Do you guys get the same reaction from doctors?

[Tiffhudson]

I swear my doctors ALWAYS judge me by my age. It's become very frustrating I'm 19 years old, and all doctors to is seem to complain to me that I'm "too young" and treat me like I'm 13 & pregnant. People do not know me or my circumstances or my maturity level they just see age. Does this happen to any of you young mothers? Or just anyone in the 18-21 age frame? Sorry I'm venting :(

[Tiffhudson]

Yeah thank you all for your comments! I guess it's just frustrating since I take my fiancé with me & they still treat me like poop! I'm actually not pregnant yet. we are trying but I have alot of issues with my cycle. But my doctors don't seem to take it seriously.

[Shaensx7556]

Most defiantly . Yesterday I basically felt like I was being called a liar by a nurse at te hospital for having contractions the day before and being seen at a different hospital . I feel mistreated by all drs almost .

[danika0913]

I got pregnant with my first at 18 and the docs did that to me as well. Treated me like i was young and dumb. Didn't even take my symptoms into consideration cuz i was young and didn't know. Well they should have cuz my problems were real and i almost died when i delivered since my symptoms were ignored for so long. Im now 23 and pregnant with my second and i don't have that problem anymore. They seem to listen to everything i have to say and never talk down to me.

[kmommy2b]

I havent gotten any reactions like this from any of my doctors or people who i have seen at clinics and support groups. i think its because i look a little older than my age (im 21). alot of times ive been asked how long my bf and i have been married which is funny bc we arent even engaged but i guess we give off a mature vibe or something? maybe the doctors just keep it professional? I wouldnt worry about them telling you youre too young, whats done is done and youre not the first or the last person youre age to have a baby so just stay positive and let your doctors do their jobs and dont stress over their opinions

[Fe411Fe]

I don't get judged by my midwife because she is young herself and she was telling me when she was in college 20 years old like me and she got pregnant and she was too far along and they found out the baby had no heartbeat. She had to deliver her still born baby and was telling me all about it and what not so she doesn't judge young mothers but what I do get are all the other people around who see me at the grocery store or Walmart or something. They stare and look to see if I'm married. One day I was checking out and this lady I could hear behind me say to her daughter "that's what poor choices looks like" I turned around told her I can hear everything she says and you do not know what I have been threw so why don't you think before you speak. She was beat red and super embarrassed.

[Berplus1]

Not so much age but weight!  "You know your overweight don't you?"    No crap dude and I'm sorry but I'm 6 feet tall I'm not gonna weigh 120 pounds like everyone else ok?  "Stop eating carbs". Um how bout I'm pregnant ill eat what I want doc!!!  

[DecemerMama]

I'm 18 and this is my first baby and I've raised straight out the hatch my brother because my mom got pregnant again and got injured and I hate when people or family members that don't support my pregnancy and my fiance and I and tell me its guna be hard or I messed up my life or treat me and talk to me like I know absolutley nothing about babies.

[torilouise11]

I guess i got lucky. I'm at 18 with my first. My first appt was a wreck. My boyfriend goes to every single appt with me. I'm white, he's black. I cant tell you how many looks we got in the waiting room. Not by the nurses but by the other woman waiting. So after that, i expected to get the same look from my doctor. Not at all. The nurses and doctors are so awesome and just great. They constantly have conversation with me and my boyfriend. They were not judgmental at all!

[Beckyboo6023]

When I had my first at 18 I was still in school. My doctor was so nice about it. When I needed a note saying why I was out out for the day he told me that it was none of their business why and just wrote a basic note. So I didn't have to explain to everyone. And now at 23.he treats me the same. he's good about treating everyone the same.

[MKristine]

*Also sorry for such a long answer.

[MKristine]

I'm 18 will be 19 in December (a little before my son gets here) and I felt like this at first, but after awhile they started talking to me more. The clinic I go to doesn't have a set doctor so sometimes I see the same one other times I may not. I see who's avalible. I'm 23+ weeks. I personally feel more confortable with a woman than I do a man, but that's me. At first I had a man and in my first visit he only spent about 5 maybe 10 minutes with me. All he said was that there was a clinic closer to my home. I appriciated his concideration, but I chose that one because that's the hospital I want to deliver at. I think it's the doctor and the person both having to play their part. I feel like my ultra sound tech judged me at first too, but now I'm totally confortable with her. I think it could also be the medical problems I've had in my past and durring this pregnancy. Before I got pregnant in Arpil I had a miscarrige in August the year before. (I honestly wasn't trying for a baby either time.) Then with this pregnancy I've had some bleeding and cramping that concerned me. I also have a weight problem where I havenn't gained much weight due to my past history of eating disorders. So I think my situation kind of opened up the doctors eyes when they saw how much stress I was under and the fact that this wasn't a planned pregnancy. I also feel that if the dad is with you, they judge you less. M fiance (and babys dad) has beed to all my appointments with me. I even brought my mom one time and his mom another. So I this it's the whole sistuation that we are under that we look at. Plus we're all SUPER hormonal and maybe a little emotional. But if you're not confortable with your doctor, I would switch to someone who you feel confortable with. You need to be okay and on good terms with they person who is helping you through your pregnancy and will be delivering you baby.

[Emi10172013]

Yeah I guess it depends on the doctor I'm 21 and 34+5 with my second pregnancy and I started going to my doctor at 19 with my first pregnancy and she treats me just the same as all of her other patients

[Ashley206664]

Yeah,  I'm 19 almost 20.  My husband is 23. Although,  I look much younger so I look like a 12 year old knocked up by an older guy. I'm married, financially stable,  also going to school.   I get stared at all the time-dirty looks a lot,  but not til recently I started getting compliments in public.  I've never had a problem at the doctors surprisingly,  I go to the military clinic though

[jimenez_4]

I understand how you feel, i had my first at 16, and at EVERY appointment, either a doctor or nurse would say..."so do you know who the dad is?" I was like uhhh yeah that would be the gentleman standing next to me that ive been with since i was 12. Im 20 now pregnant with our second, were married and very happy, and my new doctor has not said one thing about my age! If you are unhappy with your doctor i say switch!

[krissy1008]

My doctors aren't bad all treat me with respect. I was 21 when I got pregnant turned 22 in march and iI'm due September 26. II'm on medicaid so I had to go to local health department to confirm pregnancy to be approved. They wouldn't let my husband come back with me at first and when they did the lady told me I could go get my baby daddy or whatever you young people call it. I just said well I call him my husband were married and she shrugged her shoulders and said not common these days. People just assume things without knowing anything. We got married and then planned this baby.

[niinii]

I loved my doctor. I mean she did give me lots of advice, at first she asked me if I was still seeing the dad and I was like yea I'm married. Lol. After that she kind of treated me differently. I think they are just trying to help and tailor their help to us. I know it can be annoying but I just take the good and leave the bad. As for the abortion scheduling that is too much.

[maybay]

I guess I was lucky. I had my twins at 21, but I alsi was active duty Army. My dr was great, and as long as I folliwed her instructions she really cared.

[pandadew32]

I'm a young mom and I'm more understanding when it comes to doctors doing their jobs. Some of you I think are reading too far into things. Some of your stories happen to me and I don't think about it that way. Lmao.

[shyloveskai]

My doctor is amazing and treated me with respect with my first when i was 19 and this baby at age 22. I had an ultrasound tech talk down to me once with my first pregnancy and i never went back there again. You should change dr.s! :)

[amywagley]

I was 20 when I got pregnant turned 21 in June. I'm due October 31. When I made by first OB appointment she scheduled me for an abortion that I did not ask for or even bring up. They called me for my appointment confirmation and said your procedure tomorrow. I was like what procedure? They told me and I flipped out. She said she assumed because of my age. I was so offended. So I cussed her out for about 5 minutes. I had to find a new OB. But it all worked out cause the one I found is great.

[teregarcalva]

I Guess I got lucky with my pregnancies. I had my first when I was 16 but got pregnant at 15 and the doctor I had treated me with such respect. With this ppregnancy it's the same thing but I'm guessing they're use to seeing such young moms since it's an on base hospital. Regardless I believe age does not define a mother and your doctor should not judge you based upon your age.

[anm89]

I'm about to be 24 in a few days, i have a 4 year old and I'm 23 weeks 5 days pregnant. Everyone looks at me different. When my mom goes to the Dr with me, they talk to her instead of me. I've been married for 5 years and people still treat me like a child. I don't think it will ever end.

[Waywey47]

I'm not that young, im 24 but I look like I'm 18 so i know what youre talkin about.. I always get stared at whenever I go out..  Its annoying when people judge when they don't know anything.. Nosey people, but then again just be glad they're not part of your life and you'll probably never see them again lol  -_-

[dillonsmommy1228]

I guess its just the dr u go to mine is really young n hes amazing I'm 22 but look 15 but he treats me great... my mom had a problem with one of the drs n the office i go to when she was prego with my lil sister and that dr was a total pain kept tellin her everything was normal when my mom told her something.. i think my mom would know if it was normal she had already had 6 kids before..