NO HEARTBEAT at 8 WEEKS. That's it???

[ADDIS007]

Hi there,
After giving birth to my boy and girl, I just been informed, on my third pregnacy, by my Dr that my fetus is 8 weeks old and that the U/S (both abdominal & vaginal) did not detect the heartbeat although the sac is visable and normal. Now the next hard thing is to accept this and go for the D&C. However, me and my husband want to really make sure that this is the case of an early miscarrage and should not wait for a week or so to see if there would be any change.
Please, share us your opinions and advise.
What is the experience of D&C?
Thanks & God bless you all!

[JoyRenee]

I would wait and see what happens. And if you are to miscarry it is better for your body to miscarry naturally rather than do a D&C. Wait, please wait!

[jenkaye21]

I'm so sorry you're going thru this.  If you want to wait and have another u/s to be sure, your doctor should be more than willing to let you do so.  There is usually no rush to have a d&c.  
I had a missed m/c in Dec. and had to have a d&c.  I was terrified but to be honest, the surgery itself was not too bad.  I was scared mainly of going under anesthesia, but I remember nothing... just  waking up and it was over.  I expected it to be extremely emotiuonal, but the day I found out was much much worse than the day of the d&c.  As far as recovery, I had NO pain--- never took a single pain pill--- and bled only for about 5 days.
Like lemenna, I have had a baby right after a m/c (a previous one), so I know and tell myself that things happen for a reason.  You will be okay.  Best wishes to you.

[Lemenna]

What Nikki describes is what they do for a laparoscopy for endometriosis which was not the same as the d&c I had for a missed m/c in my eigth week.  I have had both operations done.  The d&c was not nearly as invasive, but much more emotional.  They only went vaginally and they use a curretage which is similar to a little scoop to lightly scrape the contents of the uterus out.  It was not a good experience by any means and I am SO sorry if this is what happens.  It too was my third pregnancy, although it was my first pregnancy with my husband and happened 4 days before our wedding.  If you are not sure of the babies status I encourage you to wait.  Having the uncertainty would certainly stick with you.  Know that we are here for you no matter the outcome.  My only positive note is that I have a wonderful son since then that I would not have had if my situation would not have happened.  It was horrible, but the precious gift of him somehow made my heart heal.  Good luck to you.

[SunWorshiper_26]

If you feel in your heart you should wait than wait and see

[kellibubba]

I was in the same position as you. I had a 2 year old and when i went in for my first ultrasound with my second the baby measured at 9 + weeks. everything looked perfect but they were unable to find a HB. My Beta was dropping slowely and I went to have a D and C a week or so later..

The drs were sure that the pregnancy wasnt viable and that a d and c was my best option.

I am very sorry you have to go through this and i know how hardit will be. My actuall due date would be tomorrow for that angel baby and the only thing thats keeping me sain is that im pregnant again at 20 weeks.
trust the drs as they know whats best medical wise but always trust your own body. I nkow its hard and there will be times when u think u just cant go on but having kids brighten your day halps and you do heal when ever the right time is...

[caseyyy]

honestly i would get another doctors opinion...my cousin had the saem thing happen to her and she went to another doctor and they found a heartbeat...

[diamondintherough79]

Hi there,
I wasnt able to see my baby until almost 9 weeks after repetitive scans. I would suggest you wait as anything is possible. There is no reason you shouldnt be able to miscarry naturally if thats the case. ( I had also suffered a blighted ovum only 4 months before that pregnancy so they really thought nothing was going to develop). Anyhow, they were suggesting a D&C and I refused, thank the good lord! She is now almost a yr old.

[Nikki122]

Hey there, I'm so sorry to hear of the news...I can't imagine what your going through. Although I do not have an babies of my own, I'm trying though I'm 7 dpiui and have fingers crossed. Anyways I've had 3 D&C's because I've had endometriosis....and although it wasn't for a situation like yours I think the turn out would be similar if not the same. With me they made 3 tiny incisions 2 lower pubic bone area and one in the belly button, they also go in vaginally but no cutting or anything...they all healed up well with no problems. I only took it easy for about 3 days and then I was back to normal activity, my cycles ran so much more smooth after until the next one...I hope this helps!! Good luck if your trying again, and remember everything happens for a reason!!