Changed pill brands, used a condom properly and pulled out.

[lovinglife53]

So i was on Yaz for 5 months, and i just found it to be so expensive (unemployed uni student). I had just finished my last yaz packet on the 23rd of Dec. On the 24th of Dec, i went to the doctor and she suggested i change to levlen ed (since it is way cheaper), she prescribed me and told me to take the first levlen pill at my usual time on that day (which is always at 4:30 - SHARP).
Anyway, she clearly told me not to have sex for one week... my boyfriend and I were doing SO well & not having sex.... until Tuesday night, the 27th of dec, we had sex :/ BUT we used a condom POPERLY, and he pulled out.
i am SO SO scared of falling pregnant, i am so scared that i have even lost sleep over it...
My boyfriend and i are both 21, have been together for 5 years, and we both only had sex 6 months ago.
Can someone please tell me what the chances are of falling pregnant?

p.s please dont say "why are you having sex if you are so paranoid?" because i am DEFINITELY going to wait till marriage till i have sex again.

[lovinglife53]

hahaha yeah sex ed video's in gym class is all i got. As much as i love my parents to death and they have ALWAYS been there for me, i sort of blame them for having my fear of sex and falling pregnant.

i know, and i feel SO bad each time i ask him. I just feel though that i cant talk to my friends about it because they always tell me im being so stupid for worrying (which is why i am SO glad to have found this site). but i have honestly read so many posts of women falling pregnant whilst on the pill and using condoms. it just completely freaks me out! and then i start thinking that it is going to happen to me. and what if i was pregnant right now.. as special as sex is, it loses its value when all you do for the next 4 weeks is hoping SO badly that your period comes.

nono, definitely too young to tie the knot. Really want to finish my studies first, travel the world, and wait till the boyfriend is finished with the navy :)

[MsKitty84]

Totally understand. I was raised kinda like that too. (The "talk" for me was getting assigned the sex chapter in Dr. Dobson's Preparing for Adolescence, and pretty much never talking about it again.)

Yup, asking a guy all about pregnancy after every trip to bed is just going to freak him out. That's a worry to share with a girl pal or a counselor, not your man. That level of fear isn't something you should have to live with. I't's not a healthy concern. There are only a few days out of the month when a woman's body is ready to conceive, and even if you're PLANNING a baby, your shot at pregnancy is about 1 in 4 or a little less at best.

As far as marriage goes, well you've been together 5 years already. You're both pretty young, some would say too young to be married, but I think that really depends on both of you and what you think you're ready for. It's time for some pretty serious conversations because honestly, you won't be able to go on like this for a whole lot longer without driving yourselves crazy. If you're not OK with premarital sex, and he knows that, then you need to start having more serious talks about marriage.

[lovinglife53]

Thank you so much for your help guys. you really have helped me to relax a little bit. Ever since i can remember, my parents have made me think sex was wrong until marriage. i NEVER had the birds and the bee's talk. my parents always told me that God was always watching, and wont be happy if i do anything "naughty".

I told my boyfriend that i wanted to wait till marriage (we met when we were 16) and he waited for me until we were 21 to have sex. We are so inlove...and he talks about getting married all the time. (any guy that waits 4 years without having sex for his girlfriend, clearly loves her)

but every time after we have sex, i can tell i annoy him so much asking him "do you think i could be pregnant? what if?". i ask him SO many times because i am just so paranoid. its just not worth it in the end. it just ruins the whole meaning of sex :(

[MsKitty84]

Sorry, just thought of something. You mentioned being an unemployed college student. Most universities require students to have health insurance and it's usually pretty good coverage. I'm assuming you saw somebody at your school clinic.

If you really can't afford your birth control (been there!), then depending on where you live, you might want to seek out your local Planned Parenthood, your public health nurse, or another nearby women's health clinic. Most of these places take insurance but also work on a sliding fee scale, which means that if your income is low, you should be able to get your pills either very cheaply or even free of charge.  

[MsKitty84]

On your pregnancy question -- your chance of pregnancy is extremely low. You were on the pill for several months before this, even if you were supposed to wait a week for your new BC to fully kick in, and you also used a condom. Using a condom properly means start to finish -- no "messing around" and adding one at the last minute. If that's what you did, you're probably not pregnant.

Please be aware that pulling out does not make any difference. That is not birth control and absolutely can get you pregnant -- worse, if your partner is not clean and faithful, you can get an STI. What protects you in the case of a birth control failure is the condom, not the pulling out.

Keep a couple things in mind. You just switched pills, and you've spent a good deal of time stressing about premarital sex and your pregnancy chances. Both of those things can cause side effects, including a delayed period. Feeling sick or having your period be off a few days does NOT mean you are pregnant. In addition, having sex with a new partner can mess up a woman's cycle. If it's been 6 months since you and your boyfriend first had sex and you were not sexually active till now, don't be surprised if that throws your period off a little too.

[MsKitty84]

On your last point -- I applaud your desire to wait until marriage. I hope your boyfriend shares your commitment. If he doesn't, you have some relationship issues to work out. This won't work unless both of you are dedicated to making it happen.

However, sex is one of those things that often just happens in the heat of the moment, even when you don't plan on it. Once you've had sex with someone, especially someone you care about, it's much, much harder to avoid doing it again. This is how people are wired, and admitting it doesn't make you "bad" or "weak." It's natural and normal. It's better to be prepared for the fact that even if you both want to wait, physical desire may prove to be stronger than your willpower more than once or twice. You're going to need an action plan in place for how you're going to deal with it. That includes using protection, of course, if you do have sex again.