bad mummy?

[raenewmummy]

Im a ftm and me and my partner have decided to bottle feed our baby when he/she arrives due to personal circumstances it will be easier but when I mentioned it to my midwife she sorta looked down her nose at me and was far from willing to accept my decision does prefering to formula feed really make me a bad mummy? Xxx

[2ndbaby77]

No. I didn't even try to breastfeed my daughter. Abd she is as smart as can be and healthy.

[sharichajewski]

It doesnt make u a bad mommy at all. I wanted to breastfeed with my first and unforyunately i wasnt able to as my milk never came in. My son is now 3 and as healthy as can be. You can bond with your child te same way with a bottle and even better as u.can have eye.contact and still have skin to skin contact. Im not sure if ill.be able to breastfeed again this time and im honestly not sure if im going to try. I had a horrible experience witjh it the first time and jut loved bottle feeding. Theres always going to be people who are judgemental and swear by breastfeeding but dont let them get u down stand your ground and know ur doing the right thing. Ps about the csection and being overweight is totally bs. I was very overweight with my first and had a natural birth. I lost a ton of weight after baby and went into this.pregnancy alot healthier and hoping.for natural again:)

[Tay9662]

doctors prefer you not to formula feed if possible because of the deaths that were cause'd by it in 2008 and 2009(the formula manufactuers were gerber and Enfamil) they also say it can increase the risk of sids(because the babys will usually overeat and fall into a "deep sleep"), I've saw 3 different lactation consultents and after they all explained basically the same thing and how bad formula was I totally changed my mind about formula(I was going to strickly formula feed because they told me theres a 75%chance ill have a C-section) but I was told I could pump and that would keep pressure off my stomach.. they also say its better bonding time with the mom and baby, and babys are overall healthier if breastfeed they get more nutrients and also get antibodies from the mother

[beautifulsin]

No you're not a bad mother ! I had my baby 2 months ago. I didn't even breast feed once. He's been on formula since day one. We currently use the enfamil newborn. The powder and the ready to use ones when we go out. There's many of us out there who never breast fed. You'll be fine :)

[chickenlittle13]

You are most deffinetly not a bad mommy bc u want to bottle feed. im not exclusively breast feedin either. im using both bottle and breast. some women just cant handle the stresses of breast feedin and sometimes its more convenient to bottle feed. u do what is best for u honey.

[steffimariee]

Don't let them guilt you into it. I'm doing half/half. I wont be publicly bf but I will at home. And you more than likely won't need a c section. I'm overweight and mine has never even mentioned a cs. Your midwife sounds lame.

[ImDelicate]

I don't think that makes you a bad mommy at all! Heck! Not feeding your baby makes you a bad mommy lol! Anyway! Do what is comfortable for you and screw her! And I suggest a new midwife as well! She is too judgemental and idk what she has going as far as your weight. That doesn't sound like professional advice to me. But I say do what you feel is best for you and your baby and screw everyone else!

[valalerie]

I definitely does not make you a bad mom! I didnt breast feed my first. She was on formula since she was born. I didnt even attempt it. Most people looked down on me because i didnt even try but i dont care. Y daughter is perfectly healthy and has only been sick once in three years. So i personally dont see anything wrong with not breat feeding.

[raenewmummy]

Thanks for thwe advice hun il keep ya posted xx

[Kiya3]

That's with any size women it all depends on ur medical history and how u are when its time to deliver...... Don't worry eat as healthy  as u can and don't stress and u and the baby will be ok....

[Kiya3]

Yessss please do and relax no need to stress about it...... I hope everything goes well keep me posted... :)

[raenewmummy]

She says its because larger women have more difficulties during pregnancy and find it harder to have a natural birth xx

[raenewmummy]

Yeah gonna ring another centre up on monday :) as stressing over having a c sec isnt good for me or baby xx

[Kiya3]

Y would u have to have a c section because she says ur a lil over weight that makes no since my friends had a natural birth and she is a bit over weight yea I think its time to change ur midwife.......

[raenewmummy]

Just makes me fwel awkward I may just do that as im a little bit overweight but wouldnt say im obese ive known bigger ladies than me having babies but all she seems to say is I wont be able to have a natural birth il have to have a c sec the one thing I really dont want xx

[Kiya3]

No it doesn't make u a bad mom don't pay ur midwife no attention its ur baby u do what u want to do with ur child if she has a problem just find another midwife.....