What was different this time around?

[Mumita]

Hello!
As some of you know I'm pregnant according to American Pregnancy website I'm 5 weeks 5 days, YAY!
Anyway some of you also know that I had a miscarriage in June.
I don't have too many symptoms other than very sore bbs, I feel like I'm gaining weight already (I know I posted a couple of days ago that I was loosing weight....well not anymore) and I have pregnancy brain.
I'm not getting paranoid but I am trying to keep my hopes really high that this pregnancy will be a good one.

So the question is....I feel totally different from my last pregnancy (the one that ended in m/c)  at least what is different is that I really don't have cramps at all maybe once in a while a little cramp here and there that lasts 2 seconds or when Im having BM.  My last pregnancy I had cramps usually in the mornings and gradually became more pronounced, the cramps were pretty bad and usually my back hurt too.
So....thos of you who have had m/c and then had a successful pregnancy, did you feel any difference from the bad pregnancy to the one that made it?  If you did, what was it?  Did you also have a good feeling about the pregnancy second time around???

[Mumita]

I'm just going to switch to chocolate...Hot chocolate has about the same caffeine as decaff.

[KM604]

When I m/c'd, I didn't even know I was pregnant.  Even though I was like 3 weeks late for my period, the tests were negative.  I was cramping for like 3 weeks and wondered why AF hadn't shown up.  Anyways, I ended up in the ER with severe cramping and heavy bleeding the day after Xmas and it turned out to be a m/c.  The cramping was the only sign I had but like I said I truly didn't think/know that I was pregnant (especially since my periods had been off since going off the pill 3-4 months prior).

BUT, I was supposed to start AF 6/8/08 and hubby and my wedding anniversary was 6/5.  Well we were going to go to Busch Gardens for our anniversary but I just had a feeling about this month.  So we didn't go.  I was even talking to people about whether I should go because I just had a feeling.  Well sure enough I was pregnant.  I can tell you I was worried until we had our first u/s, but the hcg checking helped ease my worries.  I also have fibroids so I was concerned about those, but the OBGYN re-assured me that they were too small to worry about and shouldn't even affect my labor.  But I did have some cramping, which only worried me because of the previous m/c.  Other than that I just had sore bb's until I was around 6 weeks and that's when the m/s started.  So I just had to trust that whatever would happen would happen and there wasn't anything I could do.  But I know that for any future pregnancies I will still be uneasy until I can see/hear the heartbeat (because once you can see/hear the heartbeat the chance of m/c dramatically decreases).  Best of luck to you during your appointment!

[LauraB78]

Gotcha. I drink hazelnut decaf. Maybe try a flavored decaf?

[Mumita]

I'm weaning myself off so I started doing one spoon of decaff and one of regular to start cutting down on the caffeine.  I get massive headaches when I stop caffeine altogether, and I am really not looking forward to the headache since I can't take anything for it.  So little by little......
Decaff just doesn't taste good to me.  I just wish that I would get an aversion to coffee so I don't get tempted.

[LauraB78]

You don't need to give up am coffee, at least not completely! Switch to decaf! Thats what I did.. And I occasionally I have a regular coffee as well. My Dr. says that 2 caffienated beverages per day is totally safe and fine!

[Mumita]

My appointment is at 3:30pm and afterwards I'm getting a haircut so I'll update tonight.

Sweet-  There's no way in hell I'm giving up chocolate, it really doesn't have enough caffeine for me or you to worry about it.  However I'm having a hard time giving up my morning coffee and I am trying to wean myself off of it.  The only way I know I'll be able to is to switch from morning coffee completely is by switching to hot chocolate.
I will spill the beans on the nutritionist, my husband went before and she gave him a whole book of things to eat, so I will probably get the same.

[LauraB78]

Hey.. What time is your appointment today? ?? KEEP US POSTED!!

[sweetangel7]

Oh yeah...I forgot about your appointment!  Good luck!  I'm sure the midwife will tell you all is well and to focus on a healthy pregnancy here and now!  The nutritionist sounds very interesting...You will have to share and post what you learn!  They gave me a sheet of foods recommended during pregnancy for folate, iron etc. but I've never been to a nutritionist AND to be completely honest, I cheat more now than I did in my first trimester...I was eating only fruit and vegetables and cheese for snacks...avoided chocolate like the plague for fear of caffeine etc  But now, sometimes I eat two squares of chocolate a day and eat frozen pizza for dinner if dh will let me get away with it =)  He is very good at making sure I eat nutritious!  But every now and then I like to have something not soo nutritious like tater tots or grilled cheese and I usually have to coerce him quite a bit to let me have it!  I know he just wants what it best for the baby...it isn't a weight thing...it is a health thing.

[Mumita]

Thank you Sweetangel I knew you'd reply :)
I am really trying to not think about my previous miscarriage and I am very hopeful that this one will work out.  I know I didn't do anything to cause the last one....but the thought that something may be wrong with me why I had a miscarriage keeps going through my head.  At least I know that I CAN conceive.
Last pregnancy I wasn't as positive as this one for some weird reason I wasn't very hopeful last time, probably because of the cramps.  But I'm staying positive :)

I have the "confirmation" appointment tomorrow so I guess I'll ask a million questions AND I have an appointment with a nutritionist on Monday which shall be interesting.

[sweetangel7]

AND, this was my doctor's mantra for me:  A miscarriage is not the norm...a healthy pregnancy is.  

[sweetangel7]

I was the opposite...I had no cramping my first pregnancy that I miscarried...I didn't even cramp the day I started spotting...This pregnancy I was constantly crampy from 4dpo so I thought it was a good thing...like it was implanting and doing lots of growing or something lol  I was sooooo worried all the time though with this pregnancy but dh kept saying that he had a good feeling and I guess I did too but that was tough to override my anxiety.  I'd try not to focus on comparing pregnancies because even one to the next in the same woman can be very different never mind woman to woman.  Hang in there and stay positive!