Sister in Law trying to get pregnant.

[shaelouisebubba1]

Hi, my fiances sister is only 15. I'm due in 50 days and she's been caught up in "baby fever" she's always wanting to come shopping with me and wants to do everything for baby once he's here.
Recently she's gotten a new boyfriend, he seems nice. Last night at dinner she revealed that she's not taking her birth control and she wants a baby of her own. She won't listen to her mum and she just calls me a hypocrite if I say anything. I'm 18 though. And engaged. I didn't even have sex for the first time until I was 17 (and fell pregnant-yay me!) When I was 15 sex was the last thing on my mind..
How do I help her see she's not ready for motherhood? I grew up practically raising my siblings and I know I'm ready now for my son. But I definitely wasn't when I found out I was pregnant.

[MissJessGolden]

Tell her if she waits until baby is born she can help with baby sitting. My family knew I wanted a baby from a young age and always though I would have one young. They were surprised that I waited til now. I got pregnant right before my 19th bday. Like you I pretty much raised my brother and two if my cousins and babysat all the time.  Let her know she can help out with the baby and she should wait to try until she has experience with a baby first. I would even allow her to be around when baby is a few weeks old so she gets a feel of the sleepless nights and allow her to help with late night diaper changes and feeds (if you're not breast feeding)

[shaelouisebubba1]

I'm hoping that when I have my son it does shock her out of this false reality she has in her head. Motherhood is not easy at any age, but why make it so much harder by choosing to have a baby at 15?

[jamie_michael]

the only thing you can do is get her involved in something else to get her mind off it until the baby is born then have her in the room the entire time your in labor then make everything miserable for her with the baby and even though it seems mean it's better then having a pregnant 15-16 year old girl who shouldn't even be thinking of it and always keep her and her boyfriend with someone or in public!!! that's important my little sister is 13 on November and already wants to have a baby of her own just because I'm pregnant and j haven't even taken her shopping or anything because of it

[ginger1313jaycar13]

Maybe having her with you in the delivery room might scare her to see what child birth really is. I'd also tell her to just wait until your baby comes so she can "practice" and see what having a baby is really like. If it were me under my supervision I'd make her care for my baby for a few days. Let her spend a couple weekends not being able to go out with her friends and staying up all night with a child. I bet she'll change her mind.

[millcreekmommy]

Yes, I would try to convince her to wait till yours is born. Make it sound exciting for her. After the baby is born she will see what a struggle it will really be. Babies are cute but ahuge responsibiliy... maybe that'll wake her up and she'll realize she isn't ready. :)

[shaelouisebubba1]

Neither her or her boyfriend work. My fiance has a full time apprenticeship, I had a part time job while studying for my degree (I had to stop working at 26 weeks from doctors orders).