MIL rant

[mistmeke]

ok so I am 37+4 with a little boy. My mother in law keeps fussing at me when I buy something for my baby. The shower my mother had for me was a complete bust and my mil hasn't had a shower yet says its gonna be three weeks after he is born so what am I just not allowed to buy him anything?? She is really pissing me off because its my baby and I can buy him whatever I want and shouldn't feel guilty about it. This is probably the hormones talking but seriously you cant fuss at me for buying things for MY baby. Please tell me I am not the only one dealing with this. Oh and I've already got a 2 year old but she acts like I am a complete moron and that I don't know anything at all about what's going to go down. And she also wants me to call her before I call my hubby so she can be the one to take me to the hospital when I am ready?? How can I make this madness stop???

[GordonBaby]

And your absolutely right

[mistmeke]

thank you! I an just getting really frustrated that she keeps fussing at me for buying things for my baby all because she hasn't had her shower yet but its really not my fault that she decided on her own to do it three weeks after the fact. He will need things before that time comes and I am not gonna let him do without just because the shower hasn't happened yet.

[Ms_Steph_]

Agreed I think you have to put your foot down. I did with both sides of the family, where when my little boy would start crying they would run to get him and calm him down. Even though I was holding him! I can calm down my own child. Just make sure you keep your cool and have a civilized talk about it. Don't want to get yourself worked up while pregnant.

[GordonBaby]

Well you already said it luv...this is your child and you can do what you feel is fit for YOUR child and yourself. You just have to sit her down and let her know how you feel. The more you eat her s*** the more she will think that its okay and will continue. I cant say that I'm dealing with the same thing, but that goes for anyone dealing anyone in a similar setting of scoffing at things we do for ourselves or our families. Let her know that you know she cares and tht you appreciate it, but shes go to back off a bi because its making you unhappy. YOU are a mother as well as her, and YOU will do what you see right and fit for your children.