I have two situations that have been bugging me, and I'm just wondering if anyone else has gone through this.
I was an only child, so although my mom had other pregnancies before me, she obviously only had one full-term pregnancy. She's an insufferable know-it-all....and likes to tell me all about how to do things and how wrong I am about things...and she's very rude. Well...ever since I found out that I'm expecting baby#2 and shared the information with her, she's been incredibly snotty and distant. My dad says it's because I have more experience in something than she does and she doesn't like that she can't be a know-it-all. Like at one point she tried to tell me "Oh you just THINK you're tired now!" and, jokingly, I said "Well mom I've already had one and you never had two so we'll just wait and see how it is, eh?" and she got so PISSED..... I don't get it. I always listen to her advice, even when it's really rude and out of line, and I'm not rubbing my pregnancy in her face or anything, and I even ask for her advice on things (sometimes even on things that I already know the answer to, just to make her feel wanted and useful)...I feel like she's being childish. Okay, so I'll be a mother of two...okay, so I'll have more experience in childbirthing and infant rearing than she did....so what? Why does she have to be so rude to me? I mean, she's an alcoholic and has a terminal illness..there are a lot of things we're dealing with, she and I, in our relationship...but I really feel like she needs to lay off because she's being unfair. I know we'll never have a great, or even good, relationship before she dies but I would love to be able to share the little things with her without getting snotty/snippy remarks. Like when I said "my belly's getting bigger sooner this time" and she said "well maybe the baby's fat or you're eating too much" even though she knows I've been losing weight...it's like she's out of her area of expertise so she's just being rude. most of the time I ignore it, and I'm never rude or snotty to her in return (no matter how much I might want to be) I just wanted to know if anyone else is dealing with a bitter/jealousy thing with their mom during pregnancy.
anyway...second thing...I ran across this article online about this young mother (19, married) who was tired of getting rude comments or glances from people assuming she's some unwed teenaged mother. And it made me realize how irritating that's been for me as well. I had my daughter when I was 23, and DH and I were married when we conceived her....but I admit, I do look young, and I do live in the bottom of the Bible Belt. People who know me but don't know my age always think I'm older, like 30 (i'm 24, almost 25 now), but people who see my face and don't know me always think I'm under 18....and I always get these rude looks or whispered comments when I go out places, and old couples are always looking at my ring finger. What on earth is up with this? it drives me nuts, LOL. Sometimes I hang my hand out when I'm waiting in the doctor's office because I actually had one lady ask me "Honey aren't you awfully young to have a baby? Have you considered getting married, or going to college?" (when I was pregnant with DD) I'm a college grad!! I've been there and done that!!! I have a feeling it's only going to get worse with 2 babies...one lady actually asked me if my parents knew I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago. I was like "well it doesn't much matter since I'm 24 and married, now does it?" and she apologized, but it was ridiculous. I know a lot of the other ladies on here look younger than they are too so I don't think I'm alone in this, but just wondering if anyone else can relate.
Anyway I know there's not much of a solution for either of these situations just wondering if I'm alone out there, or if anyone else can relate, lol..
also (just so I don't take up another thread) does anyone have the "lid-lok" for their toilet?! I can't get mine to work and it's driving me nuts.....