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I hate seen all these young 12 13 14 year olds pregnant they have so much more to go on to learn in life .. :( i wonder if its teachers not explaning sex education correctly to them or the parents at fault i see post where there is so many young girls i just think of my 12year old sister how smart she is and how she so out going .. life has taken a big up rising jump on teen pregnancy what has new generation become.. i say this because i became a teen Mother at 16 it was a struggle but ive made it this far know im turning 21.. :) my son is 3 i love him so much i know all the soon to be teen mommies love their children to may god bless all you and give ya strenght trough the struggle ..
I am in the same position as mizy_g and completely agree. My pregnancy is because me and my bf chose to have sex. My parents were very strict when I was growing up I didn't go many places other than school but I still ended up having sex at 14 never got pregnant until now though and this was because we didn't mind having a kid now. Its going to happen if the teens want it no matter what anyone tries to say or do to stop it.
I think the only two people who should be blamed are the two people having sex! My mom true to blame my sister for some weird reason bit at the end of the day it was me and my boyfriends fault. we knew what we were doing my parents did educate me and gave me birth control method that I decided not to use that night im also 18 and its ridiculous to blame the parent when they werent the ones opening their legs or inserting their penis. As well with my brother he was hands bags filled with condoms did HE decided to use them no and now he's paying the consequence with that beautiful child. some girls do have it different being raped. But everyone knows that unprotected six leads to pregnancy even if you don't have parents some one will let you know. You can never blame anyone for someone's else's action that plain abuser and my patents taught me common sense but people just refuse. Its no bodys fault other than your own and the guy its that plain and simple
Okay bring rape into this was just a bad idea. Obviously that is not by choice! Therefore your point is invalid. But yes it IS a parents responsibility to reach their children about sex and practicing safe sex. Thanks to society and t.v. shows like teen mom sex is viewed as acceptable and "eveyone is doing it". I started having sex at age 13 by my own choices. I was a child still not I thought I was ready. Never ever had a pregnancy scare because I knew about sex and birth control. I took it upon MYSELF to prevent any unwanted pregnancy.
There's also a thing called rape. You really think a young child is going to come out and say their father uncle or friend raped them? Don't be so quick to judge unless you know their situation. I'm just saying.
Kids are going to do what they want at the end of the day , they will find a way to do what they want and there parents have nothing to do with it. I had sex first time when i was 14 my mom had always been very open with me about sex,there was sex ed in my school that we were taught and that didnt make a difference also my mom was strict and barely liked me going out but i always found a way to sneak around and do what i wanted, i knew about sex,i was educated,i was a very smart girl,i never wanted to get pregnant,but i also didnt take percautions not to get pregnant, thankfully i didnt have a baby that young cus i know it would have been extremely hard, but i am 18 now and pregnant and it defintely wasnt my moms fault, i would never put the blame on my parents i knew what i was getting myself into and its only me and my fiances own fault not my parents. I agree very strongly with hippiemommy.
Not that its not possible for a child that was raised right to make a stupid decision, but its much less likely especially thst young.
It is absolultly not the states responsibility to teach our children about sex. That is the parents responsibility. You can know everything about sex and still go out and do it. Its about having enough self worth and confidence to know that you shouldnt be. The things patents allow their childten to listen to, and watch on tv doesnt help in my opinion. But again that falls on the parent.
No but there pp such a thing as teaching your kid values and to be aware of the consequences etc. Its common sense to be aware and not spread your legs at 13 years old when you're still a baby yourself. Rape doesn't come into this conversation cause that is NEVER the girls fault. But thinking they are nature enough when theyre barely through puberty is NEVER responsible or mature. I knew all about sex from when i was 11 years old, didn't mean i rushed out the door to have it or get pregnant. X
Even if a parent tells a child not to do it and gives the child birth control doesn't mean the girl will use it or not have sex. My parents did both I didn't take the birth control and refused to take the shot because both messed with my period. And parent can't be with their kid all the time so they can't prevent sex from happening unless they literally don't let the child out of the house for anything at all. A parent should not have to take the blame for a teen pregnancy. The teen should take responsibility they are the one who had sex not their parent. Yes there are different reasons girls end up pregnant as teens I wasn't referring to girls who are raped that isn't always a young girls fault but even then no matter what the reason is for it happening I.e. rape would you not blame the man that raped her not her parents for not teaching her about sex? My parents were blamed for me becoming pregnant and I'm 18, I just think it is very stupid that anyone would say my parents are the reason I got pregnant. I am pretty positive they were not in the room or even anywhere near telling me what to do, it was my own decision I knew about every prevention I chose not to use it. Girls learn from the world around them and I agree they dress very much older than they actually are and think it is cool to be easy and show their body, that is poor judgment.
Well i think young teen girl has different situations and circumstances....some girlls are very uneducated about sex, some dont grow up with parents that even say one word in advice about sex, some girls have no friends to ask personal questions....growing up i was never talked to about it and didnt learn about it in school either, i was 14 and very naive n sex was never on my mind, as for boys it was....my ex-sil had my neice when she was 15, she didnt care for her right and didnt have any common sense about bbys but luckly all of us helped her and she now is a realy good mom....girls now a days are let to dress like they are 17/18 when realy they are 12/13, so obviously guys are gonna look at them and think sex....when i was younger i rarely went to the movies or mall or partys before i was 16/17 and i had to take an older brother with me....i was lucky and had my brothers teach me about guys and what to never do and warn me about things, many girls now a days have parents that still see them as bbys nd think its better not to say a word about sex, they refuse to admit the fact that it happens and i think parents need to be more open, not just say DONT DO IT, but make sure their teens wont have a chance to make a mistake by giving them birthcontrol
yes sadly some girls like attention and have babies for the stupidity reasons and not take full responsibilities for their babies and don't mature enough. im glad my little ones did and they are extraordinary parents and love their daughter a lot. needless to say they are still together after two years. some girls or even ladies shouldn't deserve to be mothers tho
I understand where you are all coming from but a friend of a friend of mine was 13 when she had her first child. She had been raped and made the decision not to abort as she didn't believe in it. She is very lucky with the fact she has good family support. she also had gone back to school that is especially created for young people who have children
Bear in mind a lot of these girls are immature, they want babies because they're cute, and they want to play dress up. Im sorry but if you want that buy a doll to play with. The girls don't realise what being pregnant entails or that a baby is hard work. Parents should teach their children about safe sex and all the consequences. X
I agree with hippie sex is everywhere and everyone know safe sex is mostly the way to prevent pregnancy that and abstinence. My parents always told me to be safe and i decides not to be and i knew of the consequences im 18 not as bad but im still considered a teen mom. it not a parents full because they have handed me and my siblings condom i took it upon myself to have unprotected sex and now i will take up my responsibility. my little brother is now 16 and my sil is 15 and they have a one yr old daughter it is sad that they have to give up part of their life and grow up fast but they are great parents and my brother is providing. But their are those teen parents who have their parents take all the responsibilities now i feel sorry for those teen moms and their babies
I disagree with the statement that if a girl is pregnant at 12 or 13 or even 14, it is 'nobody's fault besides her own.' A 12- or 13-year-old is still a child, and even a 14-year-old still naive emotionally compared to an adult woman, and that is pretty much at best, i.e., if she has been well raised by a parent attentive to her since birth. One of the many reasons a parent tries to do a good job with his or her child (from the day the child is born) is to help her develop as a person who knows she is inherently valuable, so she will not be prey to the blandishments of all the men in the world who will be glad to use her body. If a kid is having sex at 12, it means she has been failed by her parents and her support system in many ways and for many years.
I don't believe it is anyone's fault other than the teen itself. They are educated through TV parents and friends everything there is to know about sex, I know as a teen I learnt more from friends than anything because you are not afraid to ask them questions. But still even if parents and teachers never talked about safe sex the teen still has been around long enough to know what condoms are and that if they don't use them they most likely will get pregnant. Most teens are indenial saying they know when and how to have sex so they won't get pregnant but still have poor judgement and don't use bc,condoms, etc. And even with contraceptives they can still end up pregnant, teens at that age just have poor judgment they think they know everything and they are always right then they end up pregnant. Ill admit I went through that stage and had so many scares then by time I was 16 my judgment got better and I waited til now to get pregnant. I hate seeing it too :( they lose so much by getting pregnant so young. I hate that they haveto grow up earlier than needed
My state doesn't teach safe sex. Just abstinence. But I took it upon myself to practice safe sex.
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