lost the baby, having suction d&c this afternoon

[foreverpoppy9]

Today I was 9w3d pregnant, had an u/s and there was no heartbeat. They believe the baby died two weeks ago. I have not had any spotting/bleeding so I"m having a suction d&c this afternoon...i don't know what to do, im numb. this was my 4th pregnancy and we have 1 beautiful daughter, 3 miscarriages.  Why us again!?!?!? Seriously again!?! Hasn't our family been through enuogh with my dad's cancer and then when we all have something to look forward to it comes crashing down again. what the F**K! I"m so angry and sad and fustrated...now what? I"m an OR nurse and do suction d&c's all the time but what do i expect after? will i be crappy? will i bleed a lot? any info would help!

thanks

[sav1987]

I had my d and c on 8th January had no period after it , got pregnant again, had a scan on 10th march saw baby with hb 7 weeks 2 days but for some reason wrote down as 7wk1day lol

[Eileenre]

Honey the only advise that I can give you is that keep a positive mind  and trust God and yourself next time...dont even worry for your past .....If  get  pregna again ( that is 100 % probably ) dont thing about miscarriges anymore...this is my first pregnancy and at first I was woory about that, but you know what I stop looking my paper tolet after I wipe because Ibelieve that I will have this baby no matter what. .Dont blame nothing ..just be strong and everything is going to be fine. I wish you my best... good luck.

[PetiteWonder]

mine came 6 weeks after my d&c but i had the retained product.. it was 4 weeks after i passed that....  i waited 3 cycles to try again and got pregnant during my 3rd month of trying

[foreverpoppy9]

hi ladies.
i had my d&c at 130 yesterday and was home around 530. It was slow to wake up (i'm a light weight for meds)  I had the sugery at the place I worked so I was able to ask certain people to be in the room, so i was more comfortable. I have an awesome work group that are so supportive, i couldn't ask for better. I had a lot of cramping in recover but after a ton of meds that zonked me out I was good. I've only had a little spotting thus far and i'm 24hrs + out of surgery.  Is that normal or will the bleeding pick up? Also when did you get a next period roughly? did it take a couple weeks , month? ??

i belive that most people say you are suppose to wait 2 cycles to try again but should I listen to that? I ask b/c I had a miscarriage before i had my daughter and we tried the very next cylce and got pregnant and have a beautiful daughter from it. i think people say you are more fertile after a miscariage as well??? thoughts??

[PetiteWonder]

When I had my suction d&c... .I went into OR and was in recovery 15 minutes later....  I had some bleeding but very little pain.. I was prescribed no pain meds....  a week and a half after my d&c,  i started passing clots and got really painful cramps.. I passed this giant clot then in a panic, went to the ER... uterus was empty at that point...  I stopped bleeding the next day... I had some retained product that i passed naturally but overall it was a good experience...

[sav1987]

U do the suction d and c yourself at work least u will know what to expect within the operation and maybe know the people doing it, i was a nervous wreck not knowing what to expect and scared something would go wrong and I've never had an operation and been put to sleep so was frightened i would not wake up but all went well and happy i chose the d and c