Anyone else having problems with in-laws!?

[princesslo007]

I was having trouble with baby names and my in-laws not liking them, or pronouncing them properly. Well they finally got over that and now I feel like I developed a new problem! My sister in law is getting married in June and has been engaged forever to her fiancé. They chose to keep pushing their wedding date back. But my husband and I didn't want to wait and had a quick courtship, a year long engagement and got married. I always felt bad because it seemed like she was mad at me for stealing her thunder with the wedding. Well my husband and I immediately got pregnant (which wasn't planned, but very welcomed.) Now because this is the first baby in both of our families everyone is making a HUGE deal about me being pregnant, which is understandable because everyone is so excited, but once again because her wedding is coming up, it is stealing the thunder away from her. My mother in law just told me last night that her wedding shower is on Saturday and I became very upset last night because I never got invited. Granted I wouldn't have been  able to go because my husband is active duty military and we live in a different state, but if I got invited I could have at least sent her a gift. I just feel once again like she is snubbing me and that she still doesn't view me as family (since she never really treated me that way, despite everyone else in her family has.) For our wedding and shower we still invited out of town relatives even though they couldn't come just so they didn't feel left out. Am I wrong for being upset that my own sister in law didn't even send me an invite!? Im not sure if its just my hormones getting to me or if she didn't invite me on purpose!

[princesslo007]

Thanks guys! Im glad its not just me! My husband thinks that I should call her out on it but I feel like I dont want to start a fight. I might just send a card. Its just shady the whole situation. She was trying to give me advice on what to wear to her wedding because I was struggling to find a dress and she told me to buy an xxlllll from this website and I am 5 2 and weigh 135 pounds. My husband like flipped out on her about that because the comment made me cry. Its just starting to get ridiculous. I am glad I can come here and share problems with people who understand me! :)

[KristiGG]

I have family do the same thing.  They never invited me to things when we lived out of state or they would just add my name to my MIL invite.  I was also hurt because I always did my own gifts and pretty nice gifts at that.  Try to ignore her and send her something, send it to your MIL and ask her to take it to the shower for you.  Maybe you can get something off Amazon so you get free 2 day shipping.  It will make her feel guilty maybe and you will feel you have done all you can.  My sister in law got pregnant during my engagement then they got married within a month of finding out and then had twins two months before my wedding.  I never felt she was stealing my spotlight.  I think she is being petty for acting that way but some ppl are like that.  My sister got engaged a few months before me.  I was going to wait longer to get married but she wanted a dual reception and we just have different ceremonies.  After we talked my parents into it and all out of town family had bought plane tickets she changed her mind.  She was having her wedding at the end of everyone's trip so I did mine at the beginning of the week.   She was very moppy my whole wedding and I know it was cuz mine was first. She also skipped my wedding shower and made my mom refuse to bring me to hers. She lived in Canada and us 3 hours away in the states at the time so we could have easily come to each others showers.  Some ppl you just have to ignore.  If you move on they usually will too.

[amandak0805]

No love there definitely something with her. I would feel the sameway. The way I am is I would call her out on it. Just call and ask her how she is and she what she was doing for the weekend. If she brings it up then tell her why haven't you invited me. If not tell her you heard. If you don't get it out of the way now it will always be an issue. But remember some people are just horrible. Nothing you do is right and will always have something against you.