TMI I am sure, but I want your opinions!

[mommyoftwo28644]

As some of you probably know. I has my LMP on 3/15 and AF showed up on 5/8. Well when I went to the doctor on 4/28 he told me that it was possible that I was pregnant and the HCG levels werent high enough to show in a HPT and that he wanted to wait two weeks before drawing blood. He also said that if I was pregnant it might be a eptopic. Well usually my AF only lasts 4 days this time its almost a week and been very heavy and lots of clots. The day before AF showed up I had lower back pain and my right shoulder was hurting along with some nausea and cramps. My mother said that when she had her mc that she knew she was pregnant and it wouldn't show up the same. I honestly thought I was pregnant. Does this sound to you like it was a MC or Eptopic or just like a late AF. Thanks! Hoping for Baby # 3.
Sending Baby Dust to all of the TTC'ers and GL to all the mommys to be! Hugs :o)

[mommyoftwo28644]

My doctor is old fashioned and he didnt want to do it unless it was necessary. He told me not to worry and that if I wasn't if we were TTC we could again. My back still hurts some and I still have some cramps but other than that I feel ok now. Honestly thats what I thought as well, but I guess since he didn't do blood work I will never know. I really feel like I was pregnant and had most of the symptoms except the postive test. Either way I hope that baby three is in my future and if not, I do have two beautiful children.

[evthing4reason]

The lr back pain and pain up your sholder would have me concerned--it rings a bell, I think i have read somewhere that that can be symptoms of a ectopic. Where it was long and heavier then normal i would suspect maybe you had a miscarriage, Can you get the Dr to do some bloodwork?

[mommyoftwo28644]

If I would have ovulated late, that would explain the symptoms. But its all confusing. I didn't take a test for two weeks, I just didn't want to get my hopes up. So who knows!

The test today was negative. What do you think? Was it just a late AF... which never happens? Or a MC?

[spade22]

It typically takes about 2 weeks for HCG to show up on a HPT.  So, if possible conception was on April 6th you should have been able to detect pregnancy by April 28th.  Your doctor may have suggested an ectopic pregnancy as an option because HCG levels are typically quite low with this form of pregnancy which could explain a negative HPT but since you didnt experience severe one-sided pain (this pain happens as the pregnancy progresses) this seems very, very, unlikely in my opinion.  

Let us know the results of the HPT but also bare in mind that even if you were pregnant that may not necessarily give you a positive result at this point - its wont hurt to do the test though.

[mommyoftwo28644]

Thats what I thought about the eptopic but I wasn't sure since I know that I wasn't in alot of pain but it was that he brought it up.
We had unprotected sex on April 6 and again like in the 20th of april. I had all of the symptoms around that weekend and I thought it might be possible. They told me to come on in and see, since my other pregnancies put me on the high risk mark. I will do that, with the HPT.
I would like to know, the not knowing is bothering me. I have not been really sad about it, like  I probably should have been. Its the not knowing, my mother is a nurse and she thinks it was a mc. Just know would ease my mind and it wouldn't make me not want to TTC conceive #3. Thanks  

[spade22]

It definitely doesnt sound like an ectopic pregnancy (you would have been in a LOT of pain by this stage).

Its impossible to say if you had a MC or just a late pregnancy - when did you last have unprotected sex?  If you went to the doctor suspecting pregnancy on 4/28 I am guessing you think you may have conceived in earlish-mid April - if conception occurred closer to mid April then you could very well have been in the early stages of pregnancy at your doctors visit and still gotten a negative HPT result.  You may want to take a sensitive HPT at this time because "if" you did have a MC, there may still be HCG in your system and might be detectable.  

Think about this though - do you think it would be beneficial for you to know that you had a MC?  Will that change your future attempts at TTC?  Will it cause you a lof ot pain? Something worth thinking about.