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I dont know what to do!
I'm pregnant but there's no way i can keep the baby.. My boyfriend would support it and stay with me but i cant have the baby. I cant be pregnant.. I'm a teenager and both my parents have passed away so my grandmother has custody of me & I'm scared she will try to throw my boyfriend in jail if she finds out because hes 18 but we've been together for 3 years now... I dont want to be that pregnant girl in high school.. And i definitely dont want him to go to prison for "statutory rape" when it shouldn't be. I want kids one day but i just cant have one now.. What can i do??
Thank you, you've been really helpful..
Meant to say 'do what is best FOR YOU>"
Remember, you can check out planned parenthood near you for info on options. good luck dear
In all honesty sweetie, you don't need to explain yourself to anyone here. They aren't going to be there to help you. to support you. To get up with the baby at night. To pay for all the baby's needs. To help you work and get through college or whatever it is you like. They call their babies consequences. When you have a baby under those conditions, it is just so hard to make it all work, ya know? so, don't let anyone make you feel bad for asking the questions.
You have choices. You can abort or give the baby up for adoption. Both are available options to you if you do not want to have a baby. Period. No guilt or shame in either. If you need info on either, let me know.
Just because you CAN get pregnant doesn't mean that you are going to be able to handle a baby and what being a good parent means.
So, sweetie, do what is best and I'm here if you need any help or support. I'm sorry some have given you an unnecessary hard time. Hang in there and contact me if you need anything. peace
You have choices. You can abort or give the baby up for adoption. Both are available options to you if you do not want to have a baby. Period. No guilt or shame in either. If you need info on either, let me know.
Just because you CAN get pregnant doesn't mean that you are going to be able to handle a baby and what being a good parent means.
So, sweetie, do what is best and I'm here if you need any help or support. I'm sorry some have given you an unnecessary hard time. Hang in there and contact me if you need anything. peace
Okay. Let's clear things up.. I WANT to be able to have my baby! But i also WANT to be able to keep the love of my life around. And thats why i posted on here because i didnt know what to do! So I'm sorry that if by asking for advice an telling the whole situation seemed to be a pity party or immaturity to you. But how bout you step back and look at yourself. Idk how old you are or whatever but I'm sure that when you were a teenager or if you still are you were having sex too. So how about we stop being hypocritical and trying to make me look like someone who doesn't care.
Idnt see it as tearing her down. Although her situation is a sticky one the only thing shes being realistic about is "not having the baby", but she doesnt see how if shes grown up to make grown up decisions then why not own up to them, Or just not put herself ina situation like that at all
You might try calling our local planned parenthood. They do not always require parental consent to discuss your options with you. good luck
med help is a site to support people and not tear them down. I commend her for being honest with herself that now is not the time to be pregnant. Accidents happen. And hopefully she will be able to figure out what will be the best thing for her at this point. She sounds like a mature young lady. I respect her for her ability to think realistically. I wish her all the luck in the world.
She shoulda been "mature" enough to know the consequences
I think it IS a mature person that realizes they aren't ready for a baby.
* out
Thanks to everyone who gave advice & didnt try to downgrade me. You were very helpful & definitely gave me a lot of things to think about.
this is a hard one to be put on an internet forum because its a touchy subject and some people will definately tell you how it is. hopefully you are strong enough to take peoples honest opinions without getting hurt.
on the other hand, you obviosly need someone to talk to as this probably feels like the end of your world! dont be afraid to go and talk to a specialist, you are not the only girl to be in this situation. i had sex for the first time when i was 15, and i can be 100% sure when i tell you i wouldn't have had a clue how to feel or what to do! i certainly wasnt ready to own up to my responsibilities or just magically become an adult!
you need to speak to your grandma, because either way she will find out and its much better to talk to her.
on the other hand, you obviosly need someone to talk to as this probably feels like the end of your world! dont be afraid to go and talk to a specialist, you are not the only girl to be in this situation. i had sex for the first time when i was 15, and i can be 100% sure when i tell you i wouldn't have had a clue how to feel or what to do! i certainly wasnt ready to own up to my responsibilities or just magically become an adult!
you need to speak to your grandma, because either way she will find out and its much better to talk to her.
Okay, never mind. This already got switched to another forum. hugs
And listen, you wouldn't be the first or the last girl to end up in this situation. You have to what is best for YOU. If you need any help or info, please check out the woman's choice forum and I and others are available to talk to you about this. good luck hon. And remember, this is about you and no one else is in your shoes right now. peace (and sorry about your parents, that's really hard.)
We luckily live in a country where we have options when there is an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy. Is there a planned parenthood near you? you can explore abortion depending on how far along you are.
Look u came on this app wanting opinion so I gave u mine if you can't handle then oh well not my fault u willing had unprotected sex knowing this could be a result... if you were ready for a baby them why were u having sex to begin with hell at your age I was too busy trying to have fun not trying to have sex. You were too young to begin with but you choose yourself to be grown now act it. And in all honesty you did come on here wanting people to feel bad for you cause of the situation u allows yoursself to be in wanting other females u have never met to tell u its okay. But truth is it will only be okay of you allow it to be okay. Like I said other teen moms are sucking it up and being moms what makes u different
Follow ur heart itz all up to you.... at the end you cnt please nobody but yourself everybody is different so to let to judge n if this is ppl way of helping when sumone ask for it is a shame.... god is not please in thats why we dont have mch longer on earth to must going wrong in the world
No the baby didn't ask to be here, but guess what the baby isn't here yet!! So there you have it. I say pray on it talk with advice cobalt then talk to grandma
Agree with Rachel. Sry i know your asking for advice but nobody's guna sugar code anything for you. Its the truth. Its nt the babys fault you weren't careful. Your grandmother will likely find out way
Very true.. You will need her signatures either way.
I'm not asking anyone to feel sorry for me! I was asking for advice on what to do. And if you want to be rude go on someone else's post.
Well. You have to talk to your grandma no matter what. Because even if you were to get an abortion you'd need her consent because you are only 15. Make whatever decision you feel in your heart is right. But the first thing you need to do is talk with your grandma.
^^^^^ thats real ****.!
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