when is a good time?

[babymouse]

I'm 17. I got pregnant with my boyfriends kid when i was 14. i had a miscarraige. my mom knew about it, and she wasn't happy, obviously. She told me if i was 17 or 18, she would have let me keep it, but she wanted me to have an abortion, which i didn't want. Now, I'm pregnant, and the dad is a good friend of mine. He knows, and we're dealing with it. We have decided we're going to have it. I want to know when is a good time to tell my mother. Her & I have a close relationship, but I'm still scared. Can she make me have an abortion? That's what I'm afriad of. I know it's going to be hard, but i'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Any advice/suggestions?

[babymouse]

thank you so much.
i'm just worried that because the father and i are not together, he has a girlfriend, is only 18, and i'm 17, it will look bad.[By the way I live in th U.S.]
that's not how i see things at all. he is an amazing person with a beautiful heart. I've never met anyone like him. I thought he'd freak out when i told him, because he just got back with his ex of a few years. [She has decided to stand by him.] But he didn't freak out. He wasn't ecstatic, but he's dealt with it. He wants to be there for me every step of the way. He's a big emotional help right now. I want to have my baby. I'm excited. Of course i know it will be challenging, but it's a wonderful thing. Evrything happens for a reason. I'm just thinking about how my mom is going to see it.
A friend of mine told me I should buy my mom something that says''world's best grandma'' on it or something to that degree. I think it's cute, but I think I should be little bit more stable in my siuation to try and pull of anything like that. Do you have any suggestions on how to tell her? How did you tell your mom?

[royaltea63]

First of all ...........

She connot make you have an abortion... she has no right over you, after you are 16 years old ( in Canda anyway ) I dont know what country you are in.

If for some reason you are pushed into having an abortion tell the nurse in the room where you are. They are not alowed to do it without your concent. and there are ways they can help you. you are never alone in situations like this.

I was very scared to tell my parents too. I wasnt living at home i was about 5000 miles away near to an aunt who is my dads sister... I got up the courage to tell her and i used her phone to call my mum and i told her....It was shock and it took her about a week to be able to talk to me... she wasnt too keen on the idea but there is nothing that can be done about it.
I dont belive in Abortion so that was never an option to me or her.....Im keeping my baby id never think otherwise. it took a while be things are now good with us and she is suporting me 100%

If you've choosen to keep it aventully your gona have to tell people anyway...
Your gonna be a mum now so somethings are jsut gona have to be said...Its not easy but your not alone. Maybe there is a family member you could tell and have them go tell your mum with you!? ... or a sister or brother?

You've made a bigger decition to keep the baby thats brave... if you can do that you know you can talk to your mum.
Keep your head up :)