For those who have lost a baby 16-22 weeks

[JudyGertrude]

I'm curious about those who have lost babies b/t 16 - 22 weeks due to incompetent cervix, and others for whom the babies' heart just stopped and died in the womb.  I would like to hear from those who have experienced this.  

With incompetent cervix, are there any warning signs, or does it just happen?

When the baby dies in utero, are there cramps, bleeding, or other signs?  

Thanks for your time!

JG

[milly347]

I am sorry for your lost.:( Just know in time the pain does seem to lighten up a bit. I keep telling myself that someday when my time comes to cross over I will be able to hold my son and kiss him then. That is what allows me to move forward day by day, that little bit of hope I keep in my heart with his name on it. And crying helps no matter what other people tell you if you feel like crying then cry. You are a mother grieving the lost of her child/children you have the right. Be strong and know that you are not alone in this painful moment in your life.

[milly347]

I lost my 18wks old baby boy due to IC and I didn't know I had it. I did have signs but I didn't think about that. Two nights before I had wiped in the restroom and had a mucus residue with no blood. I thought it was normal come to find out it was the mucus plug. And I had very light pains so light that I just thought it was the cervix getting bigger. I was in my 2nd trimester so I thought I was over the hump nothing to worry about. I have a 19yrs old son and he was fine no problems at all. Hope that helps you out. Oh I lost my baby on 01/23/2013 he just fell right out of me felt like a tampon coming out no pain and he was alive trying to breath on his own but his lungs was not developed all the way. My poor little man he was brave till the end. I miss him so much. Sorry to all the ladies going through this and I feel your pain.

[egiedre]

I lost my baby twins at 18 weeks. This was my first pregnancy. Two little boys - identical twins. At 17 weeks I had a laser procedure to seperate their vessels since doctors found out that I had a twin to twin transfusion syndrome. After the procedure, one baby boy was perfectly fine and another one had a week heart beat. Until then both of them were perfectly healthy boys. A week later, doctors could not find a heartbeat for any of them :( Today, I am going to the hospital to give birth... a different kind of birth. Hopefully I won't go insane...

[Daisymyangel13]

I was 19 weeks and 5 days when I found out that my baby girl has died . We don't know at the moment as it's been 3 weeks since I delivered her as I was told her heart stopped and all I could think is how,why . I want to cremate her but I was told we couldn't as there would be no ashes so we have to bury her . And I know I'm not coping at all as it hurts to see her dead as we had plans for her birth . I hope the pain goes soon so I can move on but she will be in my heart and head forever xxxx love u daisy may xxx

[turnbacktime]

hi i gave birth to my son yesterday at 20 weeks 5 days im so heartbroken my cervix dialated 3 cm at 19 weeks and i had bulging membranes i laid in the transdelenburg position for 4 days before the specialist did an ultrasound and told me i had a late miscarriage and my best option was to terminate the pregnancy but i couldnt do it my baby's heart was still beating and i could still feel him moving i decided to transfer to a high risk hospital where i got progesterone shots to relax my uterus so i dnt have contractions i was on strict bed rest unfortunately 4 days later i went into labor and gave birth to my son it was the hardest thing knowing i wasnt going to be able to take him home with me or ever hear him call me mommy i held my baby while he was dying his heart kept beating for almost 2 hrs and yet the drs said there was nothing they could do to save him his body got so cold that was my first child i was looking forward to being a mom i feel like i was robbed im sitting here pretty much broken remembering the last time i felt him move i was just wondering if there was any moms out there who has been through this and can offer me some advice on how to get through this or any comfort anything im so depressed right now please help

[Ally24]

My heart goes out to all. My world was shaken last week. I was excited to b having our 3rd baby had had 2 straight forward pregnancys. Midwife came at 19 weeks to check up & give scan form. I had both my littlies hovering around to hear heartbeat but nothing... Sent in for scan to see our wee baby just lying there, my heart sunk. He passed away at 16weeks. Two weeks he had been dead & i didnt know, no signs. Sent in to hospital next day to b induced, a 12hr emotional labour that haunts me. I got to see him & hold him & i see his face when ever i close my eyes. Its a lonely journey u hve to go on.
God turns all things for his good, one day i will understand. God knew my little man before he was formed in my womb. He has a hope & a future for him. We called him Malachi; it means My messenger; my angel. He is with his heavenly father & one day i will meet him but for now i know he watches over us & He knows that he was wanted & is so loved.