How do you deal with miscarriage?

[babbles123]

I went to the doc today and he said my bleeding is prob a miscarriage.  I was about 4 weeks.  :(  So sad....

How do all of you deal with miscarriage?  
When is it safe to start trying again?

[babbles123]

Thank you so so much for your kind messages  I really appreciate it.  My doc said it most likely is a miscarriage since I'm bleeding like it's a normal period.  But we don't know for sure until we do a urine test after the bleeding stops.  But it's about 99.9% sure.  =(  So sad.  I was only 4 weeks but I can't imagine how devastating it would be to have carried the baby longer.  Thank you all.  

[LosingMyMindInGA]

The best you can.  I have suffered two miscarriages and a full term stillbirth due to a cord accident.  It's never easy.  You need to take the time to heal, both physically and emotionally.  For some women it's easier to get over that hump and start trying again, for others it's much harder and may even require some grief counseling to help come to terms with the loss.  Many women do find that within a few months following a miscarriage they become pregnant again and go on to deliver a healthy baby.  It really depends on when YOU and your parent feel up to the challenge of TTC again.  Please take the time to grieve for the loss of your child if you are in fact having a miscarriage, by doing so you will ensure that you are emotionally ready to go through another pregnancy and handle the uncertainties that come along with it.  Please know that I am very sorry for what you are going through.  

[feather2e]

I am sorry to hear you are going through this. It is a loss and you need to grieve to help you get through the pain you are feeling. There is a miscarriage community where there are a lot of women who have had miscarriage/s or are going through it at the moment. It might help to reach out to someone there.

[debdobs]

I am so so sorry to hear about your loss. Miscarriages are, sad to say this, a common thing. I carried my son for 23wks before i went into premature labour (weak cervix). It doesnt mean there is anything wrong with you physically hun, as my doctor kept on telling me 'it is just one of those things' (gets annoying when they keep saying that!). All i can say to you hun, is chin up, cry when you want to cry and try again. After i lost my son, i tried straight after, and fell pregnant with my daughter. You will never forget what happened, but you just got to pick yourself up and try to think of the future.
Thinking of you hun,
Take care and all the best