He's now healthy and happy***
Didn't happen to me..I went in at 9pm with bad cramps...was sent home without being checked and told it was probably early labor..
3 hours later the cramps were more intense and frequent and I had the urge to push...went back to hospital abd I was dialated to 9cm.
2 hours of pushing and no pain relief our boy was born.
I didn't tear either...he's not healthy and happy 2 week old baby.
They don't happen to everyone, but they can happen. Listen to your doctor. If they say don't push don't. It allows time for stretching & reduces the risk of tears. As far as pooping there's not a lot you can do. If it happens it happens. I've had 3 girls & never have. My first was a tough delivery with lots of pushing but it didn't happen. If it does they probably won't even tell you. I ask my mom if I ever did since she was there for them all & she said no, but she had with my sister. No matter what happens a healthy baby is the desired result so relax & focus on that. Congrats.