First baby

[Ashley_Jesse]

I'm 30 weeks and so very excited but along with the building excitement comes many MANY worries. I'm 18 and my fiancé is 20. We've been together since he was 17 and he's truly an amazing man. We have our own place so our baby has his own room! He's the only one who works because back in march I was diagnosed with Epilepsy. I haven't had a seizure for my entire pregnancy so the Epilepsy isn't much of a problem. My fiancé also had said that he would even prefer me staying home with the baby for at least a year WHICH IS AWESOME! I'm just worried about the added stress of our child could hurt our relationship even though so far its only brought us closer. Just so many worries and fears on the HUGE life change!! Anyone have any advice or comments?

[KTowne]

I was 17 when I met my husband, 18 when we had our first child, too, same as you. I stayed home, still haven't returned to work, and my son's 3, about to have another little one, so I'll be staying home with her, too. It really is a blessing and if you can do it, DO it! Sometimes staying home all the time with a newborn can be stressful, lack of sleep, not getting out of the house much, but it's so worth it. I've got to watch all of my son's firsts, and will do the same with my little girl. A newborn can cause strain in a relationship, and usually does, exhaustion, learning how to take care of a newborn, etc, is hard the first year or so, but as long as you try to put aside the fact that whatever comes out of yours, and his mouths is just because your tired, and you're very clear what you need from him, and what he needs from you, you'll do fine. You sound like a very smart, level headed couple, I wouldn't worry about it!! :)

[Ari_L_P89]

well first of all congrats! I know jow ya feel. im 23 & my fiance is 22 and we've been together for 3 years now and had our baby girl last wednesday. Everyone kept warning us it was gonna add a lot of stress but so far even wigh her here its only brought us closer. I have myclonic seziures so not as bad as epilepsy but I get an average of 2-4 episodes a day, my fiance would love me to be a stay at home mom but we just cant afford it but im home till at least december anyway. Just try not to stress out and keep you communication with each other wide open. let him know when u need help but also let him know its okay to tell you when he needs some personal time too.