just wanna know

[Pink03]

Have you guys ever felt like , you just wanna be alone and you can be that independent mommy that maintains school, work,and a baby. My child's father test my patience and i have no problem with kicking him to the curb and having the last laugh. But i'm trying to be nice but let's face it he takes me as a joke

[AnnieBrooke]

You'll need it for child support anyway.  Be sure y'all go to a lab, none of those drugstore tests are certified by the courts to determine paternity.  Call the family courts in your area to get a list of labs certified to do this kind of work.

[Pink03]

Exactly now he wants a test i'll let him get one.

[AnnieBrooke]

If the dad is disinterested or immature or argues all the time with the mom, it certainly can harm the child emotionally if the mother is made miserable by the dad.  She is not describing someone who sounds excited about the upcoming baby.

[Kaymanchase]

You should never take away a parent's rights unless they genuinely could harm your child emotionally or physically. Don't make your personal issues your baby's.  

[th986]

haha well yes cos then ypu decide alone about everything and have the control. I know only a lot of love keeps my boyfriend in the picture cos I  would be the happiest to hide in a cave with a baby so no one tells me what and when to do.. I would allow only him to visit us and no one else. :p so in a way I do get it.

[Pink03]

Imma just focus on me and mines no need to sell myself short.

[ash2193]

Im going through  the same bs!! !my childs father hasnt been to 1 damn appt wit me, cant pass a drug test, dont have a stable home

[AnnieBrooke]

If you would be emotionally a lot worse off with him and the baby than you would be with just the baby (and presumably, his child-support financial contribution), then by all means kick him to the curb, and see your lawyer about setting up child support.  If you would be emotionally better off with him and the baby than you would be alone with the baby, then keep him, and work on your issues.  Since having a child, I've had moments when I thought my life would be easier without my husband (he can be grumpy and obstructionist), but overall it would not be easier, so I sucked it up and found the patience to deal with my overgrown teenager (that is, my adult husband) and we've kept going.  He loves our son so much, and that helps a lot.  There are just moments in child rearing where two adults is better than one.  It all depends on if your boyfriend is behaving like an adult or just a jerk.