doctor talking down to me

[Abfsmomma]

Lately I've been feeling like my doctor kind of talks down to me..I'm 18 so I'm a young mom but I feel like she should be there for me more than anything. She talks to me as if I'm dumb or can't comprehend what she's saying to me and its starting to get a little bothersome to me. It's really too late in my pregnancy to change doctors, but I'm getting sick of her talking to me like I'm dumb. I don't want to say anything and offend her or make her angry especially since I have a few more weeks and she's delivering my baby. But I feel like I shouldn't have to deal with this. Any advice?

[Starzabove9]

Part of showing people that you are a responsible young woman is standing up for yourself in a professional manner. There is no way I would just shut up and take it. This is your time to feel special and amazing. You have to speak with her asap. If she is that aweful, imagine how she be during labor. Its painful enough as it is and you dont want a doc thats gonna ignore your pain threshold. Its gonna stress you and the baby out. You need to speak with her, she works for you, shes not doing you a favor by delivering ur baby.

[Ana_87]

I love the doctor I have now too..I've been seen her since my second pregnancy.she never judge me and made me feel comfortable all the time..

[mrsreeder2be]

I'm so glad I have an amazing ob. He is wonderful. He has been my Dr for all three pregnancies including when I was pregnant at 19. He never once talked down to me. He supported me and helped me. You really should talk to your Dr and voice how she makes you feel.

[Abfsmomma]

Thank you for your advice! I think I'm going to try and talk to her and voice how I feel. She has no reason to judge me for being a young mom. I'm owning up to my responsibilities and so is my fiance, its not like I'm not getting all my prenatal care!

[candims]

I am also a young mother. I am 22 and have a 2 1/2 year old and am currently pregnant with my 2nd. I am in a good situation and have plenty of help. I had a really good experience with the doctor I had with my first born. With this pregnancy I have different insurance so I have a different doctor and the first one I was assigned to was extremely rude and talked down to me and my boyfriend. I know you have a lot of judgement on you being a young mother but you gain respect from others on how you present yourself. You are the one who is pregnant and you need to feel comfortable with your doctor. I switched as soon as I felt uncomfortable and I have a doctor I really like. Its hard to get respect as a young mother but the best advice I can give you is switch doctors or stick up for yourself so your doctor knows you are not just a young kid you are ready for this. Best of luck and congrats!

[Abfsmomma]

That's what I said to my fiance! He always goes with me and sits in the room with me while I get checked out. I just really dislike her! She said it was painful because I have a uti but it shouldn't have hurt THAT bad. I honestly felt like she was ripping me down there. After the exam it hurt me to walk..that's how rough she is.

[tiny321]

Me personally I would just talk to her and telll her how I feel

[MamaBear0612]

Get somebody to go with you and maybe she'll at least be more conscious of her actions...I hope. I don't think I'd give up prenatal care that late in the pregnancy; Lesley27 is right, you're almost there so try to just hang in there. Once your baby is here safe and sound you can forget all about her.

[Ana_87]

Ehhh just stop seeing her...just go to the hostipal whenever yu feel contractions or when yur water breaks..that's bad that she still continued as yu cried..it shouldn't hurt till the point that yur crying..

[Abfsmomma]

I definitely won't go back to this doctor! She even caused me pain at the last exam she did and when I started crying she continued! I just feel like she doesn't care about my physical discomfort or me in general. I'm actually dreading seeing her again because I know she isn't gentle when she examines me and checks my cervix.

[Ana_87]

When I was pregnant with my first my doctor always did that...I was a teenager and she always use to get me angry!!! Never again did I go back to her..hang in there and goodluck...

[Lesley27]

Some Drs can be like that... just keep reminding yourself that your almost done with her, as i agree you dont want to tick her off this close to labour... yes its not fair to be treated like that but like you said it is kinda too far along to switch at this point... and before you know it you will have your baby... thats a great goal to reach! hang in there!