General Baby Shower question..

[LauraB78]

So, I didn't really think anyone would throw me one to be honest.. BUT my sister is now talking about planning it! I am soo excited, but I have a few questions for you ladies.. She asked me for a list, then addresses, which is TOTALLY fine!! =)  I am just wondering how involved in the actual planning you ladies got?

Problem I am having is that my sister seemed offended when she asked ME what I wanted and I told her. She said "oh that sounds really different and fun!" But I could tell she was annoyed. Or maybe it is just me being sensitive. My personality doesn't "fit" a standard baby shower. There will be some men (and I LOVE football squares and football! so that and one other shower I went to is where I got the idea!), so I want to do a "football" pool type of squares betting thing so people can guess the date and time of birth & whoever is closest would win the money, and it is usually $5-10 to "guess." I told her NO GAMES.. I personally don't care for them and think they are lame... And ridiculous...

I also think there should be alcohol for those who want it.. This may not make me popular, but I think out of the 10 baby showers I have been to, only 1 was fun and it was unisex and at a pub/family dining place. It was soo fun, they had open bar and the football pool things.. I just think that baby showers have a tendency AND Reputation for being totally lame and that's why people don't go!!??

Let me know if you think I am totally selfish?

[JustMe0925]

I had a girl/boy babyshower.  I mean, it's my husband's baby too and he wanted to celebrate just as much I did.  I wanted him there and wouldn't have it any other way.  We BBQed, the ppl who wanted to play games did and the others just sat and watched and laughed.  My hubby was the one doing the baby food tasting and tasting what chocolate was in the diaper..it was actually really hilarious..he was just a lil tipsy too.

[pmperez]

I wanted to have a BBQ/Baby shower but my sister decided to throw me a shower which I think is really nice considering we dont get along that well and really dont spend anytime together at all..lol...All she asked me to do is get addresses, I offered some money and she said no so Im leaving it up to her

[ovaz129]

We plan on doing a eo-ed shower... some of my best friends from college are guys!!  I have to invite them :)  Funny you want to do the football squares... we are going to do the same thing!  I too am not into the traditional shower thing, so in my opinion, I say do what you want.  

In my case, if I did a traditional baby shower, people would think I was crazy!!!  My husband and I did a combined bachelor/bachelorette party, so we are not opposed to anything that skews from "tradition" :)

[jesslee83]

i think maybe the reason she is acting funny, is because when most women think baby-shower, they think pink and blue and yellow EVERYTHING, and NO MEN, and all these games(some fun, some not so much), and finger sandwhiches etc....

this is 2008 people, a good shower today takes place at a nice resteraunt(or da club lol-which i've so had to plan before), or in someones home, and the men are out back drinking beer cooking on the grill for the ladies.....games are tailored more to EVERYONE not just women, and if chris would do it, i'd sooo go for a unisex shower.....i mean, if women can sit around and talk about "this one day what happened was", imagine the stories you'd get from men, if they thought their wives wouldnt kill them lol(mostly from men who never tell mom what happened while she was gone!).....babies aren't just all about mommy anymore, it's about family, and if a co-ed shower is what you want, then do it.....i chose everyone on my list, and picked out the food, and i'm helping do the favors as well as decorate(well some of it), the night before, as we're having it outside at a pavillion.....i picked the cake, i picked the theme....wait, i picked the cake and icing, my mom is decorating the cake.....but i still picked the stuff for it....the only thing i DON'T get a say so in, is the danged "Mommie Mum"(which i sooo miss homecoming from way back in the day lol, so that won't be too bad)...if you're from texas, you know what that is, and my grandmother is making me some kind of hat with diapers lol....oh, and since homecoming is coming up extremely shortly, i'm making a "Nana-Mum" for my mom.....oh and we stole martika's(i think) idea for the diaper raffle lol.....


hey, my only question is, WTH do we wear? lol.....sad, huh? i'm guessing capri's and a top, but heck idk!!!

[JoyRenee]

I didn't help plan my baby showers and no one asked me who I wanted to invite. I didn't even pick a theme. 2 out of 3 showers I did not enjoy! They were really awkward. I was, however, asked about food and what I'd want.

The shower I enjoyed was a unisex shower and we did have some games. I've also helped plan unisex showers for friends. Guys don't typically want to come unless there is something that will entice them.

We did a betting game at the shower I did enjoy! We had a calendar page of my due month. People wrote down their name and AM/PM on the date they thought our daughter would arrive. The prize was a $25 to Macaroni Grill...

And guess who won.............. ME! I'm not joking. I put my name on the correct time of day on June 4th and that's when she was born! So DH and I had a wonderful gift card for our first date post-baby.

[Latrice414]

well I think your baby shower shud b how u want it. And they can b lame, most of the baby showers I went to was fun and different, I never thought I wud c stripers at a shower, one grl held hers at a club and had a section reserved, who wudve thought I wud b sayn I'm going to baby shower at 10 pm at the club LOL but it was different. It's yur day and memory so have yur input. My son is 13 I gave my first shower and I will give my self the rest if I choose to have more. Good luck

[krissyy]

yay!!!!  that is great news and will help you out SO much!  now you can enjoy the fun (and stress!) in registering!  showers are a wonderful way to celebrate and get excited over baby, and at the same time, helps out SOOOOOOOO much financially!  

i wasn't invovled in any of the planning.  my mom knows who my best friends are and invited them and my family.  i am guessing that my husband went thru my cardex and got the addresses for her that she needed.  it was a surprise shower.  and my mom knows me very well and had an idea of what i would like.  if they aren't doing a surprise (i'm guessing not since they live far away) then you can be as involved as you like, within reason.  i would supply them a list of the most important people to you, and be sure to let her know that you are very appreciative that she has thought to do this for you...  if you absolutely hate games, i think it's okay to tell her "no games please" and that will save her the time and expense of planning them.  i've been to showers where they do the "football poll" thing and it's actually a lot of fuN!  people really get into it.  plus, it will actually be easier on her part than the games would be.  if you feel like you are being too pushy--maybe emphasize your appreciation and just give her a few of your most important do's and don'ts.  unisex showers are TOTALLY different vibes than girly showers.  if she's never been to one before, giving her recommendations may be helpful.  ...just be careful about how you go about doing it.  try to be helpful and not demanding, and she won't be offended...but no matter what, don't call anything lame or make her feel bad for the work she has put into it afterwards.  it may not be exactly what you want, but it is wonderful that she is doing this for you because it's so helpful.  some people think registering is tacky, i think it's essential.  especially when having a baby--otherwise you will get a load of clothes that you end up returning.  so let her know where you plan to register and she will let your guests know...  

[mamaofonetrying42]

Well, for my 1st baby shower I had nothing to do with it ex. for making and sending out the invitions, thats it.\\

For my 2nd baby shower we didnt play any games, I think the football squ. thing is very cute!

We had alcohol at my baby shower(made it alittle more fun. LOL)
there is a game, where you put alcohol in a baby bottle and the 1st to drink it all, wins.....