doctors appointment rant

[Babyg92]

I'm living with my mom still and my brother uses her car and he was suppose to take me tomorrow at 8am for my obgyn appointment. but he uses my moms car all the time to drive his friends around that the battery went out so now i have no ride. my babys daddy is mad at me because i can't make it when i asked him to take me and his like no i have test tomorrow (he goes to college) you wanted this baby and figure out a way to take care of it. wtf. he wanted it to now he doesn't. I'm so pissed! i need another job to get another car because mine was old and stopped working. my babys daddy treats me with some much disrespect and so does my family. my mom says I'm taking things to personal and I'm a cry baby. but she bends over backwards for my brother. its so frustrating that she wants to be in the babys life but she treats me like ****. they all do and i give them money all the time for gas and food in the house. and some rent and internet bill. I'm so pissed my appointment is tomorrow and its important and no one will help me.

[AnnieBrooke]

I guess it's too late to say, but I would take a cab in this situation, and then begin getting my plans together to move out, and to hit the baby daddy with child support papers the day the baby is born.  If nobody is taking care of you, you have to take care of yourself.  This is especially true because soon you will be taking care of someone else.  Gotta stand on your own two feet before that happens.

[RockRose]

Baby,  I'm so sad that you're in this situation.

The thing is,  your baby's daddy is in college and he can't miss tests for a routine early pregnancy visit.  I don't know why he wanted this baby in the first place, he's not in a position to help you out.  He's a college student and missing a test for a routine check up is not acceptable.  

At this point I think you might want to consider adoption.  Or at the very least,  understand that your baby's father has too much to do to attend routing non-emergency doctor's appointments.

My heart goes out to you.  But neither of you are in the place to parent at this point,  and I'm not quite sure why you both made that decision to get pregnant.  

[proudFTMTeTe]

Okay don't know y adoption is being suggested u clearly want ur baby n just going thru a lil hard time but remember there is going to b some hard times it won't always b easy wat kind of insurance do u have they don't offer free cab rides to dct apt if not catch a cabu can't always
always rely on others specially if it isn't important to them u have to start learning how to count n rely on yourself the only way sometimes to get stuff done is relyin on u I had to learn that hope this helps Hun

[tamvalentine]

You couldnt be more wrong! I was 17 when i had my son and his father was studying full time. 2 years later still going strong with no problems, dont judge a situation unless you personally know the details. How rude of you to suggest adoption as if its the only option. Stay strong hun you will figure something out.

[RockRose]

Tam,  adoption isn't a "rude" option.  If you are in a different situation where your partner didn't say "you wanted this baby figure out a way to take care of it"  that's a different situation.

[RockRose]

Baby,  I hope you can read through this thread and see each individual post.  

Prayers for you,  this is very very hard,  and I know you are disappointed that your baby's father can't be there as you hoped and thought he would.

God blessings for you and your baby.

[Angel760]

Im sorry hun): its guna be hard but i agree just stay focused on u and ur little one and get out of that situation. I know its hard but u can do it! And dont let other peoples negative opinions influence or affect u. Me and my baby daddy arent exactly in the best financial spot but we created this baby and are guna love her and give her our all. God doesnt give u more than ucan handle. (: i know theres pregnancy hot lines u can call and some give free bus tickets for u to get to ur appointments and stuff. I knw the bus isnt the best but for now it will help u get by. Hope it gets better for u!

[RockRose]

I'm out of this thread because I'm not trying to cause a lot of pain and disruption.  

Before anyone decides God doesn't give anyone more than they can handle,  look at suicide rates,  murder rates and people in prison for life.

Prayers for you,  Baby,  and I think you seem very smart.  Look at all your options.  You have the wisdom to figure out the right path for yourself and your baby.

[RockRose]

I would have certainly considered adoption if I were in her situation.  Adoption is one of the most courageous acts I've ever seen - and I have friends who have both relinquished their babies, and friends who have been incredibly blessed by the gift of a baby from a birth mom.

It's a gift.  

[RockRose]

Okay,  honestly,  at this point I need to bow out of this thread.  I'm not trying to cause pain.

In my world,  giving a baby up for adoption is an incredibly brave thing to do,  and it's a true gift to a family who is praying for a baby.  It's one of the hardest things you can ever do in your life.  It's not the "easy" way out,  it's the hardest way out.

Those who relinquish their babies are to be respected and revered.  I'm not quite sure how it has seemed to be a shameful way to go.

Anyway,  Baby,  best wishes in your journey.

[proudFTMTeTe]

God blessed her with this beautiful blessing n u embrace it mama there is nothing more beautiful in the world then creating something so precious n beautiful this is a small obstacle n there will b plenty more but in the end ur lil bundle of joy is all worth it prayers to u n ur lil bundle congrats to all the mommys :)

[Nellyzz]

id want my mother to fight tooth and nail for me not give me up when things get hard. @babyg hang in there hunni theres a bright light at the end of the tunnel your beautiful bundle of joy :)

[Claire_MHModerator]

Hi, folks,

I've removed a number of posts from this thread.  Please remember that all suggestions are welcome, as long as they're respectfully submitted, and that it's off-topic and off-base to insult anyone for any reason.  The OP is here for support and suggestions --  not an argument about other members.  Thanks!

Claire