Not a question. Mainly a Rant!

[adrii2280]

Okay im 15 and 20 weeks today. my sister is 18 and still lives with me and my mom. but anyway i always have to clean up after her. she does not like cleaning up after herself or taking showers or baths. its so nasty!. I dont know how to talk to my mom about it.

[remar]

All you can really do in my opinion is keep your own area clean. I know it must be hard when you want to use the kitchen and bathroom and things are a mess. If your sister leaves her things all over the bathroom take them and throw them in her room. Put her dishes to the side and wash your own. It can be hard sharing a home with other people when you're clean and they're messy. You have to take of yourself and your pregnancy though and keep your stress level down.

[specialmom]

Yes, you are still very young.  And while you have a right to like things neat, she had a right to be messy.  You aren't roommates.  You both live under your mother's roof.  She, I am absolutely sure, pays most of the bills even though you are paying rent.  I never had things completely MY way until I had been to college, earned a good living and had my first apartment on my own.  Then, I kept things how I pleased.  Until then, I had to deal with whatever the habits were of those I lived with.  That's life.  

I would stay away from complaining too much about her.  She will hopefully begin to take better care of herself and her things but probably won't when feeling criticized by her little sister.  
good luck

[adrii2280]

I'm in a relationship and have been for almost 3 years. I am in school I'm in 11th grade because of how smart I am. Its not just my mothers house its mine to! I help pay rent and bills so I do have a say! And think of what you said 15 and living at home! I'm still in my moms custody and she won't let me move out till I'm 18 so I have to deal with it but she should take better care of herself and clean up after herself.

[specialmom]

Best thing to do is to stay in school and have a plan for after high school that will lead to your being financially independent.  College, trade school, job training------  throw yourself into that so that you can be an independent adult that doesn't have to live with your parents for financial reasons.  Then your sister won't be around you.  She's an adult and really can be as she is if it suits her.  When you pick a partner down the road, make sure to pick someone who is neat and tidy as this will be something that always bothers you about other people who aren't as clean, organized and as tidy as you. good luck

[mfayb]

Sadly being 15 and living at home you don't have much say in other's people's actions in the house :/ hope it gets better.

[Babyabs]

never did i say her being older was the reason for her laziness. oh and she brings your baby into it then shes just inmature. but i understand how you feel on how she should be supporting herself since everyone says at 18 you should be independent . maybe to some people its easy and maybe to people like her its hard. but i personally think in your situation theres nothing you can do if she doesnt change then.she doesnt. like i said you might just have to deal with the fact of it.

[adrii2280]

And she's 18 she should be taking care of herself trying to get a job and moving out. I have a job and still in school!. Her being older than me has nothing to do with her being lazy!.

[adrii2280]

If I try and talk to her I'll get cussed out and she will bring my baby into it. She about to be 19 in November. I'm getting tired of her.

[Babyabs]

well she is 18 and your a little younger then her so i think you would really just have to deal with the fact shes lazy? just maybe talk to your sister yourself and ask for her to help if you have not already.