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learning empathy
Don't get me wrong everyone going through pregnancy has questions and concerns and likes to connect with other soon to be mothers to be able to get another mother's perspective. By no means would I want that not to happen because a mother to be is not in a traditional mother father married relationship. But my patience and having to hear women who essentially were knocked up complain about how they are sad, lonely, feel scared due to the circumstances of having to deal with your pregnancy alone. These conversations end up monopolizing the meeting we have at mothers group, and I see it even times on forums like this one. I am needing help understanding how to not be such a b**** because I want to scream at the top of my lungs i dont care about you getting knocked up! If you have a question about being pregnant or your pregnancy or is this weird because I feel the baby move this way please ask but I don't care about your emotional state a feeling sad lonely and depressed because you had unprotected sex and now you have a child and no partner. Hello there are women who have partners and still are not getting the attention and love and support that they need so who the hell wants to hear about you just getting knocked up and not getting the love and support that you need. What bothers me is I have no idea why I'm being such a b**** I don't want to be _maybe it's because I am so uncomfortable. I'm in a wonderful loving relationship and have a wonderful life there's really no reason for me to be so bitter. But I was that child the one whose mother got knocked up. Or perhaps I'm just a b****.
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My issue is that they take up the first 20 mins of class. And I want to yell this is class! If you want to talk about your personal issues do it after class!
Your main problem seems to be you think single moms take all the attention, i was a single mother with my first and it was the opposite, no mother would talk to me when they found out i was not married. I am sorry you feel that way. Some times it is not the mothers fault, or she choose to leave the father because he was not a good father. I know it was hard raising my son alone but i would do it again. All moms need to vent.
Lol too much hormones here!! God bless our hearts!
You know honestly, I'm guilty of posting about my own situation myself, but who's to say just because I am now single and pregnant that I wasn't expecting the man I was in a relationship to stand by me? And who's to say that any married woman who is pregnant would not end up single as well? I think honestly the only reason I ever felt comfortable enough to make a post about everything is 1) that I was hormonal and sent over the edge just as you were to make this post, due to not only the nonstop complications I've experienced and the relationship ending close to the end of my pregnancy, but 2) because I've found plenty of the women here to be very compassionate and to have become the friends and almost more reliable than many of the people I interact with in my life face to face. I find pregnancy to be a time where we should reach out to one another who have questions and concerns with how they are doing and the pregnancy is going. Without the women here I wouldn't have known what to do while spending my so far 2 month long strict bed rest stint left with many questions the doctors leave unanswered or answer half-assed. The women here have given me insight on things to be curious about, concerned about, and a slight sense of feeling as if I'm "on track" by following posts of other women that are as far along as I am. I don't have many women in my life and the ones I do haven't been pregnant for 20+ years. While I can understand your frustration feeling as though here and in your classes that the spotlight is on those who are single and pregnant, I can also understand that this is a difficult thing to go through while in a relationship and for me has only become harder without a support system. Maybe the forum here could create a board for different groups to act as support for moms in the same situation, that way married and pregnant women can talk about their experiences and single moms vice versa. Until then I can understand your complaint as its not something you're going through, I still get tired of seeing "am I pregnant" and "when did I conceive" questions, I don't know why they bother me. They'd probably have pages upon pages of forum boards strictly pertaining to pregnancy if each situation had It's own board lol
Wow... Everyone needs to chill out and get a tub of ice cream. Hormones ladies, hormones!!!!! Remember to breathe . As for the instructor I would pull them to the side and politely voice your concerns. If this doesn't work out in your favor then try to get into another class. It's not worth you getting hormonal G.I. Pregnant Jane on anyone or pulling out your verbal Bruce Lee moves. Too much stress.
It's hilarious the comments from the women on here blasting the original poster and saying "if you don't like a post, don't comment" and the like... I think those women need to listen to their own advice!
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Now to cager, I have to agree that speaking with the instructor about your concerns is the best approach. That way you aren't being a ***** to anyone, but you hopefully achieve your purpose.