1st pregnancy

[rabit123]

I feel that my momma don't want to help me out. im having trouble understanding whenever I go to the clinic. & every time I ask her for a ride to the clinic she's so rude and tells why don't u pik up a day that u bf has a day off which is the first time I ask her my bf works 24/7 . I know I can't judge her but I wish she can be more supportive.  I try telling her but it's not use she rather spe d her gas time with her new boyfriend.  

[knufrio]

I wouldn't be upset*

[knufrio]

I wasn't meaning to be offensive, yes a girl should be able to turn to her mother for assistance however moms aren't obligated to help. Especially if communication is bad it sounds like her mother is more the "tough love" type. I know of I needed anything my.mother would try to help but if she said no I'd be upset. Someone had mentioned what if she didn't have money for a cab and personally I don't find that answer acceptable. If you can't afford things like that you shouldn't be having a baby. From birth to 18 years the average child costs over $750,000 and if that's a stretch for you than perhaps a child should have been put on hold for a little while. Especially because most of the people on this thread are younger and have plenty of time to have children.

[Chevi93]

You and your mom need to have a sit down and talk things out. It might help. Tell her how you feel but also listen to how she feels.
Me and mom have a mother daughter relationship but I'm the mother she's the child
Can your boyfriend ask to leave work for at least an hour or two?

[rabit123]

& u see that's the part I don't get my mom went thru difficult time with her mom  when she was a child!at the age of 21 was pregnant as well and she was alone by herself well with my dad but he had to work as well. Why can't she be" I know how that feels ill try to go to some of my daughters clinic so I can help her understand"  I mean yes im grown up and did this child but she knew how long it took me to get pregnant. She don't look happy like I expected she would be.

[joceeykittykitty]

Maybe she's upset and didn't want you to end up preggers. I assume by her reaction she is. .. but later on I'm sure it will sink in and approve of all of it. I hope she finds it in her heart. You're her daughter, I know I'd always be there for my daughter no matter what choices she makes, shell always be my lil girl. Hope all goes well for you

[rabit123]

Thanks ladies for your comments and options.  IT'S not all about the rides and the favor I don't feel her support or advice.. I know she herself felt the same way when she was younger why can't she be " Oh well let's see what my daughter needs help  on "  I know she loves me like I love her but we've always have had bad communication.  I just wish she can give me advice and tell me everything will be fine.  

[DANIELluvzSHORTTY]

I think it all depends on how her mom waz raised by her granma,cuz if she just those kind of moms regardless of the boyfriend she still wont be for her...witch i bet it suckz cuz is your first,and what best but to share every moment with ur mom

[1st_time_mommyscarbro]

Sad shes putting a bf before her family though. Family always comes first. I have my own house and vehicles but if I wasnt feel great and needed a ride somewhere my mother in law(whom is a mother figure for me) would drive 45 minutes from out of town just to help me out. Maybe make sure your mom knows you need her for moral support and even offer her money for gas to help her out. Its her grand baby and she should want to be a little involved anyway. I would just sit her down and have a heart to heart with her. Thats all you can really do. And all you ladies above ^^^^ I would hope after your child is an adult you dont its less of a priority to be there for them because they will always be your children no matter how old and Family ALWAYS comes first....not no boyfriend or etc!!!

[usernameistaken55]

Ash060115 agreed 100. If u can't count on ur own family then who can u count on? Knufrio wat if there isn't cases or she doesn't have the money. She said the first time she asked her mom she reacted that way. So according to most the answers because she's pregnant she can't ask her mom for a single thing even once. That's ridiculous. Every one needs help grown or not. Im sure all y'all have asked someone for help at one point. If u got any assistance from the government then that's help. If u have someone whee paying ur bills while u slow down cuz of pregnancy that's help to regardless if its the father of ur child or not. Cuz he's helping you. Not saying any of u fit in any of those things but I'm saying every one needs help. I myself don't have a mother or father but I believe 100 that ur parents should b ur rock. Her mom can help her n expect her to pay her back if needed but to just walk away wen she is needed is harsh

[ash060115]

I honestly don't know what relationships you guys above have with your mothers... but I am in my mid twenties I've my own home six years ... and my mother would still have no problem giving me a lift anywhere!  Infact she offers most of the time...

now in saying that if she had something to do I would ***** about her not giving me a lift. .. its not her job but I can see why  rabit123  is upset she just wants support ...
I don't think wanting support has anything to do with maturity or being a parent.  

Rabit maybe tell your mum you need her support and friendship now and see how things go x

[jamie2464]

I swear I no alot of moms who do that just cuz they got new boyfriend I no all u want is probably aaffection from ur mom so she can guide u theirs nothing wrong with that right now asking ur mom for things or favors is not the best thing to do she sees u as a women not a child and basically expect ur dude to deal with ur luggagr and saying this cuz thats how I felt about my dad and he said it( ur grown ask ur man to do it my job is done) just learn to bite ur tongue and do things on ur own cuz me personally I felt like if I was a bother to my father

[knufrio]

I don't think they are rude at all. I think mom is just trying to teach a lesson in responsibility. You were grown enough to make a baby, you can't rely on your mother anymore. Yes she can help you if she wants but she has the right to say no. Part of being a parent and an adult is taking responsibility for your own actions. If you don't have a ride, you can always take a cab. Part of being a parent is getting by on your own. What would you do if your child was sick and needed to go to the Dr and you didn't have a ride? You'd find a way there I'm sure even if it inconveniences you.

[usernameistaken55]

Thats ur mom...she should b there for u always. These girls r rude. If they needed their mom at some point they know they'd b upset if she wouldn't help at all. Maybe see if ur bf will give her gas money to drive u just to prove to her she's not gn have to do every thing. Sometimes tho parents step back wen they think it is best even if it's not a good time. Ur still her child tho.

[jalainalparks]

What she said. The sooner you two figure out how to be parents the better. You'll appreciate it later.

[jaaked]

She isn't obligated to help you. You & your partner made that baby not her. She can do whatever she wants with the gas she works& pays for. But ask your partner if he can take half a day off or something. Lean on him for support if your mom isn't willing