whats happening

[levoy]

my girlfriend and i have lived together for about 7 months, she wanted to get pregnant after a couple and i was all for it, well looking back almost to the day she got pregnant she started acting odd, then when she started feeling morning sick, well pretty much all day and night sick, she told me she had no feelings for me and moved back in with her mother, at first she would text and tell me she wanted me to be involved because fathers often get left out, then it got steadily worse, finaly she said she wanted to come back when the baby was born but she wanted her own room, and then the only text i could get answers to were concerning baby furniture, then a few weeks ago it was I dont love you, we will not be together, and i dont want to be around you, then back to fixing up babys room, but with her own room, then this week was dont call me ever, the sex was never good, you are to old and you are gross, when i know the sex was good because when we were together she would text me and say she was thinking about it, it was the best she ever had, but the point is she has been trying to hurt me anyway she can, the worst thing she could say she does, i love this girl very much, but i am lost and heart broken with no point of referance, she is now 14 weeks, any advice would be greatly appreciated

[levoy]

thank you, i am trying my hardest

[Mishh1]

Well I hope it all works out. Try your hardest to make it work for the sake of your child even if she keeps trying to push you away but she should come around.

[amy8702]

I really don't know what to tell you then. Hopefully she comes around.

[levoy]

well she never ask for money and wants to take care of herself, if i do anything for her money wise i just have to do it without asking, or she doesnt want me to

[amy8702]

I'm starting to wonder if its a money thing? Girls do that too. I'm 24 myself and would never act like that unless I was trying to push someone away.

[levoy]

yeah its mine for sure, we didnt leave each others side for two months there, she even went to work with me, , we will see i guess, i had baught her this beautiful 2 karat saphire ring about a week before she left, never gave it to her, but maybe ill get the chance,i hoping for better days ahead

[celeste780]

maybe its not your kid? or she doesn't know sounds a bit scandalis horrible behaavior for a mother,...maybe she,.... im sorry my stepsons mom wont allow us to see him and we
never have hes 13,.....

[levoy]

she is 24, and the thing that gives me hope is all these sites, i hate my husband or boyfriend while im pregnant, you can type in any combination and find this story over and over again, most seem to work out, but not all, and yes i am going to have a relationship with my child, the babys room is all but finished, i got life insurance and even started a college fund, and thank you again for your answers, it means alot knowing that people still care enough to want to help

[sweetpea03]

You jumped extremely quickly into a life changing decision(to have a child) with a woman you barely knew(only after a few months of dating). Typically hormones aren't that bad, that it would make her act in such an extreme way as she has, but hormones can put a lot of added stress to any relationship. I honestly think something else is going on beyond hormones, maybe a realization that all of this happened super fast and she doesn't know you or something else, I don't know. It just sounds like she is very immature in how she is handling everything(how old is she?). I am sorry you have to go through all of this, and she may or may not come around after the baby is born. Though, either way, I do hope you try to have some sort of relationship with your child. I hope it all works out for you.

[Mishh1]

Okay number one how old is she? And two hormones are not that bad infect she should of been feeling more attached and attracted to you and needing her male figure there to protect her. I really do not know how you two are as people but just by reading what you wrote sounds like she was just in love with the whole wanting to get pregnant and not you. It's hard to believe but alot of woman or girls are like that they just want to get pregnant and get to obsessed over the situation that they use the closest component for that to happen. But I maybe be wrong as I do not know her as a person. It just sounds so strange. I hope use work it out and hope she gets her head straight and knows what she wants because by what you also wrote she sounds very young and confused.

[Kim91809]

Damn!!! that is so messed up, my boyfriend and i have been trying for a year after my first pregnancy ( miscarriage) and we want a baby so badly!!! im sorry she is doing that to you!! sounds like something is going on with her, maybe someone is telling her to say those things, or maybe she is trying to be with somebody else!! If she has never been like that before or anything close to that, then something might be up for real!! all i can say for you, is to just deal with her....ignore all that bad ****...and try your hardest to be in that childs life and do everything you can to help her, even if shes acting spycho!!!!! good luck hope everything works out for YOU!!!

[amy8702]

Well, good luck and congrats. I hope you can work things out

[levoy]

thanks it helps alot just being able to talk, i hope it is hormones, thought i new what love was until i met her, she showed me a whole new definition

[amy8702]

It could be hormones, my friend walked out on her husband of 5 yrs, and her 3 year old son! She said she had enough and could see how mothers just walk away. And she did. Closer to her due date she went back (unwillingly) but now, since the baby has been born they're doing great and she apologized.

[levoy]

this is not the girl that i know, not even close, could hormones be this bad

[SunWorshiper_26]

I'm sorry to hear you are having a tough time it must be especially disappointing when it should be such a happy time. The best I can suggest is either couples counseling if she would agree or to just try and have some parental rights to the child when the baby is born. It wouldnt be a relationship with the mother of your child but at least you could still have a relationship with your child. Wishing you the best of luck