anxiety? third child?

[gatorgrl12]

Umk. So i am 22 years of age and happily married for 5 years. My husband an i are expecting our 3rd child. I am starting to get this weird feelings :( i have an very independent beautiful 3 year old daughter who is intelligent way beyond her age. And a 4 year old who has a few problems. Some yet to be fully diagnosed. He is so loving and helpful. But has learning disabilities as well as speech. Possibly dyslexic and autistic. As well as having terrible anxiety. He is my baby and is really needy and shy. My daughter i know will adjust just fine . She loves babies. But i just worry i will be in some way neglecting them. Or not have enough time or love to give. Is it normal for me to feel this way.  I am 9 weeks and suffered a miscarriage last year so i am truly happy and greatful to be pregnant. Just having weird emotions.

[gatorgrl12]

Thank you. Im glad its normal. I was feeling so bad for feeling negative. I have yet to tell my children about the baby. I miscarried 6 months ago and want to be a bit farther before i let them in on it lol but i have been trying to ease them in other ways with friends babies  and photos and such. Im sure they will love their new sibling. My hormones are just getting the best of me i guess lol. My sons disabilities are all so new and still fresh in my mind. So i think that also is weighing on my heart.  

[Bri_1985]

Hey gator! First, congratulations :) Second, I totally understand how you feel. I have an eight yr old daughter who is smart as a whip. And I have 2 boys - 5 & 2 yrs, the oldest diagnosed with Autism and the youngest not yet diagnosed. There isnt much I can do to explain to my 2 yr old whats happening. BUT my five yr old looks at ultrasound pics with me on my phone - I have the Im Expecting app on my phone. So he is able to at least see what his baby brother is "looking" like in my tummy every week. This has helped a lot! When hes having his good moments hes always putting his hand on my stomach and talking to his little brother trying to get him to kick. He still doesnt fully understand... but I know he'll be better prepared than he would be otherwise. And he'll be a great big brother because he is for my 2 yr old.

[Combs7]

I think your feelings are quite normal. I feel the same way sometimes & my kids are older & very independant. Some how we just find the time & the love to go around to everyone. We are lucky that as women we were blessed with the ability to handle so much & make it work. You can do it momma.