loss at 16weeks

[andria123]

i was exactly 16 weeks pregnant,i felt some pain in my stomach i thoought i had an upset stomach so started to do some brisk walk bt when even tht dint help v decided to go to d hospital i went into d wash room before leavin 2 d hospital n felt some tiny white thing passing out along with lil water with which my stomach pain subsided.i was relieved bt now was wondering wht happend n suddely realised water gushing out without my control we rushed to d hospital 2 know the most shockin news of life the doc said my membranes had ruptured which leaded to water loss n i would deliver my baby any moment.. all this was v confusing coz none from my family had ever heard of something like this ever before v dint understan wht was happening. After some time the water leaking had stopped when i told this 2 d doc she said sometimes by nature the sc closes bt itself n in such a situation things can b ok. whn my water leaking had stopped i had a hope tht everything mow would b fine.i was kept in the hospital on iv's for 3 days. we were all confused as to wht was happening. my babys heartbeat was always normal bt the doc's said ther is nothing they can do. i was ina  very helpless situtation where my lil one wanted ot live bt i cud nothin to save him. on the 3 day evrything was going normal my baby had a very strong heart beat. the doctors were checking the heart beat 3 times a day n found a strong heart beat n even i had no sins of infection all my reports were nrmal. so now the docs decided to send me home instruting me to b on bed rest n they gave me sone anti biotics so tht my baby n me should b away from any infections. i was told things can now b fine n was asked to get myself testd every3 weeks for any infections till d end of my pregnancy. bt 3 days after i came home i realised some spotting  n was scared. v rushed back to the hospital n found that my baby had lready reached the vagina n ws due 4 delivery any moment. bt my baby still had a v strong heartbeat.the whole nite i was in the labour ward with no labour pains so the docs decided to induce me with pains the next morning. by the evening i startd with my lbaour pains n deliverd a live baby boy. bt d placenta still remained in inside so i was operated 4 it urgetly. by the time my i was out of the o.t n saw my son he was no more....i was all shattered dint kno how to react...my son was a real strong hero..he dint give up even till the end n came live to me bt i could do nothing o keeep him alive...god made me so help less. now i feel i want my baby as soon as possible i miss him so much..cant forget his innocent face ever...i know he is goona come back to me....
just wanna kno how much time do i have to wait before i concieve again? how much time does the body need to recover? wht should b the ideal time to concieve after all this so tht it wont lead to any complicatons??? some one pls help me..

[lisa1905]

I am so sorry for ur loss , it is really hard I lost a twin about 7 month ago , when they came out , they were dead , but I conceive 4 month later , let ur body to adjust first and try again , u will get preg really soon after mc, take care urself

[andria123]

well the doc who i was regularly visiting during my pregnancy told me the sooner i conceive the better... bt her collegue who operated me for the placenta asked me to wait for 2 regular cycles before i conceive. well me scan shows no retains of this pregnancy nd my uterus is clean from all the conception retains as there was a d&c performed when i was operated for the placenta.while surfing the net also i found some sites suggesting early conception as the body gets very fertile after a miscarried delivery while some other sites say some gap is required..

i am really confused..... pls help


guy pls help i want a baby asa soon as possi unless its harmful...

[mumsy1977]

first of all im soo very sorry for you loss hunny thats such a sad story x RIP LITTLE MAN
secondly i really wouldnt like to say as you had an op so i assume it wil take a little longer to heal your best off speaking with your consultant and finding out for real i just want to say time is a great healer and i wish you all the luck in the world for the future XXX