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I can't tell if she's lying
Hi everyone.
So I'm a 32 yr old male and I was carrying on a relationship with a coworker for 4 months. She quickly became obsessed with me, even though I established that we were just hooking up, not dating. We were only hooking up once or twice a month.
Anyway, I ended up hooking up with another girl one night when I was drunk a few months ago. She hacked into my email and found out about it, and went beserk. She called up the girl and told her. She threatened to kill herself (she had cut herself a bunch if times before, has a history of it, and was molested as a kid. Lots of heavy stuff). She tried to cut herself in front of me. It was really ugly.
She got fired a weeks later (for other reasons), and the day she was fired she told me she was late on her period. She texted me the next day saying she went to a doctor and was told she was pregnant (she said they did a blood test). Of course, I'm not ready for this. I talked to her about it and asked to see the receipt from leaving the hospital. She said they didn't give her one. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She said she was definitely getting an abortion so I have nothing to worry about. Now she's kind of wavering. Im pretty scared.
And I'm still not sure she's even pregnant. I haven't seen any proof. When we were having sex, she said she was on birth control (which I know could have been a lie), and even though I didn't use a condom, I always pulled out. I know it's not smart, I know. But for her to actually be pregnant, even without the pill, it would be an insanely small chance. Also, she's lied to me before and sold it really well (was freaking out that her uncle had a heart attack, admitted she was lying the next day because she was mad at me).
She's also drinking a few nights a week with friends and smoking weed a lot. Not necessarily acting like a pregnant woman.
Im wondering if anyone has had experience with this before, and if they have any advice. I'm scared to go over there and demand a test in front of me because I think she could flip out and decide to keep the kid out of spite (if she IS pregnant).
Any help/suggestions? Thanks everyone.
So I'm a 32 yr old male and I was carrying on a relationship with a coworker for 4 months. She quickly became obsessed with me, even though I established that we were just hooking up, not dating. We were only hooking up once or twice a month.
Anyway, I ended up hooking up with another girl one night when I was drunk a few months ago. She hacked into my email and found out about it, and went beserk. She called up the girl and told her. She threatened to kill herself (she had cut herself a bunch if times before, has a history of it, and was molested as a kid. Lots of heavy stuff). She tried to cut herself in front of me. It was really ugly.
She got fired a weeks later (for other reasons), and the day she was fired she told me she was late on her period. She texted me the next day saying she went to a doctor and was told she was pregnant (she said they did a blood test). Of course, I'm not ready for this. I talked to her about it and asked to see the receipt from leaving the hospital. She said they didn't give her one. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She said she was definitely getting an abortion so I have nothing to worry about. Now she's kind of wavering. Im pretty scared.
And I'm still not sure she's even pregnant. I haven't seen any proof. When we were having sex, she said she was on birth control (which I know could have been a lie), and even though I didn't use a condom, I always pulled out. I know it's not smart, I know. But for her to actually be pregnant, even without the pill, it would be an insanely small chance. Also, she's lied to me before and sold it really well (was freaking out that her uncle had a heart attack, admitted she was lying the next day because she was mad at me).
She's also drinking a few nights a week with friends and smoking weed a lot. Not necessarily acting like a pregnant woman.
Im wondering if anyone has had experience with this before, and if they have any advice. I'm scared to go over there and demand a test in front of me because I think she could flip out and decide to keep the kid out of spite (if she IS pregnant).
Any help/suggestions? Thanks everyone.
Tell her to send a picture of the pregnancy test unless she has a pregnant friend.
Haha thanks, ill let you all know.
p.s. I got pregnant on pull out method before lol.. though this does sound like pure lies!
Hmm sounds so stressfull!! I no a girl like this my bf's brothers ex! she did stuff like pretend to have miscarriages etc.. (coo-coo!).. i'd say be 'nice' to her to try and get answers I think brennaD had some good advice there.. act nice tell her you want to go with her for support.. maybe she will co-operate more!.... good luck!! keep us updated on how it goes x
She is crazy!!!! But yes try to go to her next appointment! Let us know how it goes please :) and good luck
My vote is NOT prego...just trying to hurt you!!
Omg she's a psycho. Run away!! lol
Thanks again for the replies. Hopefully getting to the bottom of it tomorrow.
You could offer her support by asking to go with her to the Dr appt or abortion Clinic (even just to get info). That way if she is pregnant you'd be helping her emotionally & that's good for the baby & if she isn't she may have to fess up why she wont take you. You have a right to hear the babies heartbeat & view the ultrasound, so maybe try to use that? Just a suggestion...
You for sure dont need to have sex with her anymore, she might start trying to get pregnant by you. I would think she is lying.
Thank you very much for your replies. Im going to find out one way or another this week.
One thing I didn't mention: she doesn't want anyone else, anyone at all, to know about it except her and I. She said it is because she's embarrassed, but she might just not want to let it get out that she's lying. I dunno, it's all pretty confusing.
One thing I didn't mention: she doesn't want anyone else, anyone at all, to know about it except her and I. She said it is because she's embarrassed, but she might just not want to let it get out that she's lying. I dunno, it's all pretty confusing.
Well...here's the truth. If she wasn't on the pill, the pull out method is not a reliable form of birth control. At all. Many women get pregnant this way (including myself).
With that said, her behavior seems erratic. She could be lying, she could not be lying. Unfortunately, short of stealing her urine when she isn't looking, you won't know until she starts to show or actually has a baby. If she is pregnant, in order to request any monetary help from you, she will be required to have a DNA test. If she has a baby and doesn't request child support, but you think you may still be the father, you have legal rights to get a court ordered DNA test. In that case, even if she is trying to keep the child from you, if it turns out to be yours, you will have legal rights to see the child that will be determined by the courts. Unfortunately, that process can sometimes be long, painful, and tiresome, especially if she is going to fight you about it. However, if she is pregnant with your child, I promise you that your child is worth the fight.
And in the future, if you don't want pregnancy, I suggest condoms, at the very least. Some women can be pretty crazy. Lol good luck and I hope it all works out for you.
With that said, her behavior seems erratic. She could be lying, she could not be lying. Unfortunately, short of stealing her urine when she isn't looking, you won't know until she starts to show or actually has a baby. If she is pregnant, in order to request any monetary help from you, she will be required to have a DNA test. If she has a baby and doesn't request child support, but you think you may still be the father, you have legal rights to get a court ordered DNA test. In that case, even if she is trying to keep the child from you, if it turns out to be yours, you will have legal rights to see the child that will be determined by the courts. Unfortunately, that process can sometimes be long, painful, and tiresome, especially if she is going to fight you about it. However, if she is pregnant with your child, I promise you that your child is worth the fight.
And in the future, if you don't want pregnancy, I suggest condoms, at the very least. Some women can be pretty crazy. Lol good luck and I hope it all works out for you.
Shes not pregnant. Shes crazy
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