No respect!

[angel_kisses92]

My bf and his family are heavy smokers and I can't stand smoke in the first place but now it bothers me really bad now that I'm pregnant and I don't want to be breathing it or smelling like it because it makes me sick but none of them will respect me and put the things out atleast while I'm around...I don't know what to do. I don't want to be mean but I'm fed up

[KristiGG]

Ya all that second hand smoke definitely isnt good for you or for baby.  And once baby is born it will be even worse.  And when they sleep they breath faster and will be inhaling even more second hand smoke.  I agree with Kirtz you need to get your bf on board.  And I agree with you talk to your doctor and ask him/her to talk to your bf.  Then do the same with a pediatrician.  Then just set a rule of no smoking in the house for the health of your kids.  I think that is a far rule that he has to just step outside.  I actually will cross the street if there is someone smoking and I am with my kids, it annoys my in laws and they arent even smokers.  We had a guy smoke right outside our apartment at one time, he would sit on the ledge of our balcony.  So my husband went out and "had a talk with him" bc it was hot but I could never open my windows as my son was just born.  This was the one thing I liked in Cali (well there is a lot I liked there) but if someone was smoking and saw kids coming they would put it out or move it so it wouldnt get in their face.  They didnt do it for other adults but they did it for kids which made me really respect them.

[angel_kisses92]

They smoke around their 4 yr old and he has breathing problems because of it but they still continue to smoke inside..and basically my bf don't think it's affecting the baby..I'm probably gonna bring this up at my next doctor's appt if just talking to him doesn't work

[kennimae]

Honestly I would just walk out as soon as they light one up but now when pregnant the smell makes me nauseas. I flat out asked my  mother in law to go out on the porch and if not to send someone out to come get me when the smell is gone.

[Channi7]

I Had This Same Problem With My Fiancé (Bf At The Time) With My Previous Pregnancy. He Thought I Was Being Dramatic When I Told Him It Made Me Feel Sick. Until I Threw Up All Over His Truck. Nxt Time They Smoke Around U Puke Everywhere Dnt Even Attempt To Make It To A Trashcan Or Restroom. Sounds Disgusting But TheY'll Never Smoke Around U Again ;)

[Kirtz]

Its kind of hard for them to respect  your wishes  if your bf is doing it as well. Because  they are his parents if he changed they would follow.  You first have to get him on your side and if that doesn't  work just distance yourself  once they start!

[angel_kisses92]

I'll try to sit down with them and talk about it...but the fact that they already know how I feel about it makes me think it will be pointless..but maybe not.. thanks for the advice :)

[JustNeedSupport]

Aw hun I'm so sorry . You need to sit them and let them know how it's effecting you and how you FEEL . If they love you, they will see how serious you are and compromise . If not for you, they should for the baby . And maybe they are ok bc they smoked all their lived but YOU didn't so it could effect you a totally different way with you being foreign to it

[angel_kisses92]

I would generally just avoid it but it's my bf and his dad and step mom...they are the most important of his family and want to see me and talk about their grandbaby and everything...everybodys excuse is "well I smoked all through my pregnancy and my kid is fine so you will be ok"

[JustNeedSupport]

You won't be being mean , you'll be assertive and thinking of your child's well being . Just talk to them, if they don't understand, talk to your doctor about it and see your options as far as staying away from those family members, going somewhere else, a meeting explaining the health risks that could help encourage the family to stop a bad habit, you'll never know what could work for you, just be open minded bc right now your priority is the baby :)