NEED SOME ADVICE

[jc84]

ok i'm really confused as to what is going on with my girlfriend and her period. Long story short, she was on birth control for two years, went off it for a month (we didn't have sex then; just being safe), and then started back the next month. The period she had after going back on the pills lasted for 9 days and was very heavy, which was very unusual for her (her's are normally around 3 days.) She said it was probly due to her not having a period for 2 months. Anyhow, we had sex several times after her period, but we used a condom everytime and it never broke (I checked each one). Now, during this cycle, she had to go on antibiotics for one week bc of sickness. We did have sex during that time, but, like i said, we used a condom. She was supposed to start her period again the weekend after she stopped her antibiotics (she stopped them on a wednesday). We had sex that thursday and friday, and then friday night, she had some spot bleeding. It didn't last long however, and she didn't start her actual period until saturday night, and then stopped on tuesday (she also complained of the normal cramps and things she normally has during her period). She said it was a little bit light, but that the last time she had a really heavy period, the next one was very light.

My question is, could this just be spot bleeding from her birth control, considering that this is technically the second cycle since she has been back on it? Or could the spot bleeding be caused by the antibiotics? Or just an early sign of her period starting?

I worry about things to much, I know, but I'm scared she might be pregnant (even though we used a condom everytime, and I never "finished" inside of her). I mean, does that sound like implantation bleeding? The last time we had sex without a condom (and I did not "finish" that time either) was before her last period, and that one was eight days long, so I'm pretty sure that rules that time out.

Again, she said she wasn't late (and she said I didnt need to worry so much, bc she wasnt even worried about that at all.) I'm sorry it's so long, but I'm very stressed out here!! I would love any comments PLEASE HELP!!!

[martikadragoon]

it would most likely cause that. I think since you've used protection so much that your fine and it's just nerves/stress/meds affecting her. See if she gets her period on time this next month or in the next couple weeks. It can be light, even if it was heavy before because of the hormones.

[jc84]

Thank you for the advice. I really appreciate that. I def don't feel like we are ready for kids now at all so we are def being careful.

The reality is that there is so much going on in my girlfriends life right now, her period has got to be messed up somehow (considering that she was on/off/back on birth control, started bc without a period, had a very bad next period, had a mono flare up for a week, was on antibiotics the whole week, and then went back to the drama at work and ended up quiting her job. Now she's stressing about what shes going to do for work.)

Am I crazy or would that not make her have a light/messed up period?

p.s.---we did have sex while she was on the meds, but like always, with a condom and withdrawal method

[martikadragoon]

I think joy got my response too a T. lol, I think your a lucky guy and she's a lucky girl. Just be sure your ready when you do have a kid. If she's the one then thats awesome! I got married 2mo before my(and his) 19 bday and have been married to him now for 2 1/2yrs.

This is our first baby and I kept him well informed.(i'm going on 3 1/2mo)... but I think he didn't mind if I got pg even tho he threw a bit of a fit about it. We're 21 now, and I feel ready even tho we planned on having babies at 25.

So keep in mind, if you think she is the one, just make sure you wait a while before babies, and take a couple yrs. to yourselves. The 1st year or so is the hardest in a marriage/strong relationship.
(I think that by what you said about the dr's exam, she def. isn't pregnant. Sounds like she could also be a bearer of multiples if she had several mature folicles.)

My hubby used to be a "Duh" type of guy...about girl stuff, but hes willing to learn, and actually chimes in when I'm watching medical shows about girl stuff. He's learned alot and its a good thing. BTW at your age he def. knew like you do about condoms. Lots of guys dont.

If you have myspace and wanna talk sometime, feel free.. it's myspace.com.. /martikadragoon.

I couldnt put myspace and martikad. together cause medhelp would block it I do believe.

Cindie

[jc84]

Thank you! And i'm workin on the ring thing lol. Promise ring, yes. Other than that, can't afford right now lol. But she knows i'm going to!

[JoyRenee]

Well then awesome! Sounds like she needs to just get regulated and be consistent with her pills. Good luck and if she's the one, get her a ring *wink, wink*

[jc84]

Well, first of all, I think the hormone imbalance could be coming from her stopping and starting her birth control (and starting it without having her period). Does that make sense?

As for the results of the u/s, all they said was that she was ovulating. Apparently, the pains she was having were from that, and the doctor said it was perfectly normal for someone who hasn't ovulated in over two years to have pains like that the first time they ovulate again. Also, that showed that she wasn't pregnant. No idea about the hormone levels though.

And yes, I do believe she is being honest with me. I guess I can never know that for sure, but I am positive that she is.

I am in love with her. I really think she's the one :)

[jc84]

Well, first of all, I think the hormone imbalance could be coming from her stopping and starting her birth control (and starting it without having her period). Does that make sense?

As for the results of the u/s, all they said was that she was ovulating. Apparently, the pains she was having were from that, and the doctor said it was perfectly normal for someone who hasn't ovulated in over two years to have pains like that the first time they ovulate again. Also, that showed that she wasn't pregnant. No idea about the hormone levels though.

And yes, I do believe she is being honest with me. I guess I can never know that for sure, but I am positive that she is.

I am in love with her. I really think she's the one :)

[JoyRenee]

Nah, I don't mind that you ask questions whatsoever. That is exactly why the message board is here and we're all here wanting to help (so do not worry about "bugging us"!!!). It seems to me, and this is purely my opinion, that your g/f has some reproductive issues. The irregular bleeding could be from a hormonal imbalance. You said she got an u/s but I never remembered the results??? Has she gotten her hormone levels checked? And do you believe she is being honest with you on everything?

I agree with martikadragoon that it is quite amazing that you go to so much trouble to find things out for your gf. You must truly love her!

[jc84]

Well, I'm only 19. But yes, I do like to be informed about all of this. It's something that I take very seriously. And, yes, I know exactly what types of guys you are talking about, and I am definetly not a "duhhh what's wrong?" guy lol.

But I must ask (because I worry way to much), did you have any comment to my post?

[jc84]

Honestly that is a very fair question. I am really sorry to keep bothering all of you with my worries. I am just the type of person that, well, worries ALOT. And I realize this; it's just my nature. And this topic is something that does worry me alot. Sorry again, but I swear I'm not making any of this up. I guess I just over analyze things.

[martikadragoon]

you know, I really like the fact that your informed. How old are you if it's ok to ask?

Ive always kept my now husband informed about stuff like that. It's great when a guys not like "duhhh what's wrong?" lol

[JoyRenee]

It seems every month you're worried about one thing or another? I'm not saying you're lying, whatsoever. But I'm just wondering why you keep getting so worried about pregnancy every month?

[jc84]

thank you very much. I really have ruled pregnancy out bc its just not possible (unless i have sperm that can fly).

And I was also thinking it could be this...

My girlfriend restarted her pills without waiting for her period to start. She started on a random day (tuesday i think) because she wanted to go ahead and get them in her system. To me, this had to have thrown her completely off schedule bc all recomendations say that you should wait for your period to start before you start the pills.

So could this be what is messing her up? starting the pills at a bad time?

[jc84]

thank you very much. I really have ruled pregnancy out bc its just not possible (unless i have sperm that can fly).

And I was also thinking it could be this...

My girlfriend restarted her pills without waiting for her period to start. She started on a random day (tuesday i think) because she wanted to go ahead and get them in her system. To me, this had to have thrown her completely off schedule bc all recomendations say that you should wait for your period to start before you start the pills.

So could this be what is messing her up? starting the pills at a bad time?

[sweetangel7]

Antibiotics shouldn't have caused spotting...it was probably the birth control...going on and then off that messed up her cycles.  I know you can get pregnant any time you have intercourse and I am sure that someone will have a completely different situation than what I am about to share BUT I am trying to give you a little piece of mind...I was on birth control for 10 years and several times was on antibiotics and used no other bc method and never got pregnant...currently my husband and I are trying to conceive-no bc, timing our intercourse so that it is at my highest level of fertility/ovulation and although we were told we are both fertile and capable, it hasn't happened for us just yet...try to relax it sounds like you really had all your 'bases' covered and in my opinion, pregnancy would be highly unlikely...Good luck!

[jc84]

I'm positive that the condom never broke. And she hasn't had any symptoms of pregnancy. I just worry alot. And I know that bc makes you have light periods anyway.

Does anyone know if the antibiotics could have caused the spotting though?

[loismwallace]

Going on and off the pill can cause some screwy stuff with your period. While nothing but abstinence is 100% safe, if you were using a condom and you know it didn't break and you were pulling out to boot, my bet is her cycle is just messed up from going off/on the pill.