My pregnant girlfriend keeps pushing me away HELP!

[mrblue1979]

This pregnancy was not planned,however we were very happy and planned our wedding when we found out she was pregnant,I bought her the engagement ring and everything was happiness and joy and plans for the future,until the 12th week,she became totally EVIL and CRAZY towards me,she said she did not feel like talking to me anymore and she did not love me so she dumped me!,she works out of town in different cities of the US and I have not seen or talked to her in 3 months(i just text her to see how she is doing,thats all she wants) because she says she does not want anything with me,she wont send me a pic of the baby's ultrasound and says I dont have any rights on the baby because I only put one sperm and she is the one doing all the work on this pregnancy,says she wants to be a single mom and wants the baby all for herself,she even picked the name w/o consulting me!,she decided she is going to give birth at the state she lived before but told me that I could see my baby whenever i want to,she is now 20 weeks and it looks that as pregnancy goes on she becomes more irrational,all this is breaking me in pieces i just dont know what to do!,before the pregnancy we had a great relationship in all aspects and she was very sweet and loving,we were first bf/gf we have been really close since we were little kids and I just don't understand why shes acting like this now,one of her friends told me that she thinks I got her pregnant on purpose but this is not true!!?I love her and I want to be with my baby when she is born,but she keeps pushing me away and doing and saying things that I really dont deserve because I've been very supportive,to the point of give her money for maternity clothes,send her flowers and all I get is rejection and hate from her!Could anyone that has been through this impart some words of wisdom?Am I ever gonna see that sweet,caring and loving girl that I had before,Isn't this a lil too extreme to be hormones?

[Cassandrajane]

Ive not been a Moody pants in this one... but ill make up for it. Haha, Just be supportive and let her know you;re there and stuff, she might change after she's given birth you never know... Just gotta wait and see, I know easier said than done, But if thats what you gotta do, then so be it.
Im sorry you;re going through this, I know its hard and everything but you gotta holdd tight. :)

good Luck, We're all here if you need anything :)

xx

[mrblue1979]

Thank you all for taking the time and responding to my question,I guess she does not have blood running through her veins but crazy pregnancy hormones!she knows that im going to support her and be a father to my lil girl no matter what,I just wish she would calm down on her mood swings and think before she speaks,I wish she could put her hormones aside for a second and let me be with her and feel my baby kick and punch,hopefully she will get better by the third trimester?Thanks again and I hope i can get more comments/advice on this because knowing that this behavior  is kinda "normal"during pregnancy makes me feel a lil relieved!

[Cassandrajane]

I remember when I was pregnant the first time (I had to terminate due to illness, plus i didnt even know I was pregnant haha) Anyways, I remember kinda being very very Paranoid of my bf as there were rumours going around, and things (all of the things i turned out to be worried about were true though) but anyways, I was really horrible to him and stuff (We were breaking up anyways, I could sense it, I obv just eased it on more) Anywaysafter 6 months of me being such an idiot towards him, he broke up with me, and then i turned into the position you;re in, just wanting to get back to the way things were when we were happy. That happened about 3 months later though...

Now I understand it was hormones that made me that way, and It wasnt very nice.
But, in all honesty she really shouldnt stop you from EVERY right to your baby. She is yours aswell after all. When the baby is born, you are able to go to court and get parental rights though, as you dont seem unfit and unable to look after a child. So the courts will grant you Shared Custody, which means you will possibly have your baby on the weekends or something they will sort out a parenting plan. Things may change when she has her baby and realises how much work babies actually are. Haha.
If they havent changed within a month after she is born, they I suggest talking to her seeing if she will let you see her, if she does then see if you're allowed regular contact, which you have to agree too and keep it constant, If she changes one weekend say when you;re meant to see her and she says you cant... then I suggest court and getting Shared Custody, and Maybe the more you seee of your Daughter and your ex, then maybe her feelings might come rushing back when she sees how good you are with the baby.


But she wasnt right in doing this, My boyfriends sister is currently doing this at the moment and I do not think its very fair.
But things will work out for the best :)


xx

[BTS1022]

I am definitely going to say hormones! They hit me like a metal baseball bat when I hit 13 weeks, and although with this pregnancy I wasn't evil or b!tchy....I was very emotional, heck I cried at the charmin commercial for toilet paper because I use charmin and I don't get the same results as the little bear in the commercial.

Just give her some time, sometimes though the hormones can last through the whole pregnancy, sometimes only for a few days/weeks. When I went through my hormonal stage it lasted for about a week....and let me tell you it was the WORST week I have ever gone through. Just stay patient, and calm when she freaks out on you, harder said than done sometimes I know, but it's whats best for her, you and the baby right now. No matter what she says support her! We need all the support we can get at this stage, and the truth behind it all, is that we usually with being pregnant, realize we're being emotional or crabby, we just don't know why. It will soon pass, and everything should be back to normal.

Good luck!

[martikadragoon]

it could definitely be the hormones. she could be experiencing depression of sorts. I think you two need to have a heart to heart.

hormones can cause crazy issues, including serious depression. you need to talk to her, without getting too emotional and you can always talk to your doctor about it or ask to go to her dr's appointment with her so that you can talk to her OB about any questions you have. Congrats on your daughter!!!