learning empathy

Onecagertiger

Don't get me wrong everyone going through pregnancy has questions and concerns and likes to connect with other soon to be mothers to be able to get another mother's perspective. By no means would I want that not to happen because a mother to be is not in a traditional mother father married relationship. But my patience and having to hear women who essentially were knocked up complain about how they are sad, lonely, feel scared due to the circumstances of having to deal with your pregnancy alone. These conversations end up monopolizing the meeting we have at mothers group, and I see it even times on forums like this one. I am needing help understanding how to not be such a b**** because I want to scream at the top of my lungs i dont care about you getting knocked up! If you have a question about being pregnant or your pregnancy or is this weird because I feel the baby move this way please ask but I don't care about your emotional state a feeling sad lonely and depressed because you had unprotected sex and now you have a child and no partner. Hello there are women who have partners and still are not getting the attention and love and support that they need so who the hell wants to hear about you just getting knocked up and not getting the love and support that you need. What bothers me is I have no idea why I'm being such a b**** I don't want to be _maybe it's because I am so uncomfortable. I'm in a wonderful loving relationship and have a wonderful life there's really no reason for me to be so bitter. But I was that child the one whose mother got knocked up. Or perhaps I'm just a b****.

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moongleaux

I think it's obvious many people have taken this personal and failed to really understand what the poster's original comment was regarding. It has nothing to do with single moms or married ones. When I go to classes, I don't want to listen to anyone's personal problems, no matter what they are. If I'm in a class, I want to learn what I paid to learn. If it doesn't relate directly to the pregnancy, save it for your therapist, your friends, or whoever else wants to listen/vent with you. On this forum, you can vent about anything you want obviously and like so many of you have mentioned, if I don't like what I read or I don't have something nice to say, I pass it up.

Now to cager, I have to agree that speaking with the instructor about your concerns is the best approach. That way you aren't being a ***** to anyone, but you hopefully achieve your purpose.

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Onecagertiger

AMEN!!

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Onecagertiger

It's not CAGED.. My screan name is  Cager... Which is a basketball term.

  And my post was asking for advice on how to handle the anger I am feeling during my CLASSES where the women who have been knocked up monoplize the class time whining about their sitituation.  When I run into the post here, I just leave that thread.. But when I am in a class that I have paid money to be at... I am not going to just walk out.

But I can understand where my point could have been lost in my long phone texted message.

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bbm1188

Maybe you should stick to expressing yourself about your pregnancy, your life. Personally I dont judge people and despite Being pregnant I have tolerance of others, just not always for my husband. All moms need support and since life can change for everyone in an instant we should never be quick to judge who does not need consoling, advice, or support. I think the hormones have gone to your head and you should rethink this subject when you calm down. If you dont like something dont read it, Its simple. And Its ok to be annoyed but think before you say things like this bc the women your talking about need friends and to be shown love, not be talked down upon bc they dont have ideal situations for bringing a child into the World. Good luck with your attitude.

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jlove2122

Yes onecagetiger, it seems to me that you are being a b****. The people on this site have the freedom to press and express their feelings. These forums are created so that one expecting mother can relate, vent, and give advice to another. It has an educational purpose and also to support one another. All that matters is we are all awaiting a precious little gift. Some people just have a different circumstance than others. That doesn't make you any special. Who cares if the child has both parents if their life or what the mother did wrong or right just to have gotten pregnant or whether it was the biggest mistake of their lives. You can't dictate anything on this site. It's not your job to and neither can you judge anyone. That is why we have a God! And just because you think eveything is good in your life, you are sadly mistaken. Only God has answers to everything. You are not perfect. He is in control. So from one expectant mother to another, I want to give you a little advice. If you run across a post that you don't like, DON'T COMMENT! Easy and simple. And you totally contradict yourself saying everything is going good in your life. Well why are you bitter then? I suggest you go find peace within yourself. Now how is that for being a b****

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heatherr322

Okay your post complaining about other peoples posts is just as annoying as the posts you r complaining about. Your screenname explains it all. One caged tiger

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neebs26

Ooo tender subject. I think its a bit harsh but I understand the need to vent when something just gets beyond annoying. Im married but my pregnancy was not planned. I love my husband but hes a total douche sometimes.
So far im not a fan of the weight gain, the back pain or the unbelievable heart burn but i enjoy the babys movements. Life happens to all of us and i hope all the mamas to be married or not..knocked up or planned have healthy deliveries and healthy beautiful babies. FYI: im in a good mood today lol

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