Baby not growing after 8 week, and no heart beat

[VLUGO9696]

Hi Everyone. This is my first pregnancy, and when I found out in December I was pregnant I made an appt with the doctor to see how everything was going with my baby. When I went in I thought that I was 8 weeks, since they went by my last monthly cycle, but when the doctor did the ultra sound I was only 5 weeks. Then I went in the next week because I was sick with the flu, and they did another ultra sound to make sure everything was alright, and I was 6 weeks. But when I went in this Monday for my regular check up my doctor said that the baby had stopped growing, that there was something wrong with the baby, and that the baby hadn't developed right. There was also no heartbeart. He also said that I would have to have a procedure done to remove to baby. I don't know exactly what he said because I was just in a state of shock. But, he said for me not to rush into anything, and to wait a week to make sure about this. I just don't know what to think anymore. The baby was fine two weeks ago, and now something is wrong I just don't understand. Do you think that maybe the doctor just saw wrong with the ultra sound? Because when I had the ultra sound done I couldn't even see the baby in the sack like before all I saw was something really small in the lower corner, and I couldn't see much. I just don't know what to think. It has been so hard on my husband and I because this is our first pregnancy, and we had been trying for 3 years, and finally we got pregnant. I don't know what to do or think. It is just very hard right now for my husband and I. Do you have any advice? Thanks.

[Tiff56]

hi everyone i have had two miscarriages both occurring in the same way except i never get to hear a heart beat i just get told the baby stops growing at 6 weeks but i dont have the miscarriage until im 11 weeks well i believe im pregnant again this would be my 3rd time this year my doctors will not tell me if anything is wrong with me until i lose a third one its very stressful but i just feel like a 3rd miscarriage is gonna happen again and so i dont even wanna really care until i actually hear a heart beat or see a growing baby my husband wont talk to me about this because with the army he is never home to talk to me except evenings when hes really tired and doesnt wanna do anything but sleep if i am pregnant and lose again im going to be devastated has anyone else lost 2 but then had one after the 3rd try being a first time mother?????

[merld]

Hello,
I am 9 weeks pregnant and diabetic. I went in to see the perinatologist today and found out that my baby stopped developing after 8 weeks. It was the most devastating news especially after finally getting pregnant for the first time at 34. My boyfriend and I were trying for 2 yrs and it finally happened and I was elated since its been my biggest desire to conceive. I am just hurt and feel like theres no hope for me although I want to remain positive. My D&C is scheduled for Friday, but I wish for another u/s before the procedure gets done. This is so devastating. Didnt realize how common this situation was.

[vivroxy]

You are honestly so strong, i am going through the same thing right now. I am 20 years old and was supposed to be 13 weeks yesterday but found out on friday that at 8 weeks the baby had quit growing and had passed away. I couldnt even believe it because i hadnt had any pain or bleeding and i felt so numb and in denial. I felt so sick that for 5 weeks after the baby had passed i still felt pregnant and never suspected a thing. I am now on thursday going to have the d and c procedure and am hoping for the best. my pregnancy had brought my family so much closer together and i just will be praying for all you women who are going through this pain and i wish you all the best.

[Dulcecgb]

HI, I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR THAT! THE EXACT THING HAPPENED TO ME AND I JUST HAD AN SUCTION ABORTION THE BABY WASN'T DEVELOPING SO THEY HAD TO REMOVED IT BECAUSE OF THE BLEEDING IT WAS CAUSING! IT IS REALLY HARD TO GO THROUGH THAT BUT IS FOR YOUR HEALTH! AND YOU CAN STILL TRYING! THANK YOU AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU!

[lindsey3]

Does anyone still view this site? My husband and I just had an appointment today at 12 weeks to have some genetic testing done. They performed the ultrasound and told us the baby had stopped growing at 11 weeks and there was no heartbeat. Our world has just stopped. This was our first pregnancy and we were so excited to be parents and welcome this little one into the world. Reading over these posts have helped me so much already. Just knowing we're not alone and it's more common than I think. What kills us the most is we just heard the heartbeat at 10 weeks..they were even able to pick it up on the doppler having telling us it might be too early for that..but there it was..! Now 2 weeks later we find out we lost it. It's so confusing. I hope someone out there is reading this. I go in on Tuesday (9/15) to have the D&C done. Do you recommend having them do one more ultrasound before the surgery just to make sure? God grant us all the peace to heal from this.

hopeful to hear back from someone..
lindsey

[Stauden]

I feel for all of you that are going thru this trying time.  My husband and I have tried for 2-1/2 years to have a baby, and finally turned to IVF (invitro fertilization).  We got our positive pregancy result on Christmas Eve!  Our first ultrasound followed a few weeks later and we got to see all 8.4cm of our little one.....including the heartbeat!  It all looked normal. We returned a few weeks later (at week 8) for the next ultrasound and got the confusing news that our little one was no longer there.  I could SEE movement similar to the hearbeat from before but was told it was just vascular action.  They then mentioned the possibility of a  "Molar Pregnancy".  So we left the office STUNNED and consulted the internet.  Of course the internet has too much info, so now I added the harsh word "Cancer" to my fears as well.  After reading the info on Molar Pregnancys we decided to go the D&C route rather than letting nature take its course.  That way we could get the verdict on if the Molar was caner or not.  The Doctor left a message that the test results came back "OK".....?  So now what?  I go back tomorrow for blood work.....and I have about 1000 questions.
I am just so sad and angry.  Am I am sick and tired of everyones meaningless platitudes...."It was God's will"..."There is a reason for everything"..."God never gives you more burdne than you are able to bare"....blah, blah, blah.  AND I have two dear friends that are also pregnant. I am so happy they still have the hope and faith and joy....but it makes me so sad.  I guess "Time heals all pain"......right?????