im 15 and pregnant

[kayla_rowley]

What all should I do

[nonishy]

Not everyone regrets having a kid at a young age... I'm 29yrs old. I had my daughter when i was 17yrs old. The only thing I regret was not staying in school. But i ended up going back later on.
Some people regret abortions. Others don't regret it. And vise versa for everything else.
At the end of the day the choice is hers and hers alone. If she ddecide that abortion is her best option then that is her choice to make. But it is still an option. Just like adoption, or keeping the baby. It's her choice. There is no right or wrong answer here. It is what's best for her.  

[kathfwalsh]

My parents were 16 when they had me. It wasn't easy for them by any means but I have to say, I'm greatful they made the decision to keep me and I appreciate the sacrifice they made. They both ended up doing great in their lives even with dropping out of high school and no college education.  My father is actually very, very well off. I'm not saying this is going to be your situation or not, but your life isnt over when you have a child at a young age. Either way I recommend telling your parents. I know it's scary. When I was 16 I had an ectopic pregnancy and was so terrified to tell my parents, but once you do you will feel much better. They will be your rock in this situation.  I hope the best for you and whatever decision make.

[sherinia]

I'm 16 And 27 Weeks Pregnant... Its Your Choice. And This Is My First Pregnancy I Was On Birth Control... And Went 8 Months WithOut Having Sex. That Time I Decided To Have Sex Again I Was Pregnant And On Birth Control... The Lord Upstairs Makes Things Happen For A Reason... and I Think Mine Is So I Can B The Mother I Never Had. My Baby Boy Will Brought To This Earth No Matta What... cause He DDidn't Ask To B Here. So I'm Going To Make His ChildHood The Best Of All. And Just Because Your 15 Don't Mean You Can't Do It. If You Can't Then Baby Girl Don't Have Unprotected Sex!

[JulieKuhnert]

I wouldn't tell her right off to have an abortion, but she and her parents need to weigh all three options (keep it, abortion, and adoption). After she makes her decision she really needs to take a back and prioritize her life. If she decides to abort she really needs to think if pregnancy and stds at 15 are the path she wants to take.  I don't think she is horrible, but teens seem to have this opinion that they are grown ups and should be able to make the same decisions as a grown up.  Sex is an adult activity, not meant for children. If you can't take responsibility for those actions, you don't partake in those actions. Not a hard concept at all. There are teens  everyday that decide to wait, not necessarily for marriage, but for maturity. I think in my group of friends, only one or two actually had sex before graduating high school, so the concept isn't impossible.  Problem is we have parents who won't talk to their teens, they let their friends do all the influencing instead of trying to be active in their children's lives. Abstinance is great, the best way to not get pregnant or contract an std. If you aren't going to abstain, then you must practice safer sex.  We aren't led around by our hormones, we can learn to control them.

[urbanjewel]

My advice is to have an abortion don't bring a baby into this world giving them a bad chance. You will live your whole life regretting it!  Your young I have a daughter your age and would tell her the same. Its hard enough raising kids when you are grown but way worse when your a kid.

[LalaLand8]

honestly, you all sound ridiculous bickering back and forth when this baby needs help with her soon to be baby! Sweetheart I strongly suggest you pray and talk to your parents and or a professional. you need guidance through this tough time and I'm praying for you and I hope the best. don't make any decisions right now talk it out and figure out where you're going to go but you definitely need guidance! Best wishes. and as for all the ladies here let's remember why we are on this site, to encourage and enjoy! Be well everyone

[kmarais]

Let me tell you, its your choice! I'm 16 gonna be 17 in February and I'm 10 weeks almost 11 weeks pregnant. I'm due in may. My mom was upset when she first found out and I expected her to be but after she started buying baby clothes and my dad was disappointed at first but now he's actually excited. I've been with the father of the child for almost 3 years and he didn't want it but I did. And he's here to support me. He couldn't make me abort it or adopt it. Its your choice girl nobody else's.  

[JulieKuhnert]

The first comment didn't tell her to abort, but who are you to say she can't?  Everyone has to make their own choices with their lives.  You don't believe in abortion, don't have one. But it's not your place to dictate what others can and can not do.  I will never have an abortion, but I will not tell others theycan not make the choice for themselves.

[FloridaMommyof2]

I didn't bother reading all the comments but to the first comment. You have no right to tell her to abort her baby. I was 15 when I got pregnant and 16 when I had her. She's now 3. I'm 19. I would tell your parents. It's honestly something you should talk about with your parents. If you can't raise the baby at least think about adoption.

[XOCESI]

Honey I Know the same way you feel..your scared and alot of things are passing through your mind.I understand because I got pregnant at 14 with my first child and I knew it wasn't going to be easy in life with a child and me being a child as Well but I decided to have my son and he was my motivation & Courage that gave me every morning to suceed & become a better mother for him. I graduated high school with excellent grades & even got a scholarship to attend college. & I don't expect you to do the same thing everyone has different ideas but this is just a little to show you that Yeah a baby can be hard work at a young age but some young mother's have their baby's and are doing great in life. Just think it thoroughly, God Bless You with any choice you decide to make.

[nonishy]

Tell your parents right away, don't try to hide it. There are options out there for you right now. Your parents might be pissed off but it'll pass.

[rod3]

Do what is best for you. Abortion,  closed or open adoption, or raise it. Tell your family and talk to a doctor. Just because people have opinions does not mean it is right.

[KelseyK1027]

I got pregnant at 14 and had my son at 15.. Now my son is 3yrs old. I'm 18, married, work and go to school and also pregnant again. Its really hard to tell your parents and if you do decide to keep the baby it may be hard at first but you'll get thur it. I'm constantly tired from work and school but in the end its worth it for my kids. Hopefully you make your decision and hope it goes well. Good luck

[HappyMomB]

Talking to your parents may seem like the absolute lay thing you want to do,  I get it.  My niece was 14 when she delivered her son.  She gave up parental rights to her mother until she was 18 so that  she could focus on school.  You have many options.  Yes,  abortion is one.  Not something that I agree with personally,  but it could be a very viable option for you.  Just know that it could cause complications later in life when you do want to conceive again.  Option 2 is adoption,  which in itself is another heart wrenching decision,  but could give a couple who longs for a child of their own but cannot conceive.  The third option, keeping the baby,  will also change your life forever. For better or worse you will have a small life depending on you night and day for everything which is overwhelming for even experienced parents to deal with.  If you feel like you can't talk to your parents,  speak with your counselor at school or a friends parents for advice.  They can help you speak to your parents about it and act as a buffer.  Any way you look at it,  it is going to be a very difficult decision for you to make, but it is yours and yours  alone to make.  Good luck.

[JulieKuhnert]

Terminating is hard, but so is carrying a baby to term. I would never abort, but this is her life and her body. Only she and her parents can decide what the best course of action is.

First thing you need to do is talk to your parents, get a doctor's appointment and discuss all the options. Make an informed decision about what you should do. Yes a baby is living at conception, but who is more important, the fetus who isn't sentient, or the scared teen girl who is going through probably the hardest thing in her life. Imo the girl is the most important part of the equation.  After you figure out what you're doing, please look into birth control after either giving birth, or terminating, or abstain needs you have another oops pregnancy.

[jataismom]

And also go to the doctor asap. No insurance? Seek your local health department. U need prenatal vitamins asap

[jataismom]

There are many complications that could occur during the terminating process. Its very risky to your body. Youre young, so maybe you wont be at risk as much. But I def dont recommend it. Your baby deserves a chance. It will be hard for you but i believe you can make it. And yes tell your parents bc they deserve to know whats happening to you, plus they know info you dont know. They will be upset or disappointed but they will soon get over it. If youre religious, pray. You need strength and u have to believe in yourself. :)

[hrussell89]

Um sorry but you don't have the right to tell this girl to not abort. You don't decide what she does with her body that's for her and her parents to decide. You have all the right to say how you feel, freedom of speech. All options are open for her, hardest part right now is to tell your parents and to just go from there. Good luck hun :).

[CalilaTinney]

I was 17 and pregnant i understand better than anybody the panic and the fear. Stop reading what you should should do by overly diverse opinionated people. Breathe and research all your options adobtion abortion giving birth. Actually think about being a 16yr old with a baby do you have friends with kids? Family with young children? Find someone close to help you legitimately think about your future without any harsh criticism or negativity someone open thats your best bet then you wont need a forum to decide what to do <3 you got this sweetheart no matter what you choose

[mari0218]

What ever you do dnt abort. That little angel has life since day one and you dont want to kill it. Please think about dont ever practice abortion.

[JulieKuhnert]

Just because you don't believe in abortion doesn't mean it's not an option. Id never suggest abortion, but it's still an option.  Keep it, adoption, or abortion are all options she needs to discuss with her parents and doctor. Hopefully she'll make the best choice for her body and life.  

[jamierenea03]

I agree with Marianna92...talk with your parents. They will have the best advice you can get. Good luck sweetie :)

[karmen2225]

Tell your parents  make a doctors appointment the  deed is done I DON'T believe in abortion may be adoption an open if you would like but please no abortion

[marijana19]

the first thing you should do is tell your parents. they might be shocked and freaked out at first but they are the ones that know how to help you the best. Decide if you are going to keep the baby or give him for adoption. Either way, take prenatal vitamins, visit a doctor regulary and rely on your parents and your doctor to give you the best advices.