Miscarriage or irregular period?

[jazmine88]

I have not had a period since xmas 2010, prior to that my periods have been regular, I have done a pregnancy test and it came out negative. On tuesday i started bleeding a tablespoon full of blood and assumed i had started my period. When i got home that evening my legs, back, abdo area all were hurting alot and i was feeling really sleepy and feverish and cold.
The next morning i woke up and had no further bleeding, at lunchtime i still  had no further bleeding so i phoned my doctor surgery to make an appointment just to be on the safe side. They were closed, and it automatically connected me through to NHS Direct. After a convo with them i was referred to the A&E department of the hospital and told to get seen there...I WAITED A FURTHER 7HOURS and was seen around7.30ish by a local GP who said i was not pregnant and he I will need to go back to my local DR's surgery and get seen by them to get referred for an ultra-sound scan. I have just been to my Dr's and been seen by a medical nurse and she said it seems like you have had a miscarriage and there would be no point to refer you for a scan because they take approx 4weeks and by then it would be pointless. I was gobsmacked I said I need to know If i have ever been pregnant and now have had a miscarriage or wether it was just an irregular period due to various factors e.g. stress.
she spoke to me in a dreadful manner i could not stop crying, I said im only 21 I have never been in this situation before it would have been my first pregnancy I NEED someone to take ownership and confirm wether i have EVER been pregnant and have miscarried or if it was an irregular period. She said I AM TELLING YOU there is no point to get an ultra sound scan done, you WERE pregnant, you have a missed miscarriage as I was only 5-7weeks apparently.
I dont understand how she could say that as i have not been confirmed as being pregnant let alone loosing a child.
I have contacted private medical centres and they will do a scan to confirm if i ever had anything, however i dont undertand why i should have to go throught all that trouble when my Doctor could have it arranged.

I feel totally confused i dont know if anyone could look at the situation with a fresh set of eyes and help me.

[amy_1985]

im in Manchester :-))

Its rubbish it takes 4 weeks to arrange a scan hun its easily done the same day like i mentioned iv had a scan within a few hours its totally possible (( she probs just cant be bothered filling in the form!)) also like i said before if you have had a miscarriage and still have ramaining bits of the baby inside you,you can get infections and have future fertility problems i defo wouldnt be leaving it just at that and i would be making a complaint if you are having a miscarriage she should have been more sympathetic and understanding and take your feelings into consideration.

[jazmine88]

Hi Amy,
Yeh I live in leeds, that was my point exactly if the pregnancy tests are negative how can she confirm i have had a miscarriage? Another thing i dont understand is why it can take 4weeks to arrange the scan there could be parts of the baby still inside me..
I DONT know how you should feel after a miscarriage but it just doenst seem emought to brush under the carpet..

[amy_1985]

Firstly this must have been a horrible experience, Anyone who has every had a miscarriage your hormones are up the wall you dont know if your coming or going then to be treated the way you have is really unaceptable.
If your in the uk ((which i think you are)) they can send you for a scan the same day i know i went to my docs at 8.40am by 10am i was having a scan at the hosp so it is possible! Its absolutly ridiculous that they will not give you a scan to confirm any of this if you have indeed had a miscarriage they should be checking if you have anything left over as this can cause infection and furure fertility probs.
Also i dont get how she can "confirm" a miscarriage without doing a scan/HCG beta bloods and with you having a negative HPT- ALthough its totally possible. Also you said that you had been to A&E and they had done a test and it was negative so how on earth can she make this diagnosis?? ((i can feel your frushtration!!))
If you can i would rebook an appointment with your GP tell them its an emmergency i wouldnt see anyone else other than him/her and insit they check you over Properly this time!

This prob wasnt much help just thought id add a comment **big hugs!!!**