off topic...very upset

[luvmybabes]

My ex just got a girlfriend after not having one the last 2 years...well then he got another one and had 2 girlfriends at the same time.. Sammy jo and Liz. Well he had been bringing my kids around Liz a few times but not sammy jo because she lived an hour away,,,but he would let my kids talk to sammy jo on the phone. My daughter had been telling me daddy has two girlfriends mom. I guess My daughter said something in front of Liz about daddys other girlfriend and Liz broke up with my ex. So him and sammy jo are still together. She met my children on tuesday....and then for the second time on friday. HE HAD HER SLEEP OVER AND THEY BOTH SLEPT IN BED WITH THE KIDS ON ONLY THE SECOND TIME SHE MET THEM.( because their father sleeps with them in his king size bed everynight, they dont sleep in their own beds there) I was furious!!! He's 29 and she is 22 or 23.  How irresponsible do you have to be to think that is appropriate!!! He wouldn't let me talk to her so I wrote her a message on facebook telling her how upset I am by this and how inappropriate it is. I haven't gotten a reply back. I was thinking of going back to court and getting the kids to be with me in one house during the week. I am so mad I cant see straight.

[Steph_b]

I'm glad you got a good response from her.  I'm a step mother to the 4 year old boy, and thankfully I get along with his mother, but I always walk on the side of caution when it comes to potentially awkward situations.  I try to put myself in his mothers shoes and think what she would think about the situation.  I think it's a great idea that your children have their own lawyer.  I hope everything works out for the best.

[luvmybabes]

actually, there is alot I can do about it. My kids have their own lawyer that I contacted and let know of what is going on in his house. Messaging her on facebook really worked..she was very nice to me and appoligized for her bad judgment around my kids and assured me it would happen again. Thanks for you advice.

[faye83]

Well different people, different way of dealing with stuff. My only advice is not to send her messages through facebook, email or anything, you'll just end up looking like a psycho! Tell your ex what you think about this situation. Unfortunately there's nothing else you can do about this.

[luvmybabes]

I thought the same thing... My fiance and I did not introduce him to the kids for months. And even then he never slept over. Now me him and the kids live together and are moving into a bigger house next month and getting married in august and having twins in june!! and we are all very happy and he is very good with my kids and I beleive he loves just as much as I do. So I know that eventually they may have another women in there life that acts like a mother figure but I really dont want it to be a 22 year old with no sense!!!!!!!

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I would be so furious too.  I would make sure to document this and I would definately take it to court NOW becuase he continues this crap and teaches the kids all kinds of things that are wrong on so many levels.  That is TOTALLY inappropriate.....he shouldn't even be introducing them to these girls at this point.