time until I was 17 (and fell pregnant-yay me!) When I was 15 sex was the last thing on my mind..
How do I help her see she's not ready for motherhood? I grew up practically raising my siblings and I know I'm ready now for my son. But I definitely wasn't when I found out I was pregnant.

[tastiizombii]

That's rough. I was fifteen when I had my first baby, but mine wasn't by choice...I was raped and couldn't give him up. Babies are hard work and my life has been a struggle. It wasn't happy rainbows and sunshine. It boggles my mind why someone would choose it.

[shaelouisebubba1]

We tried talking to them when they originally said they wanted a baby, his attitude towards it was they have 9 months before he'll have to get a job. They're both really in to sport, he has a chance at going pro for football if he stays in school but how is he suppose to do that now?
Her dad wants her to have an abortion (he wanted me to do the same thing) and honestly I think I agree with him. But that's not my choice to make.
Her nickname is princess - rightfully so. If she doesn't get what she wants she'll throw hissy fits and tantrums until her parents eventually give in and give her what she wants.

[jacobsmommy2015]

Why not try to talk some sense into the boyfriend? Tell him that couples should be married first when planning a pregnancy in the best case scenario. Also remind him thru haven't been together long and how it will impact the baby or their lives if the relationship doesn't last through the stress having a baby puts on a relationship. Babies are expensive! Neither of them work.

[ksalas1988]

They have babies that are life like that cry,  need changing,  and care that could teach her a lesson. In high school I took a parenting class because I had no more electives to take and let me tell you taking care of that life like baby all weekend was a handful!  Look into planned parent hood they may have classes for young ladies like her.  Also,  community programs.

[knufrio]

She needs to know right now that she won't be living with you then. It sounds like she looks up to you and wants your life. She needs to learn now that especially since she's having a baby, that she needs to make her own life, and not depend on anyone else. Family will be around to help, but it's not your job to support her anyway but emotionally.

[shaelouisebubba1]

Oh I feel for you! I have struggled with hypermesis gravidarum, preeclampsia and sciatica pain from an existing back injury also!
I just don't understand why she'd choose this right now, she's watched me suffer and not be able to get out of bed some days, sat by my side while I've been in hospital and my partner/her brother has had to stay at work. I've lost 90% of my friends, that alone has been hard. She's at such a crucial time in her life where she has a scholarship at a great school and was in the running for a professional netball contract - her life dream!
I know I'm not that much older than her but I have a lot more life experience and the whole thing makes me feel terrible for her. :(
She's asked for our support but I don't know how to give it to her.. she's assuming she can move in with us once our house is built but that's meant to be our home, just me my fiancé and our son.