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So I just found out that my 14 year old niece is pregnant. I do not judge people for their mistakes, but this one is a toughie. Like I said she is 14 pregnant, and she told me she has narrowed it down to 5 men who could be the daddy, and all the men are over 20, 2 which are married.
BUT, Her and her sister who is 16, her mother and mothers boyfriend all live in a dinky little travel trailer like an RV, no running water, no electricity and hardly any food for 4 people to survive on alone. My sister isnt the best mother out there, she is far from clean and far from responsable. Her kids run a mok all over texas having sex, doing drugs and not doing their schooling or anything and she allows it.
She has decided to keep the baby which infuriates(sp) me. How is she supposed to pay to feed and diaper this baby, and this baby which is a little girl will end up with a crappy life making more mistakes than her own children.
Well her answer to that was- I will just press statitory rape charges on the father, collect money from that, and collect child support....!!!! HOW in the heck will a judge allow her to do that when she let her own 14 year old daughter have unprotected sex? She wouldnt even take 30 min to have her daughter go to the free clinic to get birth control or anything to that nature.
She is 14 for crying out loud, and they can't even take care of themselves let alone a helpless baby. How do I explain to her that she needs to put the baby up for adoption. Hubby and I would be willing to do a family adoption but her response to that was *why so you can collect the governments money and not me?* Im not on any government help besides hubbies disability from the army?
Im just pissed off and ready to drive down there and call CPS, because that baby wont make it in a harsh life like that.
BUT, Her and her sister who is 16, her mother and mothers boyfriend all live in a dinky little travel trailer like an RV, no running water, no electricity and hardly any food for 4 people to survive on alone. My sister isnt the best mother out there, she is far from clean and far from responsable. Her kids run a mok all over texas having sex, doing drugs and not doing their schooling or anything and she allows it.
She has decided to keep the baby which infuriates(sp) me. How is she supposed to pay to feed and diaper this baby, and this baby which is a little girl will end up with a crappy life making more mistakes than her own children.
Well her answer to that was- I will just press statitory rape charges on the father, collect money from that, and collect child support....!!!! HOW in the heck will a judge allow her to do that when she let her own 14 year old daughter have unprotected sex? She wouldnt even take 30 min to have her daughter go to the free clinic to get birth control or anything to that nature.
She is 14 for crying out loud, and they can't even take care of themselves let alone a helpless baby. How do I explain to her that she needs to put the baby up for adoption. Hubby and I would be willing to do a family adoption but her response to that was *why so you can collect the governments money and not me?* Im not on any government help besides hubbies disability from the army?
Im just pissed off and ready to drive down there and call CPS, because that baby wont make it in a harsh life like that.
I agree and disagree, It is considered by State Law as statitory Rape, I didnt make that decision, The state will press charges on the man wether or not her family does, it's like if a man beat the hell out of you and you called the cops but didnt press charges, they will still charge him for domestic abuse and he will possibly serve time, because it is a STATE LAW, not something that we have a say in.
Second off no no one held a gun to her head and she made the decision that she made, yes both are at fault, but if she has this baby it will not in any way live. She plans on giving birth at home? A home that is far from clean, and far from being anything close to a happy place.
They have NO running water or electricity and it can get biterly cold living in an over sized vehicle with an infant, let alone how in the hell are they supposed to feed this baby if they cant feed themselves?
Im sorry for your issues that you have been through, but that doesnt mean im going to allow 3 children to sit in that place an rott to death, I will do what I feel is expected of me, and that is to make sure these children do not have the issues that some people have like yourself. IT IS A PARENTS JOB, to protect and love their children, and **** like this happens when there is no love and no protection in the home.
Second off no no one held a gun to her head and she made the decision that she made, yes both are at fault, but if she has this baby it will not in any way live. She plans on giving birth at home? A home that is far from clean, and far from being anything close to a happy place.
They have NO running water or electricity and it can get biterly cold living in an over sized vehicle with an infant, let alone how in the hell are they supposed to feed this baby if they cant feed themselves?
Im sorry for your issues that you have been through, but that doesnt mean im going to allow 3 children to sit in that place an rott to death, I will do what I feel is expected of me, and that is to make sure these children do not have the issues that some people have like yourself. IT IS A PARENTS JOB, to protect and love their children, and **** like this happens when there is no love and no protection in the home.
Why would you press charges against the father when he knew what he was doing and so did she. She was grown enough to lay down and create the baby. This generation grows up too fast and any of them having babies is their own damn fault. Don't take it out on the man just because they had sex, both of them knew what was up when they laid down and did the nasty! She's grown now so let her figure out what she's going to do. I was smart enough to wait until I was damn near married before having sex. When I was 12 my virginity was taken from me without my sayso and guess what I was pregnant and had an abortion because he told me if I didn't I would die. I was beat up and abused until I was 19 years old and to this day I haven't lived right since but then again I'm better off where I am and without that happening I wouldn't be thanking god for my blessings today. I've been thru too much hell and walked through to much water.It is what it is so let the little girl grow up and take care of her responsibilites and if the guy doesn't wanna pay child support then take him to court to pay for child support, don't convict him of something that wasn't like that! Rape.. NO SHE wanted it, it wasn't taken from her. She didn't have a gun to her head saying don't say a word, she didn't get this **** beat out of her! So that's not classified as rape so no judge would believe that, and if they did that would come back and haunt you because that's not true it wasn't rape.
Sorry for the rant and good luck!
Sorry for the rant and good luck!
OMG!
Norrowed down to 5 men who are all in their 20's and 2 are married?!
Here's a list on what I'D do.
I'd find those 5 MEN, find out which one is the daddy, then get ALL of those petofiles locked up.
Get some sort of government income to help her out till her pregnancy is over, and then put that baby up for adoption whether that lil girl wants it or not.
That is disgusting how her mother just lets her run around like that, and then thinks that it would be best to KEEP the poor thing?!
WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER!
That poor baby will NEVER make it living in a situation like that!
That makes me so ANGRY when these lil girls run around dressed like wh0res, sleeping around, getting pregnant, blah blah blah- and their parents LET THEM!
I think they should make it a law that any female under the age of 18 should be on BIRTH CONTROL.
No lie.
I'll tell yah one thing.
Whether my daughter likes it or not, once she hits 12 years old, she is going on birth control whether she likes it or not.
Only because that's when MY SISTER started sleeping around, and I don't need a repeat.
My dad's new wife let her at 12 years old, wear skimpy cloths, cake on whatever make up she wanted, and do whatever the hell she wanted.
She was pregnanct I can't tell you how many times.
And between abortions, morning after pills and whatever... wasting all that money on her, YOU'D FIGURE THEY'D DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!
Ugh I can't even talk about this.
People make me SICK sometimes I can't hardly stand it!
Sorry I ranted.
Norrowed down to 5 men who are all in their 20's and 2 are married?!
Here's a list on what I'D do.
I'd find those 5 MEN, find out which one is the daddy, then get ALL of those petofiles locked up.
Get some sort of government income to help her out till her pregnancy is over, and then put that baby up for adoption whether that lil girl wants it or not.
That is disgusting how her mother just lets her run around like that, and then thinks that it would be best to KEEP the poor thing?!
WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER!
That poor baby will NEVER make it living in a situation like that!
That makes me so ANGRY when these lil girls run around dressed like wh0res, sleeping around, getting pregnant, blah blah blah- and their parents LET THEM!
I think they should make it a law that any female under the age of 18 should be on BIRTH CONTROL.
No lie.
I'll tell yah one thing.
Whether my daughter likes it or not, once she hits 12 years old, she is going on birth control whether she likes it or not.
Only because that's when MY SISTER started sleeping around, and I don't need a repeat.
My dad's new wife let her at 12 years old, wear skimpy cloths, cake on whatever make up she wanted, and do whatever the hell she wanted.
She was pregnanct I can't tell you how many times.
And between abortions, morning after pills and whatever... wasting all that money on her, YOU'D FIGURE THEY'D DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!
Ugh I can't even talk about this.
People make me SICK sometimes I can't hardly stand it!
Sorry I ranted.
I agree with all the rest!!! Call CPS!!! I wish you all the best of luck with this. Please keep us updated. That is such a sad situation. I just feel horrible for this baby....I hope you and your hubby can adopt this baby.
Wow. I am lost for words I just wish you and your family all the best. You got do what you feel is right.
I didn't read all the replies, so forgive me if I say something already said.
Definitely call CPS!!! You have an obligation as a woman, as a citizen of the US, and as their family to make sure that little baby is taken care of and a 14 year old, or her irresponsible mother, are NOT the answer. Yeah, sorry to be judgemental but when a child's life is in the balance, I can't help but be passionate about it.
Get custody and keep us updated!!!
Definitely call CPS!!! You have an obligation as a woman, as a citizen of the US, and as their family to make sure that little baby is taken care of and a 14 year old, or her irresponsible mother, are NOT the answer. Yeah, sorry to be judgemental but when a child's life is in the balance, I can't help but be passionate about it.
Get custody and keep us updated!!!
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