Late miscarriage

[radame_31602]

With my first pregnancy I lost my baby girl when I was 29wks. I am now at that point in my second pregnancy and even though I know he is healthy and fine, I can't help but worry and have nightmares every night about some freak thing happening and I lose the baby I am carrying now. Has anyone else ever gone through something similat and what did you do to relax?

[rebekah385]

I am always now reassured when I reach 28 weeks, because that is the point that barring any complication like you had with your 1st one they have a much higher rate of saving the baby is it were to come early. I had my first baby at 28 weeks, I had no prior inclination that the baby was going to come early and was a terrified 18 year old with no one around to help me (my parents lived out of state, my BF lived 6 hours away, my best friend was in college) well they could'nt stop the labor, but he was born 3lbs 16in long. He had to stay in the hospital for 2 months, but i will never forget how scared i was for him. atleast since you say this baby is healthy if it were to come now you have over an 80% chance of your baby surviving, that is always a comfort to me when I get to that stage of pregnancy. My 2nd pregnancy I started contracting at 5 months and was terriied that she was going to come and not make it, they put me on bedrest and medication to stop labor and she made to 36 1/2 and was born healthy. my 3rd ended in a MC at 12weeks, and i subsequently became pregnant on accident within 6 weeks of the miscarriage, so then i was terrified of getting to 12 weeks and then about getting to 28 Weeks. I made it through for a fullterm baby that time and have recently found out that i am pregnant again, so here goes a 12 and 28 week wait for me again! Try not to stress (I kinow it's hard), but as long as the baby is healthy there is no reason it should'nt be fine this time! My prayers are with you, and in 11 weeks hope to hear about you and your healthy baby.

[MissingMyAngel]

IM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. I LOST MY FIRST BABY GIRL AT 25 WEEKS. NOW IM 32 WEEKS PREGNANT WITH MY SECOND GIRL AND THIS WHOLE 8 MONTHS TO BE HONEST WITH YOU ITS BEEN NERVERACKING AND VERY NERVOUS! MY OB AND PERI BEEN VERY PATIENT WITH ME SINCE I CALL THEM LIKE EVERY OTHER WEEK WITH A NEW SYMPTOM AND WHEN IM NOT SURE OR WORRY OF ANYTHING I GO TO THE THE HOSPITAL EVEN IF IS AT 3 AM AND YEA THEY CALL HIM TO TELL HIM IM THERE BUT HE UNDERSTANDS MY CONCERNS. AND I DON'T CARE IF THEY THINK IM ANNOYING BUT AS LONG AS MY BABY IS OK AND I GET A PEACE OF MIND. BUT I BEEN TRYING TO STAY CALM AND RELAX AND SOMTIMES IS HARD SPECIALLY AFTER A LATE MISCARRIAGE/STILLBIRTH. I STAY POSITIVE AND PRAY AND PRAY TO GOD AND MY LIL ANGEL TO TAKE CARE OF HER LIL SISTER. AND I CAN'T WAIT TO GET TO MY DUE DATE ALREADY TO FINALLY BRING MY BABY HOME..SHE MIGHT COME EARLY DUE TO MY UTERUS BUT IM HOPING TO MAKE IT TO AT LEAST 37-38 WEEKS! MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU AND STAY POSITIVE! IM HERE IF YOU NEED TO TALK OR IF YOU NEED SUPPORT IM FEELING THE SAME WAY AND IS NORMAL..TAKE CARE!

[radame_31602]

Oh that's ok. I have been pregnant before and have had these pains before, but I don't remember some parts of it because it was 4 yrs ago and I keep wondering if it felt this way and was she in position like this baby is. That's what scares me having these pains is because he looks like he is ready for his welcoming to the world and I don't know if she was in that position around this time. I don't think she was though.

[Grandmatobe]

I am so sorry for your earlier loss.  I didn't see this post before responding to your other one.

[radame_31602]

Thanx for all the kind words. It was hard having the late miscarriage. I had to go through the delivery, we got to hold her and stuff. Then having a funeral wasn't easy either, we barried her on top of my mom. My mom died when I was 17, so it was hard not to have her around at that time, but it's also hard to not have her around when this pregnancy is going so well too.

[julianovak]

Oh im sorry.... i am also against abortian, and if that happened to me, i also wouldve stayed with the pregnancy..... regardless of what the doctor told me. That pure little heart is in heaven now ;)

[msniki412]

It is natural to have concerns and to be scared once you suffer a loss. No matter how many doctors tell you that this next baby is fine, you will still have those feelings in your mind because you lost your first baby late into the pregnancy. I think those are the worse to have to deal with. All miscarriages are hard to deal with, but when you lose one late into the pregnancy...it's just 10x harder. It's nice that you have your friends and family around you to help ease your emotions and feelings during this pregnancy. You will feel 100% better once you have that sweet baby in your arms. I pray for you to have a healthy (and speedy!!) delivery when it comes time.

[radame_31602]

She had a conginital heart deffect. I had complications pretty much the whole time I was pregnant w/ her. One dr told me I should have an abortion and I just couldn't do it, I left it up to God and he made the desision that was right for all of us. I will be glad when I get out of this wk! I know he is healthy and we luckily have had no problems w/ him what so ever. I think more then anything it is bringing back all the emotions I was going through then. I have tons of friends and family to help me stay strong and my mind on the future w/ him thankfuly. Thank you for your advice.

[julianovak]

WOW 29 wks? was it an umbilical accident?? im so sorry, you just have to know that even though some of us havent experianced a loss we can certainly understand the worry and stress you are in........... i was worried about my chlild the entire pregnancy, to top it off i got in an accident when i was 8months........... the next morning i didnt remember her moving at all......... i was shaking as i drove up to he delivery ward...... and when i heard the heartbeat i started bawling my brains out i was petrified......... even now i thank the Heavenly Father for letting us have her in our lives.......  i am sure history will not repeat itself........... whenever you start worrying about his, just change the topic, and start doing something, get busy......... maybe watch a movie or go for a walk.... or call up one of your friends and ask them about there new uears...???? just some ideas.... but honestly that is the only thing that eased my mind. changing my topic or getting busy with something