miscarriage or not?!

[hudsonmommy1321]

I am having a difficult time right now. i am supposed to be 8wks and 2days today. i started bleeding and cramping last thursday and went to the ER. everything confirmed that i am pregnant, but the u/s showed only 5wks and my hcg levels were only 496. the ER dr told me that i was having a threatened miscarriage and put me on bedrest for 2wks but told me to see my OBGYN in 4-5days. i have an appnt today at 1:45pm and i am terrified of what i might see or hear. or not hear for that matter. this is my 3rd child and i have never had a miscarriage before. my husband and i actually planned this pregnancy while my other 2 boys were not planned. why would this happen when i want it so bad? does anyone have any words of encouragement or have been thru a similar situation?

[hudsonmommy1321]

Hi everyone,
Thanks for everyones care and support. I had my D&C today and I couldn't feel more empty inside than I do at this very moment. I am an emotional wreck. I cried going into surgery and coming out. I am in a tremendous amount of pain as my Dr said I would be for the first 24hrs anyway. I am hoping the pain subsides, but I can't help but think of my precious lil one who is now in heaven. It has kept me in a depression mode for the past 2wks and now knowing that there's nothing inside me anymore just makes it even worse. I am going to try again for another baby in the future, but I don't know how soon that will be. I think I need some time to put my heart back together before I try creating another life again. I don't want a repeat miscarriage. I do have a question tho, how soon after a miscarriage has anyone gotten pregnant and had a successful pregnancy? I have heard that some got pregnant immediately following their miscarriage as soon as 1wk later. Some have been 2wks or longer. I just want to know if it did happen sooner what are the chances?!

[naan84]

im so sorry for what you have experienced. if you need someone to talk to feel free to message me. i am going through a similar experience right now, i was told on tuesday that i had a missed miscarriage and have a d&c tomorrow aswell. while our experiences have their differences i can relate to what you may be feeling.

[purestlove]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.  

[hudsonmommy1321]

I know you all are wondering how my Dr appnt went. Well, I went in and he said we are going to go ahead and schedule the D&C. I again broke down into tears cuz I just could not hold it in. This is by far the hardest feeling to experience and not what I intended to happen at all. Surgery is scheduled for 12pm noon tomorrow. I am scared, but I guess it's something I just have to get passed. By the way, the lab nurse lied to me telling me my levels had gone down too 100 and there's no hope at all when they're that low. But my Dr showed me the lab reports it was down but only to 225. Although, it still indicates miscarriage I just wanted the truth. Every number counts is what I was hoping. Either way, sadly to say I won't be pregnant after tomorrow. :"( Thank you all for your responses. Please keep in touch. If any of you would like to keep close touch to kind of help guide me through my grief I would greatly appreciate it. You can email me at mi_lil_hunter2006***@**** Thanks!

[louisekirby]

im so sorry this happened to u i wish u all the best. and i just hope when your ready to try again it will all work out for u x x

[1220LilMama]

I went through the same scare this past weekend. I started spotting and cramping. I freaked out because this is my second pregnancy, and the first ended in a miscarriage. I won't tell you anything like, if it's meant to be it'll be, because I know how discouraging that is. I will tell you to have a little faith. Get some paper and a pen and just start writing everything you're feeling so you're not holding it all in. My mom told me that when she found out she was pregnant with me, she was already two months. She didn't believe the doctors because she had a period both months. I'll say a prayer that everything works out for you and your baby.

[kaalaharvey]

Things will get better. Hard to believe, I know. It will get easier for you. I had two miscarriages and then a daughter that was stillborn. So I know all too well what you are experiencing. I now have an 18 month old daughter and I am 10w 6d pregnant again. It will get better. Give yourself time to grieve and then get back to daily routines as soon as you can. It will help with the healing process. I know it sounds a bit harsh to just get back to a daily routine after all your hope has been lost, but it worked beat for me to do that. So that's my advice... I am sorry that you are having to experience this but know that God doesn't give you anything that you cannot handle and He won't ever leave you.

[LeandraMarie]

I know how u feel i had a miscarriage in may 2011 then i found out im pregnant in December 2011 and now im 24 weeks with a healthy 1.7lbs baby girl...the dr said ur chances of survival r greater after uve had a miscarriage i was so scared of losing rhis one i also have kidney reflux disease so getting pregnant carries a huge risk to bare...keep ur head up theres a reason for everything i suppose.

[KTowne]

So sorry for your loss hun! I wish you the best!!

[hansen20]

im so very sorry hun =(. i wish you had a better out come of this. my heart goes out to you sweetie.

[wifenmomto6]

Sorry (my phone is crazy). We had a misscarriage last Feb 2010. We were devastated. We were not trying to get pregnant again but we did immediately following the misscarriage. Our little girl is a year old and we are expecting again in July. I wanted to share that with u. I will keep u in my prayers. Best of luck to u. It can happen for u.

[Gabsmommy]

Did everything turn out okay?

[wifenmomto6]

Oh honey I am so sorry for Ur lost. My heart goes out to u. My husband and I had a misscarriage

[hudsonmommy1321]

Well the worst has been said today. Sorry I kept everyone waiting. My levels have gone down to 100 and I immediately broke down. I have a Dr appnt in the morning at 10:15am to see what we are gona do. This is the worst feeling in the world. I was hoping and praying for a miracle and didn't get it. I am trying to accept it and I just can't. My husband is hurt and there's nothing he can do to comfort me either, because I just simply can't let it go right now. It's gona affect me horribly and I don't know how soon I will want to try again. I am so scared of this happening again. I don't think I could handle losing another baby. Thanks for thinking of me and keeping my family in your prayers. It means alot to know there are ppl out there in the world no matter how you meet them who show care when it's needed. Thank you so much!

[wifenmomto6]

U have been on my mind all day. U and Ur family will be in my prayers.

[louisekirby]

i wish u all the best and hope ur babys is ok. good luck x

[hudsonmommy1321]

Well everyone...I get my next blood results today in about 2 more hours. I really hope my levels have gone up and everything is good. I have not bled or hurt in the past 4 days so hopefully a miracle has occurred and my baby will definitely be ok. I really hope I don't hear that one word from my Dr "SURGERY" I am terrified. Please keep me and my unborn baby in your thoughts and prayers. I could really use the support. Thanks so much!

[hudsonmommy1321]

Thanks everyone for all of your posts. I really do hope it all works out for my lil one. I have been tempted to go back to the ER, but I think I'm just going to wait it out and pray for a miracle. I have been doing alot of research lately since I found out I was pregnant on April 10th. Surprisingly, I have read about many women with Dr responses that there hcg levels have decreased to as low as 68 and rose back up over the next couple days. Some slowly rising and some doubling. I even read a few that were having the same symptoms I have and ending miscarrying a vanished twin. I am trying to think that there are many things this could be. Anything EXCEPT a failed pregnancy. With everything that I read so far, I don't think I even want a D&C done. I think I would rather let nature run its course and let my body do what it needs to do on its own. You never know what might actually happen. Thanks again for everyone's responses. Please continue to post and offer any advice you can. I am more than willing to accept it.

[stacey10]

if your hcg levels are dropping then that really isnt a good sign so I would be preparing myself for the not so good news but hoping for the best, it does sound abit like a blighted ovum, thats where a baby never develops,  usually once your hcg levels start to drop, thats signaling that something isnt right

[lpewitt44]

Well for peace of mind...i would go to the er again..they always do ultrasounds in the er....but food luck and I hope everything turns out to be just fine!!

[MamaBear0612]

There was no heartbeat at 5 weeks on ultrasound for me, no fetal pole or anything, just a sac. At 6 weeks it was there but from what I understand, not every woman hears it that early. If anything, it's the lowering bloodwork levels that sound not too good. Next time you go in, definitely request an ultrasoound, that would tell you a lot and once you hear the heartbeat the chance of miscarriage decrease significantly.

[searasmom]

I have 2kids and they were not planned. Plannned this 1 and had lost 1 at 12wk and then the next at 5. Preg again about 6wks now and scared. I feel ur pain. Its hard 2 loose sumthing u want soooo bad, but keep trying. I did my own research this time around and found tnat u have more chance of successful preg if u get preg after 1 cicle and waiting longer actually increases chance of it happening again. Asked my dr and she confirmed it. Hang in there. Its hard but it means there was something wrong w/fetus

[hudsonmommy1321]

I also wondered why my Dr couldn't just do an ultrasound yesterday to find out what's going on. I don't know why they just want tell me something or do something to find out.

[hudsonmommy1321]

They did an ultrasound last Thursday at the ER but said it only measured 5wks. But they just put me on bedrest and sent me home. They couldn't even tell me if there was a beating heart or anything. I know you are at least able to see the heart and blood pumping through the fetus at this point even at 5wks. I just hate waiting like this and in pain like I am.