If they are throwing the baby shower, it's their party for U in Ur honor. I've thrown 3 showers, it was my idea to throw them so I did it all including sending invitations. Some other friends helped w food & decorations etc. but NOT the mom 2 be. so who ever says they want to throw it should do it for U. That's sort of the point. If they insist you get a place, do favors, decorations etc.. Then Ur spending Ur $ that is needed for Ur baby/life. So I would tell them "no" u can't afford to throw it for yourself (get a place/decor/cake/etc). FYI baby showers are fun it's a celebration but U rarely get the big baby items (car seat, crib, stroller etc) u usually get clothes & blankets).
To make it affordable they can throw it for at some1s home or a park, get decor @ the dollar store, make The cake. But really if their offering they should do that for U.
It gets lots of angry commentary on this site when I say this (because lots of women do it), but etiquette-wise, it is a no-no to throw your own shower. It's supposed to be done for you.
If they offered that means they are throwing the babyshower. It would be different if u asked they to help you plan the shower. I'm participating in the shower planning for my baby. My sister wanted to throw me a babyshower, but I didn't want her to spend the money plus i didn't want a suprise shower
That's what I was thinking. As long as I don't pay for anything I'll be ok.
I was a little angry already because I woke up mad lol and we are already struggling financially but we don't like telling our families that. But I wasn't mad at anyone, only bothered me because I feel anxious all the time and that's enough for me.