Miscarriage Maybe?

[aanthony]

I just got home from the doc. and they saw the baby but no heartbeat they found a heart beat though on the 16th but none today and the baby on measured 6wks 1day, and I am 8 1/2 wks preg. so its just a matter of time to pass it I think. I am devastated. My doc. said I have to decide on a d & c or wait it out. Any feedback/suggestions?

[aanthony]

I think we were writing each other at the same time. I would just ask if she would want you there, if not I would give her a day or so. I have been crying off and on all day,and dont know what descision to make. My doctor never gave me the option of the pill. I am just devastated, I wanted this baby so bad, even though it was a surprise and wasnt sure if I was ready. My husband and I have only been married 5 months and were shocked/scared but excited at the same time.

[loismwallace]

leighanne143, is right...You may have ovulated later than you thought making you actually 6w1d. It's usually around 6 1/2 wks before they can see h/b in vaginal u/s. Just give yourself more time and ask for another u/s in a week or so. I really hope this works out for you...Keep us posted.

[BabyHardiman]

My sister had cramping and bleeding today and went in to see her doc.  She was 11 weeks today.  They performed an U/S and found that the baby had no heartbeat and measured 9 weeks, they listened for the heartbeat and also for the bloodflow, they found neither.  She is devastated as well.  They prescribed a pill for her to miscarry naturally.  They said it will take anywhere from 24-48 hrs for her to pass the baby.  I am so heartbroken for her.  I am pregnant myself... 26w1d.. I too have had a miscarriage 7 years ago, so this is my first viable pregnancy.  I am torn on what to do.  I want to be there for her but I am worried about upsetting her more.  We were soo happy to be pregnant together.  I am lost right now.

[leighanne143]

you can wait another week.  the first day of my last period was 11/28, so i should be the same as you but you might not have ovulated when you think you did, therefore your dates could be off.

Wait another week and ask for another ultrasound.  Don't jump right to a d and c but give your body another week.

[aanthony]

yes they did an u/s today. Apart of me wonders if maybe they just didnt see the heartbeat but everything could be ok, but I know the odds aren't in my favor. The baby is measuring too small. I know my last period was 11/29 so I would be 8 1/2 wks right now. In my heart I dont think I can do a d&c, I will never be able to forgive myself if for some reason everything could still be ok.

[KellyA74]

There are so many stories with happy endings when it comes to this (late implantation, baby tunred the wrong way, etc)......I had the same thing happen in Dec., but I ended up having a D&C.......DO NOT have a D&C without either another U/S or Hcg levels.....If your Hcg levels drop, then proceed however you like (wait it out or D&C).......It just seems like Dr.'s are always very eager to do a D&C.....Make sure that you know in your heart that the pregnancy is no longer viable before making any decisions!  Best of luck.....

[loismwallace]

Maybe your dates are off. Based on my LMP, my dates were off by 5 days. Based on my LMP, the baby would be due on 6/15, but the baby measured bigger at my last u/s.
It could be that the baby was moving around. I know you will make the right decision for you, but I would wait. I forgot to mention, I was 10 wks when I had my first appt and he had trouble finding the heartbeat. Did you say they did do an U/S? I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers....

[leighanne143]

you can always wait another week and have naother US.  but if you did MC i am very sorry and i know how you feel.  You can email me at any time if you would like to talk about it.

[aanthony]

He found one on the 16th but not today though, I am 8 1/2 wks but the baby measured 6wks 1day.

[loismwallace]

Wait.....The first time the Dr tried to find my babies heartbeat, it took him a while. I think he was about to give up by the look on his face. I'm now 21 wks....

[mamaofonetrying42]

Oh yea, Please if you do have a d&c Have your dr. do a u/s before. Just to make sure!!!

[mamaofonetrying42]

Hello.

I was in the same boat as you. had a scan at 6-7weeks everything was great, then a re-scan at 9-10week baby had no heart beat and was measureing at 7weeks. It was the hardest thing i has gone though. I had decided on the d&c, I just couldnt do it by myself, not knowing the the unknow. I just wanted it to be over, so I could start to heal......And I am happy that I have made that choose. What I have read on there some women it can take weeks, and the baby was already gone for 3weeks and I had no signs of it happening......Im so sorry you have to go though this. Best wishes to you!

Ps. I did it pregnant again I am now 13weeks......

[leighanne143]

do you really think that you are 8 weeks along?  Some women are not as far alogn as they think they are.  I would wait another week and have another US and if that comes back with no heartbeat then you might have to make a decision.

I had a MC back in Oct, i was 11 weeks but the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks.  I did opt for the d and c because i did not feel i could emtionally miscarry naturally.  Please keep me posted and email me if you have nay questions etc.