I envy you

[2_little_angels]

I wish I had a man to help me a man I could keep without chasing away with my madness I know I'm not normal but am starting to wish I was. I could really do with the help right now that my mums turned her back on me because for the 3rd time I've fallen pregnant with no man, she helped with my last two boys but said if I kept this one I'm on my own, she wants me to have a life and be successful not be a mum all my life. But this is my last for now until I get with someone later maybe lol... The age difference is good between my kids 2 and 4 months in between all 3. I'm exited but mostly scared how will I cope with Three kids on my own I already have two energetic boys I'm hoping its a girl this one but how will I do it alone and not struggle and ask for outsiders help like health visitors ect.. I'm so getting on contraception after this and hopefully never have sex again for now I'm happy exited and terrified!  Any single mums out there who have raised three kids alone?  X

[telly82]

I am a single mother of four kids with my fifith one on the way, it was my decision to leave him because of the constant cheating i just couldnt take it anymore, and when i left i found out i was 11 weeks preggo me never slowing down to realize that i had missed my p[eriod not once but twice cause i was trying to get out of that realationship, and i am so happy now yes i was scared at first but it is working out just fine, my son helps out a lot he will be 10 next month and i have three girls ages are 6, 4 about to be 5 in June and a 2 year old that is about to be 3 in May so my hands are full and in about 20 days i will be adding a new born to the house and the kids cant wait.

[2_little_angels]

I wish I could be like you I hope to be one day when this baby is out and do something for myself is love to go bk into education.. x

[2_little_angels]

Shybug that made me tear up I'm sorry some men are so ungrateful it pisses me off!! If he is cheating and doesn't realize what your worth, you and your babies then someone else will. Try not to cry for babies sake and maybe if you move out and move on he ll come running bk if not then its better for you anyway. If I had the slightest hint my man was cheating I'd probly kill him and his gf, but then again maybe not coz of the kids I wouldn't wanna go jail for scum and miss my babies. Id walk away to a new adventure... X

[Shybug]

I'm not a single mom but I should be, I have a son and pregnant. My husband never home and I suspect he's cheating on me. To make matters worst he wants me and my son to get our own place.  So I totally understand how u feel about feeling along and envy ones that are happy with family. But dnt giveup ur a strong women and admired for ur strength :)

[breanna_d]

I was a single mom of 2 for 4 years. When both my kids were school.aged I went back to school as well. I worked weekends when they went to their dad's and took 4 courses at a time instead of 5. And I got grants & loans for school. They were actually higher amounts because I was low income with kids. And they forgave some of the debt so I dont owe as much as I may have. After 4 yrs I am with a new man who loves my kids, he is gental and kind and we r expecting a baby in April.

Being a single mom is not a life sentence of failure & solitude, just do what u can when u can to get ahead. DO RESEARCH! There are programs & grants to help u better yourself for your kids, my time being single gave me a chance to work on me, better myself and learn what was important to me. Take this time to enjoy spending time with the most important people in your life (your kids) and hold in to hope :-)

[CMarie81]

hiya lovely, Im a single mum with 3 children and a 4th on the way! you will definitely cope, there is always a way! my children are loved, well looked after and get everything they need and want, i dont feel they miss out because they only have one parent, if anything they get more as i feel the need to try to make up for it sometimes! children need lots of love and a happy, safe home, you can tackle anything else that gets thrown at you! be positive and stay strong, its tough and sometimes you just wish it was a bit easier, but i wouldn't change it for the world, just do what i do, look back at how well you have already done and how much you have already achieved by yourself, be proud at how well your doing, as i said its really hard sometimes with a new baby and 2 others to run around after, but you CAN do it! get yourself to some local parent and toddler groups and meet some single mums you can chat to and socialize with, get yourself out and mingle, make some new friends and it gets you out for just an hour a week for some adult company! it stops you cracking up :-) good luck, you can do it! lots of love Xx

[TRoldan10]

I am not a single mom but my sister is and she has done good for herself. It is ok to ask for help so that your children do not have to go without. And if you dont get child support I would recommend filing. It is very difficult to raise 3 on a single wage. It can be done but you will have to watch your spending. I am sorry that you are going about this on your own but do not be afraid to ask for help.